Work relationship whether to continue or not 39.3 > 8

[Lola1986]

Hi all,

I've been working with someone on a freelance project for about 4 months. I found our working relationship difficult and stressful, but at the same time I would not have been able to do it without him (different skill sets etc...). In the end we didn't get the funding, so we are now at a point where we need to decide whether to try and complete the project anyway, or whether to just let it go. One of the thing that holds me back is the idea of working with him But it is, I'd say, our project, so I can't really just do it alone without him (he was very involved as well). And it is something close to both of our hearts.

So i asked the iching:

Please advise with regards working with X and making this thing:
39.3 > 8

I can't tell if this is return to working together and it will work out, union, or return to your former sate before you started working together because otherwise you will have a difficult time (as I did before!)

Any advise, or else perhaps suggestions for what else I could ask?

Many thanks

 

[kestrelw1ngs]

39, an obstacle, relating hex 8, a union.

39.3 reads to me as "turn to yourself" you are in a position to choose, to take leadership.

Fan Yao, 8.3 is about holding together with incompatible people out of false intimacy. You and your work partner are simply incompatible.

It seems like Yi might just be giving a picture of your situation.

I received this line when having problems working with an incompatible person also, whom however, down the road, we had to work together anyways out of necessity.
But I needed a breakdown of the current structure to "return" to my own center and stop focusing so much on our differences, find myself and approach in a more centered way, not trying to force compatibility but simply finish what we are doing together. Its not much fun but with an end in sight, and they have improved their end once I accepted their approach is not going to change, and relaxed my expectations.

When I browse the forums I see other questions receiving this line about relationships on hold, perspective shifts, etc.

8 has a lot to do with timing, state of mind so I'd say if you can pace the project, adjust your mindset it might turn out. But I would not expect it to be easy and fun.

Or it could be perhaps there is someone else the project could turn out with, you need only seek union with one who furthers it?

In your situation I might ask Yi for a picture of my feelings/relationship to the project itself. If it is very important to you, could be worth working with someone difficult.

Or you could ask what he contributes, what you contribute? Is it really so important and dear to his heart?
sometimes the incompatibilities come from lopsided investment/willingness/commitment.

 

[Lola1986]

39, an obstacle, relating hex 8, a union.

39.3 reads to me as "turn to yourself" you are in a position to choose, to take leadership.

Fan Yao, 8.3 is about holding together with incompatible people out of false intimacy. You and your work partner are simply incompatible.

It seems like Yi might just be giving a picture of your situation.

I received this line when having problems working with an incompatible person also, whom however, down the road, we had to work together anyways out of necessity.
But I needed a breakdown of the current structure to "return" to my own center and stop focusing so much on our differences, find myself and approach in a more centered way, not trying to force compatibility but simply finish what we are doing together. Its not much fun but with an end in sight, and they have improved their end once I accepted their approach is not going to change, and relaxed my expectations.

When I browse the forums I see other questions receiving this line about relationships on hold, perspective shifts, etc.

8 has a lot to do with timing, state of mind so I'd say if you can pace the project, adjust your mindset it might turn out. But I would not expect it to be easy and fun.

Or it could be perhaps there is someone else the project could turn out with, you need only seek union with one who furthers it?

In your situation I might ask Yi for a picture of my feelings/relationship to the project itself. If it is very important to you, could be worth working with someone difficult.

Or you could ask what he contributes, what you contribute? Is it really so important and dear to his heart?
sometimes the incompatibilities come from lopsided investment/willingness/commitment.

Wow, thanks for the very thoughtful reply. There are lots of things you touched on there which ring true to me, so I will do as you suggest and consult along those lines and see where I get to/meditate on how important the project is to me, whether it's worth continuing with given how hard I find him to work with etc...
And indeed it might well be that it is best to rest for now as we are doing while I get back to myself so that if we do, or I do, decide to go ahead, then I'm doing so from a centered place with different expectations since I am now aware of the reality of what it's like to work with him.

Many thanks
: )

 

[Ana Maria]

Lola, be careful with language here and with reading too much into Fan Yao - bc the corresponding line 8.3 gives you the other side or reflection of question. it can be the opposite or a reversal or a mirror-image. You received 39.3 not 8.3 and to a question that may have been formulated as yes/no.

This means, IMO, that you are seeking a union/partnership/project/goal (8) to which there is a challenge, an obstruction (39) though maybe only temporary. You're 'limping' but you can still move, right?

Please note that the language used in the Image / Judgement should be meditated upon (for e.g. the SW is advantageous, meaning 'find places where you have support/friends/allies/structures'). However, you received only 1 changing line and that's the main point of focus.

Another aspect of the language of the Yi is that "going" tends to mean departing, separating, dissolving, disconnecting (or when asked about oneself, it's about being un-grounded, dis-centred) whereas "coming" tends to mean uniting, partnering, approaching (or grounding, centring, consolidating oneself). "Difficulties in going" could underline the idea that departures/splits/dissolutions from whatever was/is there (when you asked the Q) may bring you difficulties - it's as simple as that. It may be at a very small scale (a minor, initial upset) or a bigger one depending on the relationship that you're inquiring about. Reading too much or too deep or too broad can give you miscellaneous senses of direction.

Ultimately, only YOU know what's the right answer for you given your situation. Hope this helps