Worried about what this hex is saying 58.3.5>34

[hellomoon]

I feel like I get what this hexagram is saying, intuitively as well. Sorry for sounding like a broken record about my relationship questions lately *smiles embarrassingly* . I wasn't going to post it publicly, but I am a bit worried so I want a second opinion.I asked why hasn't my partner verbally expressed his feelings for me? Well, we are in a stable relationship two years now, happy, I really can't complain; he does show his love; he is loyal, honest, genuinely cares for me. But perhaps he isn't the type to be verbal with his feelings and emotions like I am! I got hexagram 58.3.5 changing to line 34. I am worried because I feel this hex 58.5 is pretty negative; talks about trusting someone who probably isn't sincere to you. However, I started thinking could it be possibly my partner is afraid to open up because he may feel rejected? Our relationship's future is up in the air as I may move abroad for a job; we are very career oriented people. So that said, I wonder if he does want to judging alone by hexagram 58 but he is hesitant perhaps because he may feel I don't feel the same? Or another thought he wants to open but he wants to make sure first I feel the same thing he does?

 

[equinox]

To me your result is saying that you indulge too much in negative delusions about your relationship.
Most certainly not your boyfriend is the one who is not trustworthy but your fearful thoughts.
This kind of pessimism can be so powerful (34) that it could indeed poison your relationship, so better work on your trust.

 

[hellomoon]

Thank you for your reply! Yes, I can totally see your interpretation. So its my fearful thoughts that are the challenge not my boyfriend? Yes, I agree I can certainly sabotage my relationship if I am too negative.

 

[equinox]

Yes, this is what I believe. Maybe you should trust the I-Ching a bit more if you want to make use of it. You asked a few days ago about the feelings of your boyfriend and received a most auspicous result

 

[hellomoon]

Yes black milk! It is true...I think the I ching is probably telling me to chill out and trust him...I do, I just need to hear words, sweet words. He does cook for me, take me out, things like that...