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Liselle

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I can't figure out how to phrase a question. I don't want to ask it badly and end up with (yet another) answer I don't understand.

The background is this:

An important event is scheduled to occur on a certain date within the next few weeks. My attendance at the event is not required, although I think I ought to be there, and I would like to be. It would require me to do a lot of planning and preparation.

The event itself has gone through a number of stages. I've asked Yi some questions about my potential involvement, and have gotten answers which sounded mostly like "don't worry about it."

I kind of expected to hear that the event was not going to occur (either at all, or, at least, not any time soon) but then the date was actually set.

As I said, my own perspective is that if I wasn't there, it would be like not attending your sister's wedding or your boss's retirement dinner (it's neither of those things, but it's a major event). It is likely that the other people involved don't expect me to come. Whether they would like me to come may or may not be a different matter - I don't know what their innermost wishes are; I could see it either way.

I've been wondering if the reason I've gotten strange readings is because the event really won't happen after all, despite the date being set. I want to ask Yi that. But I'm stuck - how do I ask?

"Will it be postponed / cancelled?" - we're not supposed to ask yes/no questions.

"How likely it will be postponed / cancelled?" - still pretty much a yes/no question.

"Why have you been telling me not to worry about this?" - assumes that is actually what Yi was saying in the previous readings. It sounded like that to me, but mostly I didn't understand them at all. Also, when I ask Yi to explain previous readings I rarely get anything that makes sense to me.

Does anyone have a suggestion?
 
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When it comes to "should I or shouldn't I?" scenarios, I like to do two readings. In your case, one for "what kind of experience might arise if I prepare for this?" and another, "what kind of experience might I have by not attending?". you can phrase it to be more specific to whatever goals/desires or worries you may have, but I find establishing a comparison for the two different choices allows you to decide which is more beneficial to yourself.
 
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How about "What do I need to know about ____ ?" "How should I prepare for ____?" You could share your previous readings here. Crossed posts... yes I agree, "What if I attend ____?" "What if I do not attend ____ ?"
 

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When it comes to "should I or shouldn't I?" scenarios, I like to do two readings.

Yes...that's a perfectly good idea, of course...but my problem isn't so much going or not going as it is figuring out why Yi has been telling me not to worry about it. That advice seems to leapfrog the entire notion of going. (Of course, I could be completely wrong about that to begin with :(.)

This was probably not a good thing to post here. I'd already done a bunch of readings, and I can't (won't) post them all on this forum (egads). But, it's not reasonable to jump into the middle of something, either.

How about "What do I need to know about ____ ?" "How should I prepare for ____?" You could share your previous readings here. Crossed posts... yes I agree, "What if I attend ____?" "What if I do not attend ____ ?"

Blue Angel - just saw your response before posting, thank you - and yes, those are good suggestions.

The more I think about this, after seeing that you both have similar ideas, maybe I should set aside the specific confusion I think I have and just ask something more general. "What do I need to know about ___?" might be good, or as you're both saying, a question pair like "What if I attend / what if I don't attend?"

Unless I've already asked those, and am still confused :weep:. Maybe I should start by going over the previous questions one more time, in hopes that something will click...
 

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...maybe I should set aside the specific confusion I think I have and just ask something more general. "What do I need to know about ___?" might be good

"What do I need to know about me attending ___?"

63.5 > 36

"The neighbour in the East slaughters oxen.
Not like the Western neighbour's summer offering,
Truly accepting their blessing."
(from Hilary Barrett's book)

Well...it seems to be saying don't attend (since attending would require an elaborate to-do - the ox-slaughtering), and just send my best wishes?

I have very VERY VERY mixed feelings about this. But if that is what Yi is saying, maybe it also means that it really will be okay with the other people?

Thank you both for your help :hugs:.
 
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Well... it seems you don't really want to go? I think Yi may be saying "you can go or you can not go, either will be ok, as long as you are sincere." This line to me is like, it's not how big or small the efforts you make are, its the sincerity, the effort, the thought that counts, so to speak.
 
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Lisa,

In such cases, I typically generalize with, "about xyz?"

I think you've already made up your mind (63). Now it's a question of justification and pleasing or possibly displeasing others, which line 5 speaks to - not saying yes or no but leaving it for you to determine. What it does provide is a priority to consider. 36 would mean to hide your light whether you go or don't go, same as line 5 can be interpreted.
 

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In the context of the situation, I'm pretty sure 63.5 > 36 is saying it's okay for me to not undertake what would be necessary for me to attend.

My mixed feelings are because I think I ought to attend - as I said, not attending is something like not going to your beloved sister's wedding; it's almost unimaginable. I do want to be there. If I could teleport myself back and forth like on Star Trek, there is no question I'd go.

I guess I was hoping Yi would say that things would somehow resolve themselves so that getting there would be more possible. But it's not saying that. It's also not saying it's crucial for me to get there no matter what, which it could say, so...

I don't know what to think. It all just makes me REALLY REALLY unhappy.

But thank you all for your help. I do think I got a clear answer by asking the sort of question you all recommended.

I'll just have to content myself with knowing that my attendance is not required, and very possibly not even expected, and then try to offer what presence I can without actually being present.

Thank you, everyone :hugs:. It did help to discuss it.
 

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*spams own thread*

I just asked an angsty "question" of Yi, saying, essentially, that while I think I know what 63.5>36 means, and I can rationalize in various ways not attending, the basic situation doesn't make sense to me. (The basic situation being simply that (a) a major event is occurring, and (b) I won't be there for it.)

Yi answered with 39.6 > 53:

"Going on, limping; coming back, mastery.
Good fortune. Fruitful to see a great person."
(from Hilary's book)

I took this to mean stop going down this path (of wailing, gnashing my teeth, feeling terrible, and
asking yet more questions), and trust the reading I got (that is, the "great person" is Yi, in this case).
 

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