I took this to mean that I already have what I need (friends/poessions/happiness) so a relationship might not be in the cards for me. Can someone verify if I'm on the right track?

Your question assumes that the right person can be "found;" that is, by searching, and I'm not sure that's how it works. Did you really get every line moving in hex 8? That's amazing!

I did get hex 8 with every line changing to 14

The way I phrased the question may have been reflecting my hope that there is someone for me but perhaps the question itself wasn't that good since no one else has commented on it.

bmiller107 said:

I took this to mean that I already have what I need (friends/poessions/happiness) so a relationship might not be in the cards for me. Can someone verify if I'm on the right track?

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The above sentence is a little confusing and maybe that's what's putting people off.

In recent years, have you done a lot of searching and meeting of all kinds of people, maybe through a dating service or through personal ads, with a view towards finding the right person for you?

I haven't been actively searching for someone. A year ago I tried Internet dating for about a month but felt discouraged after a few dates with people that weren't right for me or vice versa. The main things I do personally are work, exercise and see live music. I don't believe in dating people who work with you nor those who go to the same gym (not a good situation if there's a breakup). There literally are no appropriate people to date at the types of places where I see bands play since I go to dive bars. Hope that helps to clarify.

Also, not sure how to add "thanks" on here, but just wanted to say "thanks."

Hello bmiller107,

I think that the Yi is telling you that there isn't one single reason why you can't "find" the right person, so instead of a straight answer to your question you got this multifaceted reading. With all your lines changing, you can look at this from several different angles.

Line 3, for instance, is saying that you are not socialising with the "right" people, so there is no chance that you will meet the "right" person for you (whatever your idea of what a "right" person is). But you know that anyway, as you mentioned it in your post.

Line 5 is telling that you cannot really "find" a person, it is not like that you make a decision about someone thinking "all right, this is the person" and the problem is solved. You need to allow people to come to you, attracted by your personality, qualities, lifestyle, and so on.

Line 6 indicates that even though you want someone in your life your idea of how to find the person is based on a wrong premise, so you need to re-think this aspect of your life.

Hope that helps a bit.:bows:

Why can't I find the right person?
8 > 14

I understand hexagram 8 as the awarding of property taken in the war of hexagram 7. And 14 is about property too, so both together suggest that a financial concern is what is keeping you from finding the right person. Courtship can be expensive, but it is a needful and desirable expense.

Mirian

I think your insight is probably more accurate in this instance since, although I'm not in the "top 1%" or anything like that, I am financially stable and would have enough money to be able to date someone.

Thank both you and Pocosin for taking a shot at this

bmiller107 said:

I took this to mean that I already have what I need (friends/poessions/happiness) so a relationship might not be in the cards for me. Can someone verify if I'm on the right track?

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This was my thought (too) before even opening the link to this thread, by your question and answer, and your response to it. The way it presented itself to me was: Why do you need this right person, and why the assumption that this time of your life is entitled to that, or that it is what is best for you?

It is strange as in your question or the way you write and ask, i can not feel any passion. It sounds as if i ask: there is no Ferrari in the cards for me, isn´t it? (I don´t care about cars and Ferraris and it is very unlikely i ever get one or someone buys me one as a gift...)

Hex. 8 consists of Trigramme Water above the Earth. Water as a symbol of Emotions as well drains into the indifferent Earth..

Why not ask a more specific question, sth. like 'what kind of girl/guy matches me best in a (sexual) relationship?'

I might be wrong but I would suggest this:

Don't focus on finding the 'right' person (emphasis on the word 'right'). I suppose that what you want is to find a person you will form a long-term relationship with. When you do, this will be the right person.

One thought that came to my mind when I read your answer was that you didn't get hexagram 31, which would suggest that something goes wrong in the wooing process. You got hexagram 8, which I regard as a hexagram that gives excellent advice about the next step, the way relationships are actually formed.

The judgement of hexagram 8 is quite lengthy but it spells out the rules of succeeding (or ther reasons for failing) in forming a relationship. I think it is worth studying each sentence in depth, leave nothing out and then see the whole picture. Wilhelm's rendering and explanation of the Judgement is very illuminating, I find.

But you also got all lines moving. To me it seems as if the Yi is saying to you: "Look, this is how relationships are formed" but take heed of these six important points as well.

I think it is well worth delving in different sources (translations and threads here in the forum) and spending the time to reflect on what all these renderings/ideas mean to you. I think you will find at least some things that resonate with you and you will come to understand how you function regarding the issue in question. I mean you will recognize yourself in a lot that the Yi has to say. And then you can take it from there; see what needs changing or enhancing or whatever. I think this reading calls for weeks of trying to understand it and working on it. (Maybe it's just me though since I now tend to spend whole weeks with a reading that addresses an important question; this provides me with rich insight but at the expense of shortcuts I must admit.)

Just a suggestion, hope it helps a little.

el_2

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All the person are not perfect their must be some deficiency.So you don't get you ideal match you have to sacrifice on some things than you get your partner.And after that you can cover all his deficiencies that help you to live a successful life.

A Little Support

I know this is very late but as they say, better late than never. I just wanted to offer my support. I believe you are very right to ask this question and I am sorry that you were more than a little denigrated about the perfectly natural desire to want a life-partner. Most of the threads on this forum are about love, seeking love and resolving love-related issues. There’s no remedy for what you went through after you had the courage to post this question. May God comfort you for all you’re going through and I hope He sends you an absolutely amazing love-match, and fulfillment beyond your wildest desires.