Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).
So since I've been back it's been ok but we've sometimes squabbled a bit on the phone. I've been really stressed over my current situation of facing homelessness (https://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/friends/showthread.php?24310-Facing-homelessness-6-2-4-gt-20) & also was suppose to start a course in a niche area of physical fitness but & had just found out my foot is broken after walking round on it in pain for over 2mths so have had to cancel the whole thing. I am on complete immobility treatment for a while which for me as an extremely active person & a single parent was a real blow, & the final straw so to speak. So I have been extremely down, over reacting to things constantly & I would imagine very hard to listen to, especially for someone in such a highly depressive state.
It all came to a head over the space of a few days while I was in this down mindset; I felt completely unsupported so called him out on it, asking why he hadn't offered to come help me (I was barely able to shuffle around my house & was miserable) when I have always been there for him. Somehow we got talking about future plans, which escalated with him saying he didn't know if he saw a long term future together with me, I lost it with him asking why the hell would he ask me to be in a relationship with him if he knew all he wanted was casual, it was insulting & wasting my time, & then he said he retracted asking me out! I was shocked & appalled! How could you tell someone you were in love with them, expect them to be in an exclusive relationship & fly to another country with your child to see him for something casual, no intent of anything long term? I felt very hurt & betrayed; I called him a liar (admittedly a little over dramatic!). So we haven't contacted each other since. It's been over 10 days.
It still upsets me. And after all we've been through together & all the times he said I was the only thing he thought about while we were apart, for him to just want something casual but act & state otherwise is misleading & frankly insulting. That is voluntarily wasting my time by stringing me along & I am actually shocked that he of all people would act that way.
But talking a step back I know his go to is to throw things away, with people, places, jobs etc. He has a habit of burning bridges instead of dealing with things in a functional manner. Still hurts though.
So not wanting to waste any more of my time if it is going nowhere, & sick of all the drama, I asked "Is there a future with him" - Hex 51 Unchanging
Shock! Well that's a pretty obvious one as I am myself in a bit of shock over his reaction. I'm never totally sure about how to read unchanging Hex's. Is this saying emotional shocks now but we will get over it, not to let it break me/us, no real harm done? Not all doom & gloom, possibly even auspicious?
I was also considering reaching out to him, admitting that I over reacted because I'm not in a great place with my current circumstances, that i just felt hurt & betrayed by his reaction, possibly letting him know that I know he can't handle what's going on in my life right now & that's ok.
I don't want to fight & I don't want any anger between us, I feel we're both probably in need of each other right now & don't need this feud going on in the background.
So I asked: Is it beneficial to reach out to him at this time? - 13.3.4. > 42
Both 13 & 42 seem to talk of togetherness, benefiting from respecting each other. 42 even mentions "it is beneficial to cross the big river" (he lives abroad)
But I'm really unsure of the lines here:
13.3 - the troops lie hidden, for 3yrs he does not rise up - could be putting our weapons away, stop bickering!
13.4 - he climbs up the wall, he cannot attack. Good fortune. - maybe overcoming our differences without quarrel?
Anyone have any input or experiences with these Hex's & lines?
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).