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He started by skipping school, playing sick, then hid behind the school and went home when i was gone one morning, then started freaking out refusing to go. Thing is, his father is stricter than I am, there is no room for argument, rules are firmer, but he has no internet, & needs to get a new flat, has been depressed in himself the last few years, but he isn't mis-treating him, he does love his son. I'm under pressure from outside (his father, school, Family Support Services, parents) to push him more, enforce rules, be more organised etc;-yet I am worn out trying to get him to do things on time, stick to routines and times, enforce the authority. constantly ending up in arguments and meltdowns with him over the tiniest of things Thing is, yes, the child comes first, & his needs, he has definite sensory needs, sensitivity issues. (loud noises, certain textures, restricted diet etc). [b]But I don't want to end up in a 'tail wagging dog' situation with him either. I'm worn out, worried about him, under pressure from school & social services to 'get him in school on time' 'get him settled'[/b] yet the chaos is ongoing, no matter what I do...
THE GENTLE. Success through what is small.It furthers one to have somewhere to go.It furthers one to see the great man.
Nine in the third place means:Repeated penetration. Humiliation.Penetrating reflection must not be pushed too far, lest it cripple the power of decision. After a matter has been thoroughly pondered, it is essential to form a decision and to act. Repeated deliberation brings fresh doubts and scruples, and thereby humiliation, because one shows oneself unable to act.
Nine in the fifth place meanserseverance brings good fortune.Remorse vanishes.Nothing that does not further.No beginning, but an end.Before the change, three days.After the change, three days.Good fortune.
Nine at the top means: Penetration under the bed. He loses his property and his ax. Perseverance brings misfortune.
Yes this is the situation with his father now, and the one that I am trying to avoid with him. This is where I was feeling pressure from outside.57.3 Using force repeatedly is not effective, will cause him to have bad feelings and you will lose him.
That makes sense, this is being worked on with the support worker. He is asking to go to his fathers on the weekends sometimes, he is discussing a change in the schedule himself! He wants it to be predictable, however, it seems he doesn't want to be near his father on school days. His father usually has him in school on time, but a what cost?57.5 He needs a clear schedule so he knows what to expect. Maybe the flexible nature of his home stay schedule is problematic, perhaps make a written schedule on the wall for his days and stick to it.
The Montessori Method of child development teaches that it causes a lot of issues for children when they are expected to adapt to changes a lot, it disturbs their sense of order which is important to them.
the Montessori Method of child development teaches control the environment, not the child. You want to give the child freedom to develop according to their own inner power seeking to express itself, within an environment created by you. In the environment you provide them with the tools they need to naturally develop. He may not have enough to interact with in his environment at home
Hmm have been trying to do this, there was an old laptop, but he broke it.Making his phone something he relies on actually for inner work.
Thanks for that, I hadn't thought of restricting the internet.57.6 This line says he needs his own space in his bed. That taking his property is not a good idea, it brings misfortune. Hmm. Perhaps don't take away his cell except in extreme situations. You can limit his internet to a certain amount of time a day
Yes indeed, that chimes with the over-arching sense I got from Hexagram 57 - the winds and influences blowing through - How do you want your home to be?Generally my take on this hex, it points to a well known issue with children like yours, adults trying to get them to conform humiliate them and that causes the most damage to them. Then they lose their own motivation and self confidence, you want to empower them
Yes we are waiting for this, there is a referral crisis here, and a 'Minister will appoint a committee to look into it'.If possible with your healthcare get him evaluated (see the great man, those with more experience.)
Best of luck. I'm not on here often BTW.
- Lavalamp
BTW, Maria Montessori observed children in prison with zero resources to work on their personal development would find things to work with, even a bug.
Principles of childhood development are critical to understand with special needs children I think.
All the best.
- LLP
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).