Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).
Hello, I have a bit of a dilemma.... my son has been struggling for a while with friendships at his current school, not getting the best grades and I think feeling quite lonely at times. He got in trouble recently and received two detentions, which resulted in even more isolation . He has been placed in a different class next year, which I fear will make things worse. I asked the Yi:
What if I keep my son at J? 31.3.4.5 to 2
What if I move him to K? 41.3.5 to 9
I’m actually non the wiser! What do you guys think??
Interesting that Trogina got an impression from 31>2 that there was a need here for you to communicate with your son
I guess he's the one to ask about what he wants
It could equally well be read as a direct comment on each school of course but I wonder with the 31 and then the 41 if this is less about him and more about your reactions to his ups and downs and what your reactions to him make you think of doing.
The first answer gave me the impression you would do well to try to communicate confidence in your choices to him. If he feels you are plagued by uncertainty over his future schooling he will feel less secure perhaps. That would be less of 31.3 and 31.4 and more of 31.5 where perhaps you develop a slightly more 'unmoved' stance to his school scenarios.
You're right, he's probably not strong enough; he's a child. I think you should assume a kingly parental role and show him you are decisive about what the resolution here should be. He may be reacting to what he perceives as your own uncertainties and lack of confidence that cutting ties is the right thing to do. But it sounds like it is.
"He needs to conquer his behavior." Is there a plan for how this is to happen? Just as a person doesn't magically learn algebra by being isolated in a room by themselves they don't develop social skills on their own either. Social integration doesn't just happen. There's a whole industry built up around "life coaches" and people spend millions studying the science of how to win friends and influence people.
To toss him into a hostile environment with no friends and expect a young boy who has had so little positive social role modeling from his dad to figure it all out on his own is blind ignorance. What plan does the school have in place to turn this boy's life around?
At the end of the two hour interrogation and subsequent detentions was the boy welcomed back into the classroom with affection? Did the head mistress shake his hand and tell him she now believed he was capable of great things at the school? Were the problems with the other boy dispersed and love and harmony restored? No? I didn't think so. Get your kid out of there!!!
Interesting the father disrespects your parenting and now you're considering letting your son continue at a school that disrespects you too...
It looks like neither option is disastrous, which is somewhat reassuring, but IÂ’m still unsure what is best for my son Perhaps I should wait and see what happens, and pray that the horrendous litigation with his dad is finally going to end!Â’
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).