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This proves to me that he was the domineering one who used you as his servant. It's not your fault that you lost him. As you say, you were the one after him from the beginning, and he always played the diva and gave you crumbs here and there. Your 'insecurities' were instincts, well-based on reality.I think I was domineering in a sense, mostly cos of insecurities and fear to lose him (self fulling prophesy here indeed)
You wanted more because he wasn't giving you enough. The things he said to you sound like cheap excuses.I also wanted more and more of him in my life I guess cos i didn't feel fulfilled and he did say that it was strangling him and the relationship
Men will almost never admit "I was having an affair while I was still with you". So I would disbelieve him, and believe the omen. Yes, 54 describes a non-monogamous relationship.he said it was very unexpected and that there was nothing before, but I don't know who to believe
My advice to heal would be to become more realistic. It was obvious from the very start that this guy is not relationship material. Think back to all the signs. Think back to all the excuses he gave you. And reflect, find out how it all ended up as it is. Try to learn some lessons so as to protect yourself in the future from similar scenarios. When a guy says "he's got issues", "he's not ready", "he's yada yada" - RUN.Good advice here about becoming HEX 14 women, have no idea how, but I guess healing does take time! Would it be a suggestion to accept my loss and move in becoming a confident lady
So I asked I ching
Is he going to come back to me?
Got H 47.2.6 ---> I guess not a positive answer at all. I interpreted that it refers to his feelings being oppressed in relationship, not having freedom or losing individuality and becoming enclosed and isolated as he himself said. It refers small offerings that maybe a small steps that could lead to reconciliation? Or does the line refers to him being exhausted and unable to resolve his own issues let alone getting back together with me? I generally read the hexagram that he will not be back, but there is that part of the hexagram that persistence leads to success or the bit about continuing with regret to success which I don't understand.
Is there anything I can do to get him back?
Got H 54.3.6 --> Again it wasn't the most positive hexagram as as someone outlined in one of the readings with this hexagram was that there are opportunities to form a relationship, but our perspectives are so different that it will not work. Also, i consulted a bioenergetic about this matter (i know i have lost my mind a little bit) and he said that i should not make a move, because i already gave too much to the relationship, it is he who should be approaching me if it happens. So this reading also seem to suggest that any moves will be misfortunate. So does it suggests to stay put if i want him back?
Again with maybe first reading the most I am not sure if i should interpret the answer as his feelings or advice for myself.
I took a new pair of boots back to the supermarket as they had a slight fault and exchanged them for another pair. On getting home realized I had left my NHS insoles in the boots I'd returned. These aren't easy to come by so I dashed back to the shop to see if I could get them back. The girl on customer service rang through and asked someone to check but they said they weren't there. I asked them to double check but they said there was no hope, if they weren't there they weren't there. Came home but was quite sure I had left those insoles in the boots. Asked Yi if I stood any chance of recovering those insoles ? Because I received this line, 47.2, I thought perhaps I needed to schmooze the scarlet sashes, at least it seemed to me it was worth trying to get around them, the shop staff, so I rang back later and got through to a manager who found the insoles within 5 minutes. This was a case where Yi definitely changed my course of action. 'Scarlet sashes come from all directions' felt very much like the rotation of staff which eventually got me back the insoles ! As practical advice for this line then I think it's worth juggling the scarlet sashes
I would think that the overall reading is suggesting to make small steps, maybe contact him as a small offering. But do not initiate the conversation about the getting back together myself. But that resulting hexagram 12 is rather unsettling.
In fact I will be in UK for a few days in December where he is from and although he doesn't live there now thought to maybe somehow subtly mentioning that I am coming. But I then question if this all is not a game playing and some tricky plan making, opposite to what HEX 54.3.6 was telling me.
I mean I am getting to understanding that this is not the end of the world, there will be other people, etc, i will get out of this state eventually. But the relationship just feels so unfinished and I just can't shake that feeling off.
Hmm, I am wondering now since I went ahead and cast another hexagram, which was 11.1 if I should still try to make a move or is it all getting muddled up. I am in the world of confusion it seems.
I wish of course to get back together, but I do fear of another rejection and there again is that desire for him to make the move. Yet the hexagram i cast today put me in the whole new world of hopes and thoughts that maybe I should try again to ask to meet. I am also actually considering getting back to UK, i woke up today with a more certain idea that I don't like it where I have moved and whether it was encouraged by 11.1 and hopes of getting back or something else - i felt much better thinking i will be going back in a few months time.
You are right I will be putting myself in a vulnerable position and there is a lot of fear involved. I then think that maybe this is exactly what the 'creepers' were talking about. I get that what you saying that manoeuvres take time and patience and if he says no then it is all yet again waisted.
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).