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I agree with Megan. Also, H56 could be emphasizing that he himself is a Wanderer (which is obvious and which he freely admits). There is no benefit for you in this. There are some rare people who do not mind if their lover has other lovers, but they are rare indeed, and a person looking to bond with a beloved will never feel right about this (among other problems it can cause).It sounds like hes trying to manipulate you!! make like the wanderer and leave.
Most welcome.thankyou foxx777. The hexagram is right, he's a wanderer. I appreciate you sharing with me that you eperienced a similar situation.. to be honest, it has been so humiliating that havent shared what has been happening with friends or family. it is proving very difficult to get him to actually go away.. he is intent on brainwashing me into agreement with him. Is there anything in the hexagram that gives me a clue as to how to unlock the stuck situation?
no joking aside - men respect strength and
women who see past BS. What Foxx suggests
is true - advising him he will be old and lonely
if he cannot stay the course of true intimacy and
the greatest levels of trust and love
if it were an olympic sport there would be beds in
our olympic stadium - a bit of humour goes a long
way with bad news (but he'll get over it winky wink)
Most welcome.
I would say, from the whole economy of Hexagram 56 (the beginning line refers to someone in a low and mean position, bringing down judgment upon himself, and ends at the top with a bird burning his nest, and crying out in alarm) that he somehow knows he is in the wrong, but is trying to "spin it" as a free-spirited philosophy so that you accept it.
I think you should; it would fit in as a subset here on this thread. I am going out for the day, but I would be very interested in remarking on it later on.Thakyou so much for this. It is what I have felt... but inevitably after so much 'spin' from him I have felt I was going slightly crazy.. either that, or thought HIM crazy. I thik what you say here about 56 showing with economy this progression is very helpful.
The truth is, that he didnt come outright and tell me, I found out. And yes, I have told him precisely the very astute points that you both make here. I agree with you both on all counts.
I am wondering if I could do another reading that sheds some light on me and my sexuality which could help me understand how I have had this happen to me and how to move forward feeling more trustingly. Would you say that is two separate questions?
56 could be Yi's way of showing how you are feeling within the relationship. Here you thought you were in a familiar growing relationship and that you knew the boundaries and rules and it turns out that you don't. In the realms of the relationship itself you feel as a stranger and wandering around, possibly even considering going along with what he has proposed. Like you haven't quite decided where you stand with the whole thing and you don't feel you have security at the moment, security like a warm home gives.
Something you can take from 56 is to not try and change your environment. Maybe part of your 'wandering' is in not knowing if he will change his mind about this and go back to how you thought it would be. ....
Just be careful.
Yes, thankyou, helpful. Not to try to change my physical environment is what have done... does this apply to my 'internal environment' also? I am being very careful..in the sense that I am shut down to him. I am not willing to be deceived and manipulated further, and I Am not willing to be living a dilute emotional life, either. Is there any other way I can be careful? I dont want to end up with my nest burnt.. there is no sense of this being a good thing, like regeneration, is there, not a phoenix scenario..
must dash now,more later.
x
‘Creating small success’: only creatively involved to a very limited extent, as he’s just passing through; being involved as a small person, being flexible and responsive to circumstances. Not expecting to change one’s surroundings or be changed by them.
I asked what should I do about a relationship which has gone badly wrong and is causing a lot of problems. A boyfriend who is pressurising me enormously to be in an open relationship.. he lied to me about only wanting one person and is in fact promiscuous and now trying to convince me that to be so is a great spiritual wisdom. I cannot get him to leave me alone. I am very angry indeed and he tells me I should forgive and practise metta and generally be a much 'better person'.. the fact that he lied to me seems to be merely something I am supposed to forgive... for my own spiritual benefit. Yes I see the depths of manipulation here.
What does 56 unchanging mean for me?
I really would like your wisdom on this as I am lost, and distressed.
Clarity,
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