15.2>46

[goddessliss]

Relevant to this thread http://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/friends/showthread.php?21495-Thoughtless-3-gt-2/page2

I put up and shut up about his thoughtlessness and can now move on from it although I did speak to him about it once a couple of months ago and he seemed genuinely sorry. But this time I'm so upset I can hardly contain my anger.

A couple of days ago he had an argument with someone in his family because he (landlord) couldn't get his way (he's 68). Today he's obviously still fuming and I've just kept out of his way but he knocked over a piece of art work I had created and whilst it didn't (fortunately) break it did leave a mess and the plant that in it clearly left to die. He didn't tell me he just left it there for me to find.

I am very upset as I put a lot of hours into the work hoping to sell it and all I really want to do is yell at him - I should imagine he'd be quite shocked but I also feel he's looking for an argument with someone just anyone and I don't wish to be it...it's not my stuff.

What's the best thing to do about this situation

15.2>46

Looks like maintain my integrity as always.

 

[radiofreewill]

Hi goddessliss,

I like your reading, and I think the Yi is saying that the key to Transcending your situation is to join with the Way through Humility.

Fields says that the oracle bone graph for this hexagram was originally called 'the wedwing bird' ~ a one-winged bird that could fly only if it met its mate.

In this case, courtesy of a grumpy old man's obstreperousness, you get to 'see' for yourself the two choices you have for doing the best thing about this situation: the Washer Machine drawing.

On the left: you've been punched in your Art ~ your Stuff as the Untethered Soul calls it ~ and reflexively 'jumped in' to meet his agitation with your agitation ~ ego to ego ~ the same ol' same ol'...you and this guy could be flapping your wings together like do-do birds running down the beach for a long, long time.

On the right: you've been punched in what has historically been your Stuff ~ but this time, Humbly merged with the Way, you can clearly 'see' below an angry man inviting an angry woman for another round of an habitual angry dance ~ all from a position of stable, peaceful presence.

On the spiritual path of inner self-awareness, as I know it, the real skill is in simply being "aware that you are aware" ~ which is called the 'witness position' or the 'seat of consciousness' in the Untethered Soul ~ or, in this case, the wing of the Way.

To jump in is egoic ~ to be present without jumping in is transcendent, or spiritually heroic, in a selfless Way.

I hope this helps!

 

[goddessliss]

It so does help radiofreewill - a strong reminder of what I already know - duh!!!

 

[butterfly spider]

My neighbour cuts down my hedge - at least 2ft into my boundary. He does this when he is in a bad mood - when he can't rent the house or something has wound him up

This is not my issue. - the bushes grow again. I could make this a source of conflict but choose now not to

It felt as if the more Ingot wound up in his issue the more it bothered me

Xxx

 

[goddessliss]

Look I so agree butterfly spider and I do my best to remain calm, which I normally do but I guess when someone keeps disregarding what's important to you well everyone has their breaking point, especially when he always, always never takes accountability and tries to lie about it.
He knows how hard I work at the things I create because he sees me doing it and says things like I need to take a break and not work so hard. I know it's not personal to me, his carelessness, because I've seen how he behaves towards other people especially in his intimate relationships with others. He told me once he's done some terrible things in his life to others but why seek redemption or change yourself because it's not gonna change where he ends up - dead - anyway.
He thinks if he say, gives someone tomatoes from his garden, that they should give something in return rather than just being kind and generous because he has an abundance. I'm the opposite and try to be kind all the time although discerning with that kindness at the same time.
Apart from him being here I love living here and it's very affordable. I'm trying to find work that takes me away for the next 6 months which essentially is the Winter in Australia so I don't feel confined by the short daylight hours and to get a break from him.
Unfortunately we're both home most of the time even though he does live upstairs but he wants me to kinda fulfill a role of companionship for him. He uses women because he's so lonely and there seems to be a new woman every couple of months - none of my business but he's very wealthy so the World could really be his oyster to do whatever he wants whenever he wants but he chooses to sit in the confines of his castle and takes his angst out on others. I don't get it!!

 

[Tim K]

15.2 is an active line, the modesty is recognized/noted/noticed by others.
46 asks for action, it's not 25 where you just let it go.

I think you should just tell him that that was not cool at all. Each time he messes up - tell him politely.
So that he will at least know that you don't like it. Step by step you maybe will manage to push him towards being more caring and careful.

In the opposing 10 - one just treads a simple path, in 15 however one must navigate through social problems and arguments.

 

[goddessliss]

Thank you ashteroid - you're right and I did this time - I called him on it and said it wasn't cool and he made excuses blah blah but I said nothing else so from now on that's what I'll do instead of just ignoring it and hopefully hex 46 does it's stuff!!

 

[butterfly spider]

You have made me re think that I should tell my neighbour (also very wealthy with 4 rented houses and a Mercedes) that he needs to be mindful of where he snips...

Xx