How do I deal with the lack of meaning that overwhelms me? 37.5 > 22

[Albatross]

In the last days, I have not felt well. I am in some kind blue mood.

How do I deal with the lack of meaning that overwhelms me? 37.5 > 22

37. The Family (The Clan). I assumed that I have to approach to my family, but I have never had the confidence to talk to my brother or parents about my mood. I do not understand what it is the matter of Grace (22) in this situation.

 

[Matali]

Hello !
37.5 is the line of the family man you can trust... I think that's the advice is to talk to your father

 

[diamanda]

Family means, well, family. A familiar environment, somewhere where members are united and support each other, are on each other's side, have each other's back. Here, we depart from this notion with line 5.

37.5 is a strange one, with obscure meaning. "Fake king" or "as if he's a king" + "he has / there is / obtains" a family. Then the line says "fear not" according to Wilhelm, or, if we look at the characters, it could also be saying "do not sympathise, must not relief". Resulting hexagram 22 is an empty display of pleasing manners. There's one, or maybe more, threads in Exploring Divination about the fake king if you're interested.

So I'm assuming that your overwhelming lack of meaning is due to you not feeling that you have any meaningful family members. You have beauty, graceful manners, but devoid of essence and meaning. How to deal with it?

You can certainly not rely on your family, as the cast shows and as you said yourself. Since the issue is the lack of a true, deep, meaningful bond with other people, and your biological family are not candidates for this - then find a new family. Find people who are trustworthy, dependable, on your side, with mutual and sincere affection and respect. This could be a partner - but best not to place so much importance on one person only. Find and cultivate meaningful friendships too. It's not easy to create a good 'family', especially if you come from a lacking background - but, it's possible, and it's essential to at least try, and keep trying. Most people want and need meaningful relationships.

 

[sunharmony]

Sometimes, when I feel low, it is keeping up appearances for the sake of others, and fulfilling my role in my family that gets me through. Getting dressed, putting on makeup, smiling at times even when I don't feel so carefree, is a gift for others but it also works from the outside in, to make me feel more resilient.

 

[sunharmony]

I think 37.5 is reassuring and that support from a Family member -maybe a father or head of household- can be sought with good effect. I think that 22 may suggest that you keep such a good face on the outside that your family might not know what you are feeling inside unless you tell them. Mainly I think it means feel reassured and seek support from a. (male?) relative.

 

[Trojina]

In the last days, I have not felt well. I am in some kind blue mood.

How do I deal with the lack of meaning that overwhelms me? 37.5 > 22

37. The Family (The Clan). I assumed that I have to approach to my family, but I have never had the confidence to talk to my brother or parents about my mood. I do not understand what it is the matter of Grace (22) in this situation.

I don't think this has anything to do with fathers/talking to fathers or family relationships - unless that is pertinent to your query !


What does the line actually say ? From Hilary in wikiwing

'The king enters his own home.
Do not worry. Good fortune.'

This is about you ! You enter your own home and you don't worry. What does entering one's own home mean here ? Well it means you turn yourself over to your own interests and concerns, like a king. You worry less about what other people expect or want, you decide it's your life to do as you please with.


Life feels meaningless when we are doing what other people think is the best thing to do. A king doesn't give a fart about what other people think he should do. When he enters his own home he governs what is in there just as you need to govern what is in your life and what isn't.


Make sure you aren't living according to other's ideas about how you should live. As soon as you enter your own realm, where you are king, the one who decides what is in your life life becomes more meaningful. You do not need to worry.

 

[rosada]

Another thought..

Looking at 22. as representing a vision, a dream not yet solidified and 37.5 as a benevolent father, I see these hexagrams as saying you are experiencing this feeling of lack of meaning because you long to know why you are here, what is God the father’s plan for you?

Carrying that idea a little further then we can say that in the broadest sense we know God’s plan for us is that we love one another and use that to guide you as to what to focus on to give your life purpose.

I’ve heard it suggested that the most empowering question to ask is “How can I help?”

 

[Albatross]

Family means, well, family. A familiar environment, somewhere where members are united and support each other, are on each other's side, have each other's back. Here, we depart from this notion with line 5.

37.5 is a strange one, with obscure meaning. "Fake king" or "as if he's a king" + "he has / there is / obtains" a family. Then the line says "fear not" according to Wilhelm, or, if we look at the characters, it could also be saying "do not sympathise, must not relief". Resulting hexagram 22 is an empty display of pleasing manners. There's one, or maybe more, threads in Exploring Divination about the fake king if you're interested.

So I'm assuming that your overwhelming lack of meaning is due to you not feeling that you have any meaningful family members. You have beauty, graceful manners, but devoid of essence and meaning. How to deal with it?

You can certainly not rely on your family, as the cast shows and as you said yourself. Since the issue is the lack of a true, deep, meaningful bond with other people, and your biological family are not candidates for this - then find a new family. Find people who are trustworthy, dependable, on your side, with mutual and sincere affection and respect. This could be a partner - but best not to place so much importance on one person only. Find and cultivate meaningful friendships too. It's not easy to create a good 'family', especially if you come from a lacking background - but, it's possible, and it's essential to at least try, and keep trying. Most people want and need meaningful relationships.

Family in general terms I have accustomed to thnk about blood relation, but may be I have to think in a different approach: "find a new family". May be family is something that you create through your own history, the people you, the member of your own family, but coworkers, friends from highschool or college. May be is not only outside, but inside. I read a post from Hillary that she brought the support of many people that she worked and they gave her their strength.

"Fake king" or "as if he's a king". That idea made me think about the impostor syndrome (IS). The internal experience of believing that you are not as competent. It is not that other people defy your position, it is my own experience of trying to "destroy" my own confidence.

Trojina said:

Make sure you aren't living according to other's ideas about how you should live. As soon as you enter your own realm, where you are king, the one who decides what is in your life life becomes more meaningful. You do not need to worry.

The presence of the other should motivated to assume your own path. If I see the relation with other to try to avoid my responsibility in my own life, I would check my asumption and rebuild my perspective about a meaningful life.

Thanks, Al.

 

[Albatross]

I am my own Clan. I think I read here a post from Hilary that told about how we are many people inside us.

One persona is the main character, the

"head of household".

But now he is/she is dubious about the future of the "family" and she want to some rest or to delegate the functions.

But it is the moment to notice the need to enter

"your own home and you don't worry".

Other homes have their own rules but what are the rules of my home? It is the time to decide "what is more meaningful" in my own life.

 

[Trojina]

You have written your words inside a quote from me so it looks like I have written your words.

 

[Albatross]

You have written your words inside a quote from me so it looks like I have written your words.

Okay. I made the correction.

 

[becalm]

Albatross Hello... I am going through the exact same thing as you and completely e disinterested in my life and very despondent. I listen to a guy on you tube called Mooji - it helps

 

[Matali]

Hello Albatross, are you a man or a woman ?

 

[Matali]

Albatross Hello... I am going through the exact same thing as you and completely e disinterested in my life and very despondent. I listen to a guy on you tube called Mooji - it helps

With this pandemic, I think it's normal to have stress and apprehension, we're all in the same boat

 

[becalm]

With this pandemic, I think it's normal to have stress and apprehension, we're all in the same boat

For many you could be right, but for me my life didn’t change, except a slight improvement for me financially.
My despondency has more to do with my life going nowhere for the last12 years, despite major effort on my part.

 

[rosada]

While we usually select hexagrams, at random I think there is a lot to be gained from intentionally choosing to read a specific one. For example, the other day I was wanting to motivate myself to practice the piano. Rather than consulting the IC as an oracle I chose to read 12. Standstill hoping that might give me some insight - and it did! ( My problem with practicing is that I hate to do it in front of the other house members but 12.2 assured me they could "bear and endure it" and the rest of the lines reminded me how ashamed I'd feel if I didn't practice and the rewards I'd get if I did.) Perhaps there is a specific hexagram that deals with feelings of alienation. Hmm..not sure which one that would be...
Anyway, I don't mean to derail the thread here but just thought I'd suggest you think about what you know about your situation and what you think needs to be done and then read a hexagram that you think might give you some advice. Like maybe 57. Gentle Penetration for digging a bit deeper when things appear superficial or 13.Fellowship in The Wild for letting down your guard and getting out and meeting new people?

Best wishes,
Rosada

 

[Albatross]

select hexagrams, at random

Well. Thanks for the advice. That made me think specially one hexagram I love: The Wanderer (56). When I went to read I read the bottom line:

If the wanderer busies himself with trivial things,
He draws down misfortune upon himself.

I like to assume that this hexagram is a metaphor of life. That is the life we are travellers. And in this time when I am closer to my own thoughts, "trivial things" would come easier to the eye of the mind.

Traveler, your footprints
are the only road, nothing else.
Traveler, there is no road;

 

[rosada]

"Traveler, your footprints..." Beautiful. Thank you for posting.

 

[Albatross]

there is a lot to be gained from intentionally choosing to read a specific one.

I am really enjoying this idea. I have in my mind that I always should cast a question for the purpose of reading because it would be most respectful.