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As Rosada also points out, doesn't the above show exactly H48.2 and H39?However because of the chilling time he had which I disagreed with, because of the pressure of being the only one covering the expenses, etc, etc I feel annoyed towards him. I start to believe that I might start to resend him (not sure) but I do feel something against him and I m not happy about it.
Maybe is the selfish part of me taking over because I don’t want to be the only one paying the bills and basically maintaining him, but I want to share the financial responsibility with him. And having him partecipate to our finances. Maybe this selfish part of me plays a role in the way I feel and because I don’t want to be the only one working while he does nothing.
But like I said he agreed with me that he received became lazy and complacent and he started to be job hunting active every day.
Something is happening here that the well is not intended for and besides, the purpose is to draw water and not to catch fish.Shooting fishes at the bottom of the well.
The fact that the jug is broken means that water cannot be drawn here, the source (cause of the problem ) cannot be reached. You don't have the right tools, the tool to reach the source is damaged.The jug is broken and leaks
So here is the advice to work on oneself....
Thus the superior person reflects on himself
And cultivates his character.
Based on your description and the oracle's answer, my interpretation here would be to seek help to get to the root of the problem. There seems to be more going on here (and I think you indirectly indicate this yourself) than just the frustration of a husband taking the time to look for another job.I asked the oracle for an advice how can I deal with and how to look at this unemployed situation? I received 48.2-39
48 <> 39I asked the oracle for an advice how can I deal with and how to look at this unemployed situation? I received 48.2-39
I struggle to interpret this answer to my situation and I need some help here.
Many thanks
I wouldn't immediately put a label of "selfish" on it. It is quite possible that this situation and your husband's reaction is triggering something in you, an old pattern, something from your childhood, etc.(e.g. could it be that you feel you are all alone and unsupported? )Have no judgment towards yourself on that.Is there something else? Like how @Hans_K said “There seems to be more going on here (and I think you indirectly indicate this yourself) than just the frustration of a husband taking the time to look for another job.”
It could be my selfish personality that picks up?
It could be my anger at him because he took it easy and that frustration didn’t go away yet?
I am inclined to say that is a bit of anger +. Bit of selfishness which makes me feel this way.
The question is what you mean by this. Do you mean by this to do something about your husband's situation or your reaction to the situation and his attitude in it.Shall I ask another question for an advice of what to do?
Rather than grasping at the message telling you exactly how to deal with this situation why not try not grasping and allow the message to float gently towards you. Sometimes the turbulence of grasping at something just pushes it further away.But I still struggle to grasp the message of how can I deal with this situation. What shall I do, not do. How can I look at it.
There are always more questions that can be asked.I really want to make this feeling go or deal with it but not sure what to do.
Complicated no? Haha
Shall I ask another question for an advice of what to do? Or was the 48.2-39 enough?
I mean asking for advice for my reaction to the situation and his attitude.Do you mean by this to do something about your husband's situation or your reaction to the situation and his attitude in it.
This is a great help @rosada thank you very much. It helps me to learn how the oracle advices how to deal with this situation.Well actually you’ve asked two questions here.
How to look at the situation?
and then
How to deal with the situation?
So first…
How to look at the situation:
48.2 - 39 could be answering how to look at the situation as in “Look at the situation as one where your husband quit a toxic work situation (48.2) and now has been unable to find suitable employment (39) and may need some training before he’s able to move ahead (The superior man turns his attention to himself and molds his character).”
IOW, look at it in a very straight forward sort of way, recognize the simple reality, the dude quit a toxic job and now he’s doing what he can to get work but he’s stuck and it doesn’t move things forward for you to be angry.
Or if these hexagrams are also specifically telling you how to deal with the situation as you look at it this way, then perhaps 48.2 is pointing out how crappy the whole thing is making you feel and 39.Obstruction is pointing out how you don’t like seeing this reaction in yourself and are seeking advice for how to “mold your character.” The hexagram advises that it’s helpful to “see the great man.” Are you so fed up you might need some outside help? Like a marriage counselor or even a divorce lawyer?
But maybe that’s trying to get too many answers off one toss. Maybe you should ask a totally separate new question for how to deal with this.
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
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+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
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