Any chance of a marriage proposal here?

[cal val]

Hi Rosalie...

You know I just thought of an instance when changes in my presentation sort of impacted my inner changes. The change was definitely inner, but I changed my presentation to reinforce it. The inner change was learning (and understanding experientially) that I, alone, own my feelings, actions and behaviors and am, therefore, solely responsible for them and learning the difference between blaming and responsible language. The change in presentation was changing my language accordingly.

Instead of saying "you hurt me," I said "I feel hurt," instead of "you make me happy"... "I feel happy when I'm with you," instead of "you make me angry"... "I feel angry when you do/say that." But sometimes I was stubborn and didn't want to say so. The more I said so, though, the less stubborn I became. And the less stubborn I became, the easier it was to say so. So I guess you could say the inner and outer changes sort of worked together for each other.

Love,

Val

 

[bruce]

Good observation, Val. I think 22 can sometimes work that way. It could be something as simple as ironing a denim shirt I'm going out in, or blocking a hat, or dusting off mah boots (grin), which creates a small but also important change in the way I see the world that day. Vain? Probably. But a little vanity can feel pretty nice, and makes life a little more friendly.

 

[cal val]

I've been meaning to ask you Bruce. Do you like a dress heel or a work heel on your boots?

I personally prefer a work heel. And I don't know if that's more about the feeling of security I get with a work heel... or vanity... I like the look better too...*grin*

Love,

Val

 

[bruce]

Well, Val, between us, I don't do heels, or teddies either, for that matter. lol

But really, I haven't worn boots in awhile, and preferred a natural or work heel when I did wear them. Something about nothing being there until a mil-sec after you're expecting your heel to hit the ground that takes a little getting used to with the forward slant riding heels, such as this pair is equipped. But I've become used to them now; not dragging my heels, as they say.

I never imagined ostrich to be so comfortable. These required practically no breaking in at all. I also dropped in a pair of the newer material inserts, and they wear like slippers. Slippers with heels, that is.

Now I don't mind so much leaving my chariot and going on foot.

 

[void]

Dying to see them, cmon I'm into boots, heh heh, and in your profile pic you appear to be wearing black socks, cmom Bruce put your boots on for your profile pic -(or ignore me I might be going through a funny phase) These were the boots by the way that were sanctioned by the Yi weren't they ?

 

[bruce]

LOL! santioned by Yi. Sounds like an ad campaign, Void. Chisholm Boots, sanctioned with a seal by Yi, worn by Taoist cowboys everywhere!

 

[martin]

 

[void]

Heh heh, yup, 'the boots that tread heavens way' and if the Sage of the Yi were a man who wore boots, for sure these are the boots he would wear !

 

[bruce]

Whaddia mean if? hmph!

Martin's diggin for worms...?

 

[luz]

No. He thinks he's hiding..
He can see it coming.. now Void will want boots too.

 

[void]

I wish i knew what Martin was doing ? Burying his head in the sand ? Something he doesn't want to see ? Hmmm Ah of course he doesn't want to see Bruces boots !