Is moving back to family a good idea?

[MeltingPot247]

Hi all,

I recently moved to a Remote community for work and not really enjoying myself.

And I’m the type of person that believes life is too short too just “suck it up” and not be happy.

I received 2 unchanging which sounded promising - as it feels like where I’m going others will be receptive towards me and vice versa … whereas here I do not feel I truly fit in or like this place very much due to people I work with coming across as abrasive, defensive and generally not all that pleasant although they would be to each other and “management”.

It all seems like a facade to me.

Maybe 2 unchanging as an answer is a no brainer “Yes, good idea” type answer - but I would be interested in how others would read this for themselves.

Thank you

 

[Liselle]

Hm...I really don't know what to do with this, and what has popped to mind is barely a fragment.

Which is, that hexagrams 1 and 2 are a pair - every odd-numbered hexagram is paired with the even-numbered one that follows it. They're also opposites/complements - every yang line in 1 is turned to yin in 2. Hilary compares them to a seal and the sealing wax.

So it strikes me that you asked if it's a good idea. Ideas and inspiration are the domain of hexagram 1, and Yi gave you 1's pair/ complement/ opposite. I'm wondering if that's a pointed comment. (Or maybe I'm reading too much into it. People ask if something's a good idea a lot, and don't get hexagram 2 most of the time.)

Unchanging hexagrams often seem to have question marks over them. 2 unchanging might ask, "What would you like to grow in this field?," or some other question about how you might relate to a theme of 2. (Since the relating hexagram is missing in unchanging readings.)

I also remember someone had an idea about 2 that it can mean a return to normal conditions. In yours I wonder if it could mean you already know what you'd be getting if you move back, and how do you feel about that?

 

[Liselle]

Also highly recommend reading this thread. Lots of good ideas in it.

Your Experiences With Unchanging Castings -- Hexagram 2

We've decided to go ahead with the discussion of Unchanging Hexagrams and our experiences with them, delineating each as a separate thread to make them easy to find in future. Anybody coming upon these discussion is encouraged to add their thoughts and experiences. There is a separate thread...

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[MeltingPot247]

Hm...I really don't know what to do with this, and what has popped to mind is barely a fragment.

Which is, that hexagrams 1 and 2 are a pair - every odd-numbered hexagram is paired with the even-numbered one that follows it. They're also opposites/complements - every yang line in 1 is turned to yin in 2. Hilary compares them to a seal and the sealing wax.

So it strikes me that you asked if it's a good idea. Ideas and inspiration are the domain of hexagram 1, and Yi gave you 1's pair/ complement/ opposite. I'm wondering if that's a pointed comment. (Or maybe I'm reading too much into it. People ask if something's a good idea a lot, and don't get hexagram 2 most of the time.)

Unchanging hexagrams often seem to have question marks over them. 2 unchanging might ask, "What would you like to grow in this field?," or some other question about how you might relate to a theme of 2. (Since the relating hexagram is missing in unchanging readings.)

I also remember someone had an idea about 2 that it can mean a return to normal conditions. In yours I wonder if it could mean you already know what you'd be getting if you move back, and how do you feel about that?

I just wanted to add before I respond that I used the word “family” to replace the location of where I’m going… even though there is family where I intend to go - it is where I was raised and have not lived or worked for a long while. I also consider the family I was raised with as my secondary family in contrast to the ones I raised who live back where I want to fully return - but can not go back there yet due to lack of good financial opportunities / cost of living, higher taxes etc.

I came to this place that I am now as I share some cultural DNA with the indigenous locals - and I thought I would be able to make a connection (community development). I have since started to notice that the staff that have been here longer term, attempt to offload all the extra responsibilities that they took on when they started, that were not part of the job description I was given, on to me … To me it seems like the staff of times gone by have created dependencies rather than empowerment for many of the true local people and I can not see how this would change with my being here…

I am not the sort of person that likes others to become dependent on me and vice versa. I prefer working and being with people that really want to help themselves - except when it comes to physically or intellectually disabled or youth/ children, I can and will help them from time to time.

I guess there could be some intellectual misunderstanding in this community due to cross cultural language barriers… but I would rather see a lot more of the local people in the type of work that we are doing - but there are a lack of opportunities , motivation and/ or cooperation between many of the locals and what the govt contracted & non- indigenous run businesses here want to or are able to offer.

On that note, I have learned or assessed in my short time here - that I may never make a positive enough difference to justify myself being here … not if other staff are trying to pressure me with tasks I don’t feel comfortable or safe with.

^^^ This was a bit of a rant - but more of a background of the situation I am in.

I am career and finance focused at this time - and the idea of going to my state of upbringing is alluring because I know I could earn more there than here and still have low living costs etc … with the added bonus of having more places to go on my days off and family to spend time with.

Where I am now - the heat and bugs put me off spending much time outside in community.

The first answer on the thread you linked into your response might suggest I should stick it out at this place a bit longer. I have only been here 2 months so maybe by May/ June I will decide if it’s worth my time and energy to stay on any longer..

One of the main reasons I stay with jobs longer than I would really want to is for work reference reasons - it is quite challenging finding a place to work nowadays where you can be autonomous and not micro managed. I have held a few leadership roles in the past and got along well with most of my key staff / team in the past.

Thank you.

 

[thisismybody]

I’m kind of in the opposite boat as you—near family and at place of origin but feel there’s more out there and wish to take the fool’s journey.

So 2 struck me as the field of opportunity, a common interpretation. To plant seeds where you want to root, grow fruit and harvest that fruit. Where do you want to root? Sounds like you haven’t found it where you are, but are still producing anyway. Maybe sweet fruit. Maybe sour. Or maybe it’s a low-yield season?

 

[thisismybody]

Ah, just reread—2 months isn’t long enough to even see if you have sprouts. Not sure if your feeling is bc you’re in the wrong place or you need to be more patient.

 

[Herny Zahir]

2Uc means you stay there and work it out. It will become a lifechanging experience

 

[MeltingPot247]

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I’m kind of in the opposite boat as you—near family and at place of origin but feel there’s more out there and wish to take the fool’s journey.

So 2 struck me as the field of opportunity, a common interpretation. To plant seeds where you want to root, grow fruit and harvest that fruit. Where do you want to root? Sounds like you haven’t found it where you are, but are still producing anyway. Maybe sweet fruit. Maybe sour. Or maybe it’s a low-yield season?

Just to answer your question about where do I want to root … It’s back where I came from, the other country I lived for 20 years of my adult life. I was born in the country I am now - but it is not home, home for me. I came to this place to see if maybe something spiritual might happen and that I might feel grounded and connected - and in some ways I am, more than I have been in the past … but in other ways not as I do miss some of the creature comforts I am otherwise used to when not in this place.

As I want to go home ASAP - I am trying to figure out the best way to get back.

I don’t want to go back without savings due to the higher cost of living where I came from and lack of jobs that I am interested in at a wage I would deem as decent. Even though I am paid fairly where I am, the grocery barge costs are eating into my income - as the local store doesn’t stock a lot of what I want/ need.

The job I am doing was meant to be a stepping stone to a Travelling Support Role in a years time (at a higher rate than I am now) - but otherwise I could be earning an extra half of my current income if I moved state to where my siblings are all going to be (another is moving back soon).

My nearly full grown offspring are overseas. I’m over here raising funds for them, myself and other family/ friends from time to time.

The contract here is until end of October this year - with opportunity to extend to June 2025.

But otherwise I applied for 3 jobs that I’m qualified for one state over where my siblings are - and I mentioned in response to the jobs that I applied for that my applications were “expressions of interest” and that I wished to give my current employer 2 to 3 months notice minimum in order to give them time to find and train a replacement if need be.

The jobs I applied for interstate are in high need of workers.

 

[MeltingPot247]

2Uc means you stay there and work it out. It will become a lifechanging experience

Just to clarify …

My question was -

Is moving back to family a good idea?​

And the answer was Hexagram 2 Unchanging.

Based on the question - do you think that the answer reflects that I would be staying where I am for much longer?

Due to some interpretations of Hexagram 2 - I get the image of a Mare running alongside her family - and I guess that could mean here in the outback in some ways… as I have a tenth of the DNA of indigenous locals

Growing up I always identified as indigenous to two countries, but since being here I have had my blood lineage questioned and discussed respectfully. The outcome of the discussion was me deciding that what I have in me, is not comparable and not enough in similarity or value to how much the locals have today, and what they go through. I have realised how blended I am and I’m not ashamed to admit, nor ashamed of who I am either which is why my name on here is Melting Pot.

I have a sense of adventure and I am like a rolling tumbleweed - better with short term contracts and a variety of jobs in different places rather than one area as I am in now - an area that I can not actually get easily in and out of - due to lack of roads (flooded by rivers, wet season) and expensive to fly in / fly out.

 

[MeltingPot247]

^ Just to add -

I have since read and reflected more into hexagram 2 unchanging and I can see that I may have seriously overlooked one of it’s more obvious meanings - and that is to be more patient, mindful, responsive and accepting of my current surroundings and situation- rather than taking action, trying to move on again so soon.

Aside from some of the complaints I mentioned in previous replies above - being in this community has definitely been a fast learning experience of many things. Since arriving only a short time ago, I have developed skills that I didn’t have before. This whole place and way of life is a very unique experience for me.

 

[thisismybody]

Just to answer your question about where do I want to root … It’s back where I came from, the other country I lived for 20 years of my adult life. I was born in the country I am now - but it is not home, home for me. I came to this place to see if maybe something spiritual might happen and that I might feel grounded and connected - and in some ways I am, more than I have been in the past … but in other ways not as I do miss some of the creature comforts I am otherwise used to when not in this place.

As I want to go home ASAP - I am trying to figure out the best way to get back.

I don’t want to go back without savings due to the higher cost of living where I came from and lack of jobs that I am interested in at a wage I would deem as decent. Even though I am paid fairly where I am, the grocery barge costs are eating into my income - as the local store doesn’t stock a lot of what I want/ need.

The job I am doing was meant to be a stepping stone…

Ok, not so opposite from me. Similar.

2 uc still reads to me like the open field of possibilities. Looks like Yi is asking you to ask yourself what you want. You want to go home. So whatever you do plant or choose to seed, let that intention guide your choices. Also, what if 2 uc is about the energies of manifestation?

In this case, use the field of you mind to manifest what you want. Use visualization as a tool. Speak your intentions also. There’s magic in this. It’s how spells work. Cast your own spell for your highest good through your prayer and the actions you take. Ask for divine help also. See what happens.

 

[thisismybody]

^ Just to add -

I have since read and reflected more into hexagram 2 unchanging and I can see that I may have seriously overlooked one of it’s more obvious meanings - and that is to be more patient, mindful, responsive and accepting of my current surroundings and situation- rather than taking action, trying to move on again so soon.

Being patient, mindful, responsive…couldn’t hurt!

 

[Trojina]

This thread continues on here really so I have written about hexagram 2 on MeltingPot's next thread also

Please give insight to help me figure out where and what to do for my best career and finance wise? and Yi's answer, 8.5 to 2.

Hi again, Follow up - in addition to previous post I would really like help with. So like my previous post- I feel like I want to go home even more now - the thing holding me here is my knowledge and experience of low wages in my home country. Whenever I am in the country I am now, I earn and...

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