Mum’s health

[cris]

Happy New Year, All

My mum’s health has been recently declining. She has known neurological issues, and her ability to keep her balance and walk has been progressively impaired. In addition, in the last year or so she’s been suffering from chronic pain in her right thigh which doctors do not seem able to find the cause of or a therapy for. I asked “What to do about mum’s health” and got 23.6 > 2.

Hex 23 has been eerily recurring in my readings lately, mostly as relating hexagram. Line 6 does not sound ominous literally, however the end of stripping away and resulting earth do. I’ve learnt from experience Yi provides simple, straight answers more often than one would think, but I hope I’m completely off track this time around and the response indeed is about the right course of action, though I fail to understand what that would be. Thanks in advance for any help.

 

[Henry Zahir]

23 is a bed.
At same point, for elderly, it becomes home. Short walks, back to the bed. Reality check. She needs more care and is on the hightest place the sage. Can she decide how she wants to be taken cared of? Maybe splitting is about indepedency in a moment of great dependency. Is splitting up the right decision? I think the answer is already decided. You tell us.

 

[cris]

Thanks for your reply, Henry. Unfortunately due to her cognitive issues she’s no longer able of self determination. Permanent separation is truly not an option - maybe a temporary one, to get therapy at a specialized home. By the way, could you elaborate on being “on the highest place the sage”?

Reading the line again, it occurred to me that the cart the noble one gets may simply be a wheel chair - until now we have never taken it into consideration, but it may ultimately be a necessity.

 

[Liselle]

Reading the line again, it occurred to me that the cart the noble one gets may simply be a wheel chair

Ingenious . Hope it works out well.

 

[my_key]

Hi cris

Happy New Year, All

My mum’s health has been recently declining. She has known neurological issues, and her ability to keep her balance and walk has been progressively impaired. In addition, in the last year or so she’s been suffering from chronic pain in her right thigh which doctors do not seem able to find the cause of or a therapy for. I asked “What to do about mum’s health” and got 23.6 > 2.

23 <> 2

'Falling Away' through 'Yielding'

What to do as our loved ones age and their health deteriorates is a tricky emotional, mental and practical maze to navigate through. In these situations, all you can really do is remain open and flexible, gently providing and manifesting all the love, nurturing and nourishing words and actions that you can (2). In this way your heart-felt labours will provide overarching circumstances that best sustain both you and your mother.

23 suggests that all things are not smelling of roses, or quite as they might be. It could be in your mother's health, but equally it might be within you, or it might be in the relationship between you. It may help your mother's peace of mind (and yours, too) if you can do all you can to remove all that is old hat or outmoded and ensure that there is nothing left unsaid by or between you both. There really isn't anywhere else for you, or her, to go and staying with your mother and helping and supporting her unconditionally could alone provide a welcomed positive influence on her wellbeing.

Your dilemma about what to do is not only being wrapped within a warm blanket of hexagram 2, but as it is also the nuclear of 23, it is providing you with subtle and deep influences to guide you in a positive direction during this difficult time. Sometimes the dilemma of doing can be resolved by addressing the the dilemma of being. One answer may come from asking "How can I better be with Mum as her health continues declining?"

23.6 - It may be that you have already addressed this question but when you do you will better see the wisdom waiting to be discovered in this situation for you both. Here at 23.6 you are invited to acquire a cart that will wisely transport you along the ways ahead. Remember there is much for you to engage more fully with. There is a ripe fruit that is produced by 23 and you have not yet eaten that which awaits you.

... of course there may be other interpretations that provide you with clearer insights.

Good Luck

 

[cris]

Hi my_key and thanks much for your articulate reply.

Sometimes the dilemma of doing can be resolved by addressing the the dilemma of being.

And viceversa as the two ultimately coincide. My focus at the moment is however predominantly on the practical side of this matter. Regarding which:

23.6 - It may be that you have already addressed this question but when you do you will better see the wisdom waiting to be discovered in this situation for you both. Here at 23.6 you are invited to acquire a cart that will wisely transport you along the ways ahead. Remember there is much for you to engage more fully with. There is a ripe fruit that is produced by 23 and you have not yet eaten that which awaits you.

I’m still struggling to understand what the uneaten fruit would be. What is the message here? There’s a plethora of different directions that could be pursued, from furthering medical investigations to changing therapy, lifestyle, moving to another place, etc. That is exactly the guidance I was asking for and it’s hard to believe Yi has tautologically turned the riddle back at me Easter egg style.

 

[Liselle]

Do you think it has to be more than your wheelchair idea? If you haven't done that yet, it could be the uneaten fruit.

Of course who knows, certainly not me - I understand your point that there are many different possible directions.

On the other hand, getting caught up in the different directions could be hut-stripping, I guess, maybe/possibly.

If it were me I might ask about the wheelchair specifically, see what Yi says. I agree with you about the tautological riddle for something like this.

 

[my_key]

I’m still struggling to understand what the uneaten fruit would be. What is the message here?

That's the tough thing when we consult the oracle. Only we as individuals can truly understand what the 'uneaten fruit' is for each of us in each situation.

I hope that your question is a rhetorical one and you weren't expecting an answer from any external source.

I'm sure you'll find a way through this difficult situation. Remember, there is an answer somewhere looking for you.

Good Luck

 

[cris]

Thanks @Liselle and @my_key for your further comments. It took me a while to get back to the thread - I’ve been mulling over this reading.

I hope that your question is a rhetorical one and you weren't expecting an answer from any external source.

I was indeed

Remember, there is an answer somewhere looking for you.

Hopefully it’ll be more successful with me than I’ve been with my passport!

On the other hand, getting caught up in the different directions could be hut-stripping, I guess, maybe/possibly.

Great intuition, Liselle! Trial and error. With this approach I have fixed an appointment with a physician who specializes in both PM&R and geriatrics. He seems to have extensive experience and should be able to apply a holistic view. I consulted Yi on this option and got 26.1,2,3,6 > 2. Relating 2 again - I hope it indicates potential. The lines in 26 may show the treatment path - the issue is serious (danger in line 1), it relates to mum’s disc protrusions (line 2’s loose axle straps), physical therapy is required (line 3’s daily training) and should be beneficial (line 6’s auspiciousness). It sounds too good to be true What do you guys reckon?

 

[rosada]

All in all I think the I Ching is giving you a very general over view.
What to do about Mom’s health?
Do what seems reasonable to care for the old body (stripping the hut) but recognize that like all of us she will be moving on (noble one gets a cart). Prepare for this inevitability by recording memories (preserving the large fruit).

 

[breakmov]

seems to me that both readings represent the development of your situation very well:

23.6 - 2: shows your situation of wanting to contribute something significant and not being able to do so. The "uneaten fruit" is something in itself, regardless of the tribulation you have experienced thus far, that has the potential to give rise to something decisive and significant.

26.1.2.3.6 -- 2 :
Your desire to look for someone who specializes in elderly patients can be decisive and significant that helps in this situation.
Being open to seeking help from a professional who has theoretical and practical knowledge in treating the elderly, as a result of the lived and accumulated experience of a professional career, can effectively be the best contribution to the situation you described.

breakmov

 

[rosada]

Btw, somewhere - Hillary’s book? - it is explained that the “uneaten fruit” refers to the fruit that is not eaten as it is being saved to be the seed for the next crop. Perhaps this could also be describing all the unfulfilled hopes and wishes, all the adventures one never got around to having before it was time to split.

 

[rosada]

Okay, back again. Further thoughts…
I’m looking at how the “stripping the huts” sounds like focusing on the past - like when you are going to move you spend time clearing out the old house - and then “gaining a wagon” sounds like you are focusing on the future, on where you are going to move to, the new house. So focusing on the past or on the future with focusing on the future being what the superior one does. To apply this to health issues it seems the emphasis is on the importance of having something to look forward to, to have something to live for.
And the large fruit uneaten could mean preserving the positive memories to inspire the new life.