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Pocossin, I wonder what 'flavors' I should give myself. When you say flavors and I apply that to my situation, I think 'eat'. That scares me. I will eat and eat and eat and explode, but will be smoke free upon bursting. I do like cinnamon a lot, maybe I can get some cinnamon sticks and suck on them like a cigarette. Hrm.
the words of Master Yoda really did the trick: "Try not. Do or do not. There is no try."
ATQ, i've been thinking many days about your issue here. i can't help you in any way, for i have got the same problem you have.
This is very helpful Rinda, thank you so much. I like this idea so much. Part of the reason of being scared of something is the unknown factors about it. The things that are left in the dark and so what a great idea to understand the timing of cravings. Then I will know what to expect. The idea of it being like a wave makes much sense. And it is positive to be surfing on this wave. Knowing that I will come back to shore.Cravings only last (on average for most people) less than 10 minutes. They peak and ebb. It might be helpful to time a craving, noting every minute or two how intense the sensation is on a scale of 0 to 10. Watch it without becoming judgmental of yourself and without trying to control the feelings. This is called "urge surfing". It helps you experience the reality that you will not drown in the wave of the craving as it washes over you, and also experience the reality that you do have a choice in the present moment as you live in it through the wave as it passes.
I think Hilary mentioned something similar to this and she credits 'Knot' as saying it. Also a good way of looking at the bigger picture. It's very 27.After timing your craving cycle you will have a good idea how long you will need to distract yourself. You can do anything for 15 minutes. Every time you succeed in avoiding smoking a cigarette you weaken the power of the addiction. Every time you give in you strengthen it. As i imaging Bruce might say, there is a black wolf and a white wolf - one on each shoulder. Which will win? The one you feed.
This seems hard but I can do it.When awareness of the craving intrudes, notice it, bless it, and then gently move your attention back to the task at hand.
Such wonderful ideas. I have some stitching and wood burnings to work on. Also just bought an Etch A Sketch. I think my hands will want to be busy at a time during a wave.Having a needlework project or manicure kit handy is good when you are not actively involved in something requiring the use of your hands, or make a personal ritual of pouring a lovely cup of tea in your best china or favorite mug and enjoying it while watching the birds out your favorite window.
However I haven't smoked now for 7 years. I'd say all the gimmicky things are not much use...all you need is a real decision
I don't often think of the act of smoking like you have described. I like that you are pointing this out to me.As soon as I conceptualised it as an act of self hatred I had a huge amount of will at my disposal. I was not going to hurt myself ! How dare I even think of it !!!!
I am going to set a date. A goal to be down to 5 on weekend days and 2 on weekdays and go from there.I also stopped gradually ...easier for me psychologically. I was cutting down each day...the night revelation pushed me on till I got lower and lower then stopped.
I thank Trojan for the beautiful post, but I don't agree with it. For most of us, willpower is just another gimmicky concept. It isn't just a likely painful death, though Death is a great persuader. You are losing the enjoyment of life now. A little grandfatherly advice: A smoking woman stinks and is repulsive to any man who doesn't smoke. Twice I have had women who smoked offer themselves to me, and I refused. Who wants to marry an ashtray? In spite of your youth, beauty, and great mentality, smoking turns off most men you are likely to meet. I guarantee you that if you stop smoking, you will find greater happiness in life.
I thank Trojan for the beautiful post, but I don't agree with it. For most of us, willpower is just another gimmicky concept. It isn't just a likely painful death, though Death is a great persuader. You are losing the enjoyment of life now. A little grandfatherly advice: A smoking woman stinks and is repulsive to any man who doesn't smoke. Twice I have had women who smoked offer themselves to me, and I refused. Who wants to marry an ashtray? In spite of your youth, beauty, and great mentality, smoking turns off most men you are likely to meet. I guarantee you that if you stop smoking, you will find greater happiness in life.
One thing that never worried me was how I smelled as a smoker
Surely Luis will spot this ? Women have thrown themselves at Tom, offered themselves...you've kept this gift quiet Tom !
And that, dear Trojan, is part of the problem. You should have worried, but others -- I suppose -- were too enchanted to complain. Your hair shone Your clothes were elegant. If you rode in a non-smoker's car and smoked, the car smelled delicious for months. If you smoked in their home, draperies smelled delicious for months. Your fingers and teeth were sensual delights.The skin of your face looked years younger than it would have. Plus, you were a continual fire hazard, because you were so hot. Anyone who lights up in my home now will be invited inside.
I must have a little charm, Trojan, else why after annoying you so much repeatedly as I have done these last two years, would you continue to apologize to me? (I'm hoping for another, shortly ) Luis is a gentleman and a scholar but isn't my type.Still, I hope Luis doesn't smoke.
I've apologised to you when I see I have been unfair or unkind to you...
You might ask Yi how best to proceed...
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
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United Kingdom
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