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I am newly married and have discovered my husband watching what seems to be a lot of porn online.
I asked the yi if I should be concerned about it.
The answer is 32 no changing lines
I am taking that as a no, not to be concerned about it.
Not if both options are favourable.
You're not just disagreeing with me, by the way, but with all of the diviners and kings of the Shang dynasty and early Zhou. But feel free to have your own opinion.
I checked his cache to see when he was looking and how often and it was only a couple times a week so a total non issue. I guess I was worried he was doing it every day.
I asked the yi why is he looking at porn so much?
21.2.4 to 41
I am at a loss with 21 this time. Is he doing it to spite me?
Yes, this was my impression as well.Imo, sounds like you both could benefit from consulting a qualified therapist. That energy should find a happy place between you both, not flying solo. I see the same idea in 54.1-40. It gives the impression that sex is considered a duty to the maiden, in order to release tension. It ought to be and mean more than that for both.
And how will feel when he does watch it everyday?
Perhaps this is a case of told you so.
I asked the yi why is he looking at porn so much?
21.2.4 to 41
It shows that he likes watching porn and it would seem that he always has.
I asked if he was going to stop doing it so much 54.1 to 40
Its suggests no, but he will probably just do it more discreetly, when you are not around.
Edited to add that a therapist or whoever will not change or alter his behaviour. Does drug therapy work, no!
So I am doomed to a sexless marriage as he prefers the porn to me.
I don't think I can handle knowing he is wankig to porn all the time and we only have sex a couple time a month.
No it isn't that. I would gladly join in but HE doesn't want me to. He prefers to fly solo.
My issue is not with him looking so much as he prefers it over me and I am being left out.
So you have offered to join, but he has said, No thanks, Wife?
First, you should kick his @$$.
Next, I would ask the Yi a number of questions about what options you have in order to keep the marriage a happy one, and then pose them here. People on this forum can help you come to terms with your best course of action.
Wishing you luck and insight.
No it isn't that. I would gladly join in but HE doesn't want me to. He prefers to fly solo.
My issue is not with him looking so much as he prefers it over me and I am being left out.
Yeah he needs a swat with the clue by 4!
I have watched with him before, role play etc and he prefers wanking to me. It definitely is not me being unwilling at all.
Can you help me formulate some questions to ask the yi and I will meditate a bit and ask them?
Thank you. :bows: I applied some Reiki to this too and asked the question
What steps should I take to make myself happy in this marriage?
Answer
23.3.4.5.6 to 31
I am looking at this as a sequence of events
Basically cut my losses and get out and in the end I will find what I'm looking for elsewhere.
I can see that, and props to you for being so willing to face that, but I'm curious to think what others with a knack for interpreting will say. I did realize, when I formed the question, that the answer might say there are no steps to take to remain happy IN the marriage.
Yes, this was my impression as well.
On the one hand, men do like to look at women (and porn), and their female partners often take it personally when it really isn't. On the other hand, something sounds out of balance in this situation. Perhaps it has to do with the change in status due to becoming married, or perhaps there's something else going on with him that he hasn't been willing to look at or share with you.
In any event, 21.2.4 to 41 and 54.1 to 40 say to me that a change in his behavior is possible, but that he needs to be given a reason to do so. To get him to that point, you may have to be pushy on a consistent basis until it's resolved. (Maybe that's what the 'duration' in your original reading was about). And "resolved" means from a relationship standpoint, what's best for the partnership, not just either of you individually. A relationship therapist or counselor could be of great assistance with this.
What steps should I take to make myself happy in this marriage?
23.3.4.5.6 to 31
Also curious to see what our veterans here have to say.
I'd say, take all the advise here and on other online forums with a grain of salt,
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
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