17.1.2 how should I behave...

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How should I behave with this young foreign man?
17.1.2
First line says it's good to meet people, I'm going to see him while he works for a public event (it's the one of the friend request i accepted with delay...). The event itself is nice but this guy gave me all the attention last time and now i dont know how he will behave and how i should behave. I'm quite embarrassed.
Line 2 says if one is with the kid, he then loses the adult. Ouch, i forgot what it meant - I'm pretty sure I had it in an university matter some years ago.
Hexagram 17 may be speaking about following, adapting? Hm

 

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Other question: how should I behave at this public event? 22.1.2.6
Oh well, 22 is about ordinary things... These lines suggest me to be simple, like talking about simple ordinary routine things, having a good looks and maybe talking with the pretty ones there, using ordinary excuses?!

 

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update: I'm going with a friend...

 

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17. Acknowledge you recognize him but..
17.1 It's a brand new day.
17.2 That was then, this is now.

22.Visualize the event.
22.1 Be well grounded.
22.3 Look nice but don't over dress.
22.6 Enjoy yourself, life is fleeting.

 

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17. Acknowledge you recognize him but..
17.1 It's a brand new day.
17.2 That was then, this is now.

22.Visualize the event.
22.1 Be well grounded.
22.3 Look nice but don't over dress.
22.6 Enjoy yourself, life is fleeting.

Thanks, I can relate to this.
17.2 this means... his attitude will be different and unexpected?

 

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The image of holding on to the young boy and losing the grown man suggests that if you try to go back to the mood of your previous encounter you will lose the opportunity to sense and react spontaneously to where he is now. So the line isn't telling you what his attitude will be, rather it is telling you what your attitude should be - which is that you are not assuming there is any understanding or particular bond or obligation between you, you are a free agent.

 

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The image of holding on to the young boy and losing the grown man suggests that if you try to go back to the mood of your previous encounter you will lose the opportunity to sense and react spontaneously to where he is now. So the line isn't telling you what his attitude will be, rather it is telling you what your attitude should be - which is that you are not assuming there is any understanding or particular bond or obligation between you, you are a free agent.

Yes, in fact i am repeating myself "act like if it was a surprise" xD because my mind keeps activating the scheme in which I feel there's a bond between me and him. But I dont want this. I hate this.
I hope it will be a calm and spontaneous encounter... I know im weird but as an introvert I'm not quite quick in switching social encounters or freeing myself from embarassing ''bonding'' situations... I wished I was more like those ''shallow free'' people who like to get attention from everyone then they disappear lol, just to say. I quite sense he'd invite me out and this makes me uncomfrtable... I prefer the group social situations or friends situations.Xd but perhaps im just being too fast, and they are just acting nice but without those intentions..hmm..-

 

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there wasn't the guy... there was the one i liked. I think I got deceived because he was quite rude. After all, the one who fancied me was more outgoing and generous. We'll see again, if there will be an encounter...

 

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The image of holding on to the young boy and losing the grown man suggests that if you try to go back to the mood of your previous encounter you will lose the opportunity to sense and react spontaneously to where he is now. So the line isn't telling you what his attitude will be, rather it is telling you what your attitude should be - which is that you are not assuming there is any understanding or particular bond or obligation between you, you are a free agent.

Hello again, I think this pointed out what I exactly did, being very little spontaneous. But when I talked, I was taking things easy; which he didn't.
He was answering back in that outspoken way he didn't have before, which makes him sound a little smartass or surly, and well, that kinda had the effect on me to feel like I should have reacted more impulsively(which is normal) but I had limited myself, and I acted submissive and said ''yes'' (not even a ''depends''XD). lol XD This just to say that he is making me ''react'' submissive but feeling like i should answer back, which I don't do because I don't want to look mean or hostile (which I'm not).
I don't know what will be next time XD But I hope he didn't think i'm a doll or something XD because I'm not XD but I'd like to be authentic, I don't like to fight but some people don't really realise the way they speak, why?? D=

 

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update...
basically I can't change my attitude (i know it takes years, but I keep feeling all shy and all, and I don't like it, because I dont want to be labelled like this). -.-'' I keep going there with the same ''good submissive girl'' attitude, while I feel the guy is just leading the script with his aims. He made a lot of personal questions but I answered in such an ordinary and passive manner that I felt tired of myself after that.
It seems weird but after that I thought that I didn't act and talk in a way that resonated with my true self... I mean, I don't like to share my personal things with a stranger, I love being mysterious, and in addition he DOESN'T EVEN TELL ME WHY HE IS ASKING THAT. He then invited me out, i said yeah ok we'll see eachother soon...

Last thing, I didn't get to know a person who stimulated my curiosity...our talk lasted only 1 minute, I wanted to tease him a little because he seemed nice and interesting to me.
It seems I'm not controlling the events the way I wished.