27.1 changes to 23 and hexagram 53

[GrowingAlma]

Hi all!I'm back full of doubts and thoughts about this reading.. My boyfriend will be away for work for the next two weeks. I've found myself full of fears and with a lot of separation anxiety. I don't trust him, mostly because I have trust issues (I know).So firstly I asked I ching how can I cope with all my negative feelings and emotions during this period and I casted 53 unchanging.His answer has been pretty clear to me.Though I casted another hexagram asking what will he do towards me during those two weeks. And I received 27.1 23.It seems to me such a bad omen! Something like he Any suggestions on how to interpret this? Thank you for your help

 

[GrowingAlma]

I posted for error while I was trying to edit the post. In any case I interpret it as a bad attitude towards me.. What do you think about it?

 

[radiofreewill]

Hi GrowingAlma,

"How can I cope with all my negative feelings and emotions during this period?"
53uc ~ It's a process that takes time.

"What will he do towards me during those two weeks?"
27.1 to 23 ~ Fears and emotions arising from your lack of trust are causing him to think about leaving.

If you step back and think about it for a minute, then you'll realize that your ego is in the business of getting what it wants, when it wants it, and just exactly the way that it wants it, too? Towards that end, in your mind, your ego tells you a Story about your experience in which it ~ your ego ~ plays all the parts ~ the good guys and the bad guys, too.

Is it any wonder, then, that our 'expectations' so often manifest as our reality? It's a case of putting the energy out there which invites the response that would "make all your negative feelings and emotions" come true? Sort of like a short-sighted "Hold my beer..." challenge daring your boyfriend to leave you?

Of course, I'm not a therapist ~ this is just my opinion...

So, what to do?

On the one hand...

You could Grasp and Dwell and Story-tell on the Object called 'my boyfriend' ~ on overdrive ~ non-stop for the entire two weeks. If you do, then you should be able to observe the following:

~ you will be depleted and tired all the time
~ you will be emotionally drained
~ your weight will fluctuate
~ you will age visibly
~ your other relationships will suffer
~ sleep will be uneasy
~ things will fall through the cracks
~ your anxiety will have cascaded into poor decision-making territory
~ you will become accident-prone
​

However, on the other hand,

You could decide to Cease the Grasping and Dwelling ~ and put down the Story-telling ~ in favor of simply being Present to What Is ~ the actual experience of your moment to moment daily life experience when it isn't being big-footed by your fabulist stories?

If you can be the Witness to your Stories ~ "Hmmm, here I am telling myself ~ yet again ~ that he will be cheating on me...Is that my fear speaking, or the facts?" ~ then you'll be able to clearly discern what is actually happening ~ versus reacting to your fears and emotions compounded on themselves?

Like I say, though, it's a process to effect change on oneself? I find that the rhythm of it goes two steps forward and one step back, over and over?

So, my advice is to have big spacious compassion for yourself ~ and your boyfriend ~ and try the very best that you can to stop the story-telling each time it starts...before it becomes an emotional avalanche?

I know that it's easier said than done, but if you'll just take that same self-awareness that knows you have 'trust issues' and use it to discipline the runaway train of story-telling, then I'm confident that you will experience a much calmer and clearer way forward with your boyfriend?

I hope this helps!

Good Luck

 

[GrowingAlma]

Dear radiofreewill,I don't know who you are, if you are a woman or a man, how old are you, where are you from or which color your eyes are. I just know that you have to be happy about who you are, cause you gave me such a compassionate, straight forward and non judgmental answer that really touched my heart. Thank you. You are so right...That emotional avalanche you mentioned was part of a dream I had last night, when I was sinking in apocalyptic floodwaters... In that dream I thought it was over for me, but for some reason I found something to grab and I saved my self.Now I have your words and your advice to grasp on, maybe they will save me as well.Thank you again for your time and help.

 

[rudigginme23]

Hi GrowingAlma,

"How can I cope with all my negative feelings and emotions during this period?"
53uc ~ It's a process that takes time.

"What will he do towards me during those two weeks?"
27.1 to 23 ~ Fears and emotions arising from your lack of trust are causing him to think about leaving.

If you step back and think about it for a minute, then you'll realize that your ego is in the business of getting what it wants, when it wants it, and just exactly the way that it wants it, too? Towards that end, in your mind, your ego tells you a Story about your experience in which it ~ your ego ~ plays all the parts ~ the good guys and the bad guys, too.

Is it any wonder, then, that our 'expectations' so often manifest as our reality? It's a case of putting the energy out there which invites the response that would "make all your negative feelings and emotions" come true? Sort of like a short-sighted "Hold my beer..." challenge daring your boyfriend to leave you?

Of course, I'm not a therapist ~ this is just my opinion...

So, what to do?

On the one hand...

You could Grasp and Dwell and Story-tell on the Object called 'my boyfriend' ~ on overdrive ~ non-stop for the entire two weeks. If you do, then you should be able to observe the following:

~ you will be depleted and tired all the time​

~ you will be emotionally drained​

~ your weight will fluctuate​

~ you will age visibly​

~ your other relationships will suffer​

~ sleep will be uneasy​

~ things will fall through the cracks​

~ your anxiety will have cascaded into poor decision-making territory​

~ you will become accident-prone​

​

However, on the other hand,

You could decide to Cease the Grasping and Dwelling ~ and put down the Story-telling ~ in favor of simply being Present to What Is ~ the actual experience of your moment to moment daily life experience when it isn't being big-footed by your fabulist stories?

If you can be the Witness to your Stories ~ "Hmmm, here I am telling myself ~ yet again ~ that he will be cheating on me...Is that my fear speaking, or the facts?" ~ then you'll be able to clearly discern what is actually happening ~ versus reacting to your fears and emotions compounded on themselves?

Like I say, though, it's a process to effect change on oneself? I find that the rhythm of it goes two steps forward and one step back, over and over?

So, my advice is to have big spacious compassion for yourself ~ and your boyfriend ~ and try the very best that you can to stop the story-telling each time it starts...before it becomes an emotional avalanche?

I know that it's easier said than done, but if you'll just take that same self-awareness that knows you have 'trust issues' and use it to discipline the runaway train of story-telling, then I'm confident that you will experience a much calmer and clearer way forward with your boyfriend?

I hope this helps!

Good Luck

Hi GrowingAlma,

"How can I cope with all my negative feelings and emotions during this period?"
53uc ~ It's a process that takes time.

"What will he do towards me during those two weeks?"
27.1 to 23 ~ Fears and emotions arising from your lack of trust are causing him to think about leaving.

If you step back and think about it for a minute, then you'll realize that your ego is in the business of getting what it wants, when it wants it, and just exactly the way that it wants it, too? Towards that end, in your mind, your ego tells you a Story about your experience in which it ~ your ego ~ plays all the parts ~ the good guys and the bad guys, too.

Is it any wonder, then, that our 'expectations' so often manifest as our reality? It's a case of putting the energy out there which invites the response that would "make all your negative feelings and emotions" come true? Sort of like a short-sighted "Hold my beer..." challenge daring your boyfriend to leave you?

Of course, I'm not a therapist ~ this is just my opinion...

So, what to do?

On the one hand...

You could Grasp and Dwell and Story-tell on the Object called 'my boyfriend' ~ on overdrive ~ non-stop for the entire two weeks. If you do, then you should be able to observe the following:

~ you will be depleted and tired all the time​

~ you will be emotionally drained​

~ your weight will fluctuate​

~ you will age visibly​

~ your other relationships will suffer​

~ sleep will be uneasy​

~ things will fall through the cracks​

~ your anxiety will have cascaded into poor decision-making territory​

~ you will become accident-prone​

​

However, on the other hand,

You could decide to Cease the Grasping and Dwelling ~ and put down the Story-telling ~ in favor of simply being Present to What Is ~ the actual experience of your moment to moment daily life experience when it isn't being big-footed by your fabulist stories?

If you can be the Witness to your Stories ~ "Hmmm, here I am telling myself ~ yet again ~ that he will be cheating on me...Is that my fear speaking, or the facts?" ~ then you'll be able to clearly discern what is actually happening ~ versus reacting to your fears and emotions compounded on themselves?

Like I say, though, it's a process to effect change on oneself? I find that the rhythm of it goes two steps forward and one step back, over and over?

So, my advice is to have big spacious compassion for yourself ~ and your boyfriend ~ and try the very best that you can to stop the story-telling each time it starts...before it becomes an emotional avalanche?

I know that it's easier said than done, but if you'll just take that same self-awareness that knows you have 'trust issues' and use it to discipline the runaway train of story-telling, then I'm confident that you will experience a much calmer and clearer way forward with your boyfriend?

I hope this helps!

Good Luck

I know this is an old post that didn't matter to me. I loved your response it truly touched me inside it was an An"Ah Ha" moment, The empathy and compassion flowed through your words. Thank you for being YouI hope you see this post to encourage and guide you on your journey.

 

[rudigginme23]

Please excuse my posting error first time my post was to @radiofreewill