aprroach with conflict??

[rony]

Dear Forum friends,
I asked how to best approach a person and got hex 6 with lines 2, 4 and 6 becoming hex 8. It's a bit confusing to me the advice to approach someone with conflict? Or is it a warning to avoid conflict? I really thank you in advance if someone could help me understand this answer...
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[Trojina]

Dear Forum friends,
I asked how to best approach a person and got hex 6 with lines 2, 4 and 6 becoming hex 8. It's a bit confusing to me the advice to approach someone with conflict? Or is it a warning to avoid conflict? I really thank you in advance if someone could help me understand this answer...
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I think the answer indicates it would be advisable to withdraw from trying to press your point of view in any way on this person..it simply won't work. Even if it seems to work for a while it will be a short lived 'victory' (6.6) I don't know what the intent behind the approach is but it seems from the answer that it does involve in some way you wanting to contend, to give your side of the story, to convince ? The answer is saying you need to pull back from this, let it be, compromise. By pulling back you save alot of trouble (6.2) and find more peace of mind (6.4). Don't push this through to the end..you actually can't win.(6.6).whatever winning is to you in this context..and as i say that may be simply wanting the other to see your point of view. Hmm 8 as relating hexagram..it may be you retain the bond anyway if this is someone you 'belong' with..? Or do you ?

 

[rony]

many thanks trojan for this helpful answer.
well, it's a person I have a date with in a few days and hardly know so no conflict is on the horizon...yet...today i was thinking the answer might speak about my own inner conflict regarding the date? As to the relating hex could it be that we will do have a bond...?

 

[steve]

I think what trojan was saying or what the yi maybe saying in general is approach with caution and there could be union.
The confllict could be in the approach so a reseved approach is what the Yi is suggesting some people talk to much on first dates for instance out of nerves and things , just an example
However he Trojan has broken down the lines for you as to the general meaning of each line.

Good luck on the date

Steve

 

[rony]

so sweet of you steve! I really appreciate your answer and the one of trojan of course.
Many thanks and let's see how this will turn out, in any case I'll be prudent...

 

[Trojina]

many thanks trojan for this helpful answer.
well, it's a person I have a date with in a few days and hardly know so no conflict is on the horizon...yet...today i was thinking the answer might speak about my own inner conflict regarding the date? As to the relating hex could it be that we will do have a bond...?

I see, well my answer needs some reinterpretation then since you hardly know the person lol. You're right it could indicate your own inner conflict about it..even if you don't know the person well, you likley already have a sense of what they're about or you wouldn't have a date...so only you can say if you do have a conflict about this. Hmm perhaps you shouldn't regard this as a campaign to win the person over. I think with 8 people come together because they really belong together naturally, no effort. If you find you're having to make a lot of effort maybe its best not to persist. But hey you haven't even had the date yet..just go with an open mind, the conflict may be within you now, nothing to do with the other. In any case don't let the answer spoil your date

I sometimes have gotten hex 6 when I'm stressing about meeting someone and the meeting has been fine..it was my inner conflict it was referring to.

Occurs to me also 6 comes up when we are in two minds about something. Maybe you aren't sure you want a relationship and all that entails, part of you may want to go, the other part doesn't ?

 

[rony]

I sometimes have gotten hex 6 when I'm stressing about meeting someone and the meeting has been fine..it was my inner conflict it was referring to.

Occurs to me also 6 comes up when we are in two minds about something. Maybe you aren't sure you want a relationship and all that entails, part of you may want to go, the other part doesn't ?[/QUOTE]

Exactely! I am definitely in that mood - part of me wants to go the other part doesn't knowing that relationships are never easy...
Super thanks trojan, it's definitely much clearer for me now and I'll try to meet this person with an open mind and...heart...
thanks again for taking your time.
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