"How likely am I to settle down and marry someone" and Yi's answer, 22.3.6 to 24.

[MeltingPot247]

"How likely am I to settle down and marry someone" and Yi's answer, 22.3.6 to 24.

This is probably one of the most important questions I will ever ask, because it takes me back to one of my earliest childhhod memories..................When I was 5 we had book character week and I told my family I wanted to dress up as a bride, which I did. However, there was domestic and other violence and abuse in my home as a young person and when a teacher asked what I wanted to be when I grew up - I said spinster................Well in the past decade or so I had children to one man, who I refused to marry and subsequently left as I didn't like the way he treated me. A few years later I reconnected woth a high school sweetheart who was not so sweet in adult life and also refused him...this guy took his own life and so I started seeking "God". Half a year later I saw someone that I wanted to be with and carried a torch for 3 years when he met someone else (I hardly spoke to this guy, think I was afraid). Then this year I met someone older and we had an open casual relationship. I think what I've picked up is that this person has taught me it is probably better to have a stable, long term commited relationship with one partner.................I've never wanted more than one partner, but I should have kept to myself until I was approached by someone - who over time I would have figured out if they had qualities I was looking for and vice versa, that we were balanced and complementary....................I have been getting a lot of meditative/introspective/retreat messages from yi for my current circumstances as there are things about myself I need to change if I want to attract a person with those qualities right.....................Based on this challenge I've put to myself I asked -How likely am I to settle down and marry someone" and Yi's answer, 22.3.6 to 24:......Oracle: Beauty. Creating success.Small yield from having a direction to go.'...........Line 3'Beautiful, as if dipped in water.Ever-flowing constancy, good fortune.'...........Line 6'White beauty.No mistake.'.........24: Returning, creating success.Going out, coming in, without anxiety.Partners come, not a mistake.Turning around and returning on your path.The seventh day comes, you return.Fruitful to have a direction to go.'I guess this points to the journey I'm on, reflects the choices I've made and seems to point to success if I purify my heart and mind once and be at peace. This year I was not pure of heart but previous 3 years I had made an effort to be - so this could be 24 returning..........it's hard being good, doing what is probably best and right for yourself when you enjoy the close comfort and company of others now and again instead of taking things slow, developing a connection first so that there is trust and a stable foundation in the first place hmmmmmm......I do wonder what lines 2 and 3 actually mean, if I've interpreted them correctly with the comments that followed the Hilary translations.

 

[MeltingPot247]

I meant lines 3 and 6 not 2 and 3 ��

 

[marybluesky]

Hello MeltingPot247 !

When I was 5 we had book character week and I told my family I wanted to dress up as a bride, which I did.

Me too! However I haven't had any single serious relationship up to this day.

Then this year I met someone older and we had an open casual relationship. I think what I've picked up is that this person has taught me it is probably better to have a stable, long term committed relationship with one partner.

LOL. That's what my casual relationship with a Pisces man taught me last year.

it's hard being good, doing what is probably best and right for yourself when you enjoy the close comfort and company of others now and again instead of taking things slow, developing a connection first so that there is trust and a stable foundation in the first place

It's so, so hard! I'm really bad at intentionally developing a connection with the potential of becoming a romantic relationship. Too pragmatic for some instinctive, passionate, non-planner type like me.

Now your reading: How likely am I to settle down and marry someone? 22.3.6 >24

Hexagram 22, Beauty. "Judgment: There's nothing wrong with showing a little style, but don't become so identified with a role that it makes your decisions for you."
Line 3: "If he maintains his firm correctness, in the end no one will insult him."
Don't forget what you value deep down for the sake of any relationship. And be open about that. Compromise a bit, not too much.
Line 6: "Simple decoration. No blame. " No need to pretend. Just offer and demand what's natural for you: " The line shows how he has attained his aim." Good news!

Hexagram 24: Return. "Revival, Recovery". Returning to your true path. It can refer to you recognizing your real need- a committed relationship that you dreamed about since childhood. You return after exploring other ways of life.
So you can find a man willing to settle down by being true to yourself and others.

Good luck!

*The italic parts are cited from James DeKorne website.

 

[MeltingPot247]

I sent you a PM Marybluesky

 

[radiofreewill]

Hi MeltingPot247,

"How likely am I to settle down and marry someone?"
22.3.6 to 24 ~ In order to 'couple' with someone of like mind, start now.

I like marybluesky's read!

I say: You aren't locked-in to a lifetime of playing the role of a spinster (22) ~ the attractiveness of yin power is with you now (line 3) ~ and you know what you like (line 6): Green Light! (24)

So, to answer your question: You are most likely to settle down and get married to the 'right' guy, if you begin the process of finding him sooner, rather than later.

Best of Luck!

 

[MeltingPot247]

Thank you for your insight Radiofreewill....I received a tarot reading which depicted me as the fool and someone that I have been seeing as temperance and came across this interesting story which I feel relates to this hexagram casting: https://tarotbyarwen.com/2446/the-fool-meets-temperance/

 

[radiofreewill]

"You see, the secret is that I can turn any situation into something different just by how I think and act. We all can.”

I love it ~ that Angel is a good diviner!

I think you are wise to embrace transformation ~

Please keep us posted on your journey?

 

[MeltingPot247]

Hi Radiofreewill,With regards to my previous response to you about my position as fool, his as temperance (relationship as world), the guy I'm referring I discuss is on this thread - https://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/fri...am-2/page4..................................I also think post 45 from Wck6265 on the following link relates to my past and current thread https://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/fri...ive-crossfire!-Help!&p=134384#post134384Thank you all - best wishes.MP

 

[radiofreewill]

Thanks, MP ~

The "Is he still interested in me?" thread was good for background on your guy, and you ~ plus it contains a nice mini- course on reading strategies, too?

If you'd like to get under the covers with the Yi a little more, I find it helps to compare and contrast the cosmologies behind the traditions of the West (which are based on Transcendence, like Tarot) and the traditions of the East (which are based on Immanence, like Yi)? Here's a very good, brief summary from noted sinologist Roger Ames.

Also, in the Appended Statements to the i-Ching, it states:

"Just as the heavens are above and the earth below,
so also the relative positions of Chien (1) and Kun (2)
are fixed in the Yi.
Just as there are low-lying and high-standing places
spread out on the earth,
so also do the lines of the hexagrams
have low positions and high positions.
Just as movement and rest
have their constancies in the heavens,
so also the movements of the hard and soft lines
of the hexagrams are settled."

So, the Sages built the Yi as a tool in order to model one of their most basic observations about the world: "As it is in Heaven, so also is it on Earth."

In the language of the Yi, the Fool's journey is one of self-discovery: She turns inward to seek Truth through resonance with the very source of her intuition ~ at the core of her being ~ because the creative spirit at her core is not different than the wisdom and compassion that guides the whole universe?

When one's self-cultivation has developed to such a degree that one spontaneously merges with the ineffable spirit inside, then that One is called a Sage.

Therefore, the Sages built the Yi as a tool for discerning the 'easy' path of effortless best fortune through the fallen world of self-interested desire ~ a path that leads directly to the shen-ming (spiritual illumination, immortality and enlightenment) of Sagehood.

In the orthodoxy of the West, Heaven is 'out there' with the Stars, and so the expectation is that we have to wait until we die before we can experience it? In the East, however, our basic inner awareness is treated as a faithful microcosmic replica of the perfect macrocosm ~ it's just trapped underneath the blinding and entangling desires of our Ego. In the East, it's possible to get to heaven by a practice of going inward ~ to find deliverance from separateness ~ while still alive.

The Yi says that if you get your inner microcosm 'right' ~ then your outer world will align with it automagically ~ and the feedback it gives you when you are 'in the flow of life' is called blissful contentedness.

I hope this helps!

 

[MeltingPot247]

It does help.

 

[radiofreewill]

Excellent!

I'm still a relative newcomer to the i-Ching, less than 10 years, but
having had the benefit of the community, and especially the mods and
regular commenters, has accelerated my learning greatly.

Our headmistress here very kindly maintains a wealth of curated and
well-vetted information on the i-Ching ~ a veritable treasure trove
really ~ about the Yi and how we can use it for benefit in our daily
lives. The Public Forums, as well as Change Circle and the Coursework
available here give people the opportunity to explore the oracle across
the full spectrum of interest from curious beginner to full-time diviner.

It was via reading a forum discussion here at Clarity that I found the
link to this fabulous paper from Willard Peterson analyzing the Yi's own
description of itself:

https://www.biroco.com/yijing/Peterson_Making_Connections.pdf

That paper is a little long-ish at 50 pages, so it might be a good read
best-suited for a weekend morning, but I found it to be highly
informative ~ it went a long way towards clarifying my relationship with
the Yi ~ and pondering it for understanding helped me be a better
reader, too?

Still, for me, I learn the most from these public forum shared readings
discussions ~ especially when the questioners come back later and update
their questions, tosses and predictions with real-world results?

I hope you continue to enjoy getting to know the Yi here at Clarity!