iching or instinct

[halfsister]

I am really bothered by my lover's action lately. no email, no text messages or calls.
we have zero communication and claimed to be very busy.

my instict says she's not interested with me anymore.
I consulted iching and ask what she really feels for me and I got
hex 19, line 1,2,3 changing turning to hex 15.

is that good or bad?

 

[willowfox]

I don't see any change of heart here but she obviously need to be made aware that this distance between you is upsetting you. So, the advice is to contact her and tell her that you are feeling left out, what's the story.

 

[halfsister]

I already did. She promised to spend more time with me once she's not busy anymore.
I love her so I’m willing to wait. I just need to know if she is worth my time and my love. It hurts when you love someone who is thinking about another person.

 

[willow]

I think the reading is counseling you to pay some attention to why you are having that "instinct" feeling, not answering whether it is true or not. A solid relationship with someone is always based on you having a solid sense of your own self - there is always that painful irony that you can't really fully love someone and be in mutual relationship with them unless you have released all sense that you are "incomplete" without them.

It could be that she is just genuinely busy, or it could be that she loves someone else and is shining you on. You are taking all the practical steps that seem appropriate to keep up your side of the communication, and you are willing to wait in order to see how things develop.

Really, at this point it doesn't matter so much what the answer is about her feelings/motivations. This is about examining your Approach. How you use this time to develop yourself is what matters. If you spend it clinging and needy, seeing fears, you may steadily become less capable of the next level of relationship (whether it is with her or with another later on). If you spend it becoming more able to say, "I honor your path," without the need to control, your ability to walk your own path will deepen, and with it, your capability to walk a shared path with another.

The quality of your practical communications with her will convey openness and respect. You will be able to live up to the words, "joint approach."

 

[halfsister]

wow, thank you for enlightening me. all you comments are greatly appreciated.