New Year...new questions...

[kdedeaux4]

...or maybe it's just a new spin on the same old questions...I really don't know for sureHoping for insight and thoughts nonetheless

Recently started seeing someone (!!!!!!!!!!)..not sure that it's "seeing", or dating, or just what it's considered these days really...but I digress and that's another question perhaps...

Spending some time with a man recently, enjoying it, not really rushing anything though.. seems a nice guy and we connect well thus far. I'm concerned for a few reasons....one, he's going through a divorce and I (due to my personal morals) feel a little strange about that circumstance...two: I have been going through an extended (extremely)rough patch with an ex bf and am just recently, for the first time in 4 years, starting to feel as tho I might *truly* be getting free from that disastrous mess...
To me, this seems a dangerous and difficult combination for any 2 people starting something of any nature..so I asked the IC for some insight and advice into the connection.

Response: 27.1.5 changing to 20.
This seems to be saying (IMHO):
27.1:that there may be potential here of something good as long as there's wisdom (ironically, tying to make wise choices is why i consulted the IC about this )
27.5: Pause...do not move forward at this time
20: Stand back and think long and hard about this

Hmmmmm...... lots of "pausing" and "thinking" seems to be recommended here...and yet line 1 seems to be saying there's good potential....

I would love to hear others' thoughts on this...I do want to be wise and cautious here, but to be honest, I also feel that I've been in the "pause and reflect mode" in relationships for quite some time already...
Any thoughts?

 

[lloyd]

Some thoughts, yes, but I'll stay with you till hex 20.

After the idea of Domestication (19) is fully understood, Nourishment (20) is possible.
27 - Suggests (image)that one is careful with words and practices restraints.
1 - Shows a lack of control about one's own destiny, possibly by fulfilling narrow/selfish designs.
20 - Proposes that you (the "king") inspect the 'country' in order to hear the people and rule by taking their wishes into account:bows:
I'd take it from there on, for further questioning.

 

[knotxx]

For me 27.1 has often said -- 'you have something really fine right where you are; do not drop it to run after something else.' 27.5 says something similar, it seems to me, with its emphasis on not crossing any big rivers right now. 20 does seem to suggest pausing to look over the whole landscape of your life to see how this fits in.

 

[kdedeaux4]

Thank you Lloyd and Knot!!

I think I need to reflect more on this ( ) because I'm still struggling to grasp. Do you think this indicates this is merely a self-serving thing on my part? Or perhaps on his part? Either/and/or? That would make sense given the circumstances..and yet, I've no intentional wish to self-serve or be "used" in any manner either... That wouldn't be healthy for my karma or for my fumbling self-esteem at this time....
In addition, I think if I reflect much more on it, I'll decline altogether..but then, perhaps that IS the correct answer, then?
I believe I'll think your insight(s) over a bit more and then try to recast for additional clarity. I will post and hope to hear more of your thoughts.
Thank you so much:bows:

 

[lloyd]

I believe I'll think your insight(s) over a bit more and then try to recast for additional clarity.

Yep. Let it sink in, work with it. Not just by yourself, but bring it up in a sensitive way with your very best friends, sister, whatever ... people who 'know' you. The thing is to LIVE what you may learn from I Ching