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Thread: 60.1.2.3 to 39 -- Love Dilemma

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    Default 60.1.2.3 to 39 -- Love Dilemma

    Hello everyone, For the past month and a half, I was struggling to choose between two men. One is my current boyfriend, we are not doing very well because he is very flirty with other girls and doesn't involve me in his future plans. Second one is a guy I met recently, he is way more serious and kind and openly shows interest to me. I have been on a few dates with the second guy just to see how I will feel, but I wasn't attracted to him physically. He wasn't as cool or funny as my current boyfriend. I have finally made my mind and told him we shouldn't see each other again. My bf continues to be a jerk and the second guy responded rejection in a very kind and understanding manner. So I asked IC " What is your judgement about my decision?" I got 60.1.2.3 to 39. I am a bit confused about how to interpret it. Any comments or advice would be appreciated.
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    Although this relationship is less than ideal, you have accepted it's limits and pulled back from seeking new friends. This is a frustrating situation. The advice in the image of 39 suggests you "turn your attention to yourself and mold your character." I'm not sure what that could mean. Maybe you should become more realistic. Perhaps you should ask why you "limit" yourself to a man who is not limiting himself to you. Why you are acting as if this is a committed partnership and thus limiting yourself to just him and which sets you up to feel disappointed when he sees others?

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    Thank you so much for your input Rosada. Actually your interpretation makes so much sense because the main reason that I stopped seeing others was to be honest with myself and not to camouflage the fact that I am unhappy in my relationship. Now things are getting so much better with my bf but I need to evalute if I REALLY want that kind of relationship or not. So the suggestion of 39 is important and very wise in this regard. I need to work more on my self worth and self esteem so I don't find myself in a relationship that makes me feel worthless again.

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    I see it as an image of confusion.

    WB translations:
    .1: "Not going out of the door and the courtyard is without blame.
    .2: "Not going out of the door and courtyard brings misfortune.
    .3: "He who knows no limitation will have cause to lament. No blame.

    I see this as like the Johnny Cash song: you have to know when to hold them, know when to fold em, know when to walk away, know when to run...

    It sounds like it's a mess, probably because there's a psychological obstruction/issue (39) which you need to work on, perhaps via therapy or other means.
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    I don't know about therapy but I definitely think 60.1 says you've been timid and 60.2 means you need to get out more. Maybe 60.3 is warning that if he doesn't shape up you aren't going to put up with it much longer!

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