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Thank you for both of your replies. I don't want to "wear out my welcome" here by overwhelming you both with questions but I do have just one last one regarding the next hexagram to help me get a grasp on the situation...if that's OK ..
I sat here this afternoon trying to clear my head a bit and considered your responses. Since I can't contact the guy right now, and feel that I should NOT contact him right now..I should wait...I cast again this afternoon (then decided to take a break from the subject)
I asked, "What is he going through RIGHT now regarding me?" and I got Present Hexagram 6, "Conflict" with changing Line 3 which resulted in a future, related hexagram of 44, "meeting" or "liason". Do you think that "liason" implies only a temporary romantic "fling"? Are there different ways of interpreting this?
I am also curious to understand why the hexagram is Hex 6.3 what the whole picture entails instead of just seeing it as two phases...conflict followed by a brief liason.. there seems to be a missing link..
oh I forgot to add, the "will he leave his other relationship?" came with Hex 41.4
oh I forgot to add, the "will he leave his other relationship?" came with Hex 41.4
ahhh..it's perhaps telling ME to decrease, to chill out...and that too much focus on this is only youthful folly on my part? Makes good sense actually.
Hi laylab
b) Regarded your situation; I would dare to sugest you a little more order. Instead of asking for others, ask first about yourself; before ask the future, understand the present.
Best wishes
"I just couldn't resist asking "will he fall for me"? Answer was: 17 Following with changing line 6 leading to related Hexagram: 45 Innocence/Curiosity
Yes he will.
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There is absolutely no reason to suppose 17,6 means he will fall for you Laylab and I suggest you look to reality rather than the Yi for a moment cos it seems to me you're using the Yi to shore up a picture of what you want to be . If he is in love with you, infatuated with you wouldn't he be trying to communicate that to you ?
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I don't think he is in love with me. But I am pretty positive he is infatuated. The reason he is not communicating anything to me is that:
The reality of the situation is that he lives with a partner (not wife but as close as you can get) who got pregnant and they had a child two years ago. He and I came together but I ended it because he needs to either be with her or leave if he is unhappy. He wasn't expecting me to end it, I ended our relationship after a very intense 4 weeks and he was taken by surprise. But he has been in contact with me since,..he has written. I haven't responded to the mail yet. I am just waiting for something more concrete.
In the meantime, I don't know if I should respond or how. This is what this is all about, I need to know how to behave. Whether I should be receptive or completely ignore him. One thing I am absolutely sure of, (as are friends who got to see us together) is that he was/is completely smitten.
I think he is faced now with the reality that if he wants something different, it means unpleasant realizations and not living with his child anymore. He must also feel guilty, his partner has gained alot of weight and let herself go, but still, she gave him a child! I don't approve of the cheating (even though I know I participated in it)..people should make choices, you can not have your cake and eat it too.
He introduced me to his two best friends, they also said he was "swept away" but I didnt ask for details and I have not been in contact with them since I ended things with him.
I know that he ask about me, around a mutual aquantaince.
Otherwise, I don't know much. I am keeping a low profile.
I think he is faced now with the reality that if he wants something different, it means unpleasant realizations and not living with his child anymore. He must also feel guilty, his partner has gained alot of weight and let herself go, but still, she gave him a child! I don't approve of the cheating (even though I know I participated in it)..people should make choices, you can not have your cake and eat it too.
He introduced me to his two best friends, they also said he was "swept away" but I didnt ask for details and I have not been in contact with them since I ended things with him.
I know that he ask about me, around a mutual aquantaince.
Otherwise, I don't know much. I am keeping a low profile.
You really need to get a book called 'Hes just not that into you' seems theres millions of women out there convinced a man is with someone else but he really wants to be with them. QUOTE]
LOL, not only do I have that book but I have bought copies for friends for Christmas!
This is not exactly one of those situations. I never chased him, he chased me. He didn't break up with me, I broke up with him and I am not contacting him now, he is the one doing the contacting.
I like him alot and I see that he likes me. But I am not willing to run after a guy or be with a guy that is not 100% with me. It only took me four weeks to figure that out. This has not been dragging on.
The interest I have here, in using the I ching for some answers is to understand what is truly potentially possible. It has only been 10 days since I ended things with him..
If I see that he will not make changes in his life, then I won't need to ask the IC one more thing, because I already know how to behave if t hat is the case. this is a matter of curiousity. Of intense interest in fact.
And yes, when a man calls me and text me 5 to 7 times a day, is constantly taking me out, writing me and chatting with me...he IS into me..at 30 something, that I know
I have received gifts, wonderful love making, nights out on the town, constant calls. And I felt equally intense.
BUT
I knew, that if I want him to realize that he can't have his cake and eat it to, t hat I had to SUDDENLY end it and cut myself off from him. If I had dragged it on, whining or complaining, that would have only made me and him miserable.
I feel like things will clarify in the next two weeks. Right now I am not even in the same city..I left the country for a bit to visit friends.
Sure thing predictions, especially for relationship questions, regardless who offers them, always make me feel the need for a cleansing hot shower.
I am a little unclear as to the i chings ability to predict the future as much as it does just generally explain a current situation; Although, Determinism implies that if one could see ALL that has ever occured in the universe, every action and reaction, big and small, then one would know all that will ever happen in the future. Of course, no human can know this, only the universe can...but the universe may not be interested in keeping such excellent records.
Somehow I feel that by using the I ching i am just communicating with my subconscious and with the universe..like the i ching is a link between my subconscious (which I cannot normally access) and the universe..
So..I see it more as my wise grandmother...she couldnt always tell the future, but she was right most of the time. Only thing is, she didnt speak in riddles or symbols..she would say, "whack that man over the head and go about your business girl!" lol
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).