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I asked the oracle this morning for insight into why I'm being cut out.
8.4 > 45
Hexagram 8 does suggest business involvement:
On the earth is water:
The image of Holding Together.
Thus the kings of antiquity
Bestowed the different states as fiefs
And cultivated friendly relations
With the feudal lords.
15hr days are exhausting.
Six in the fourth place means:
Hold to him outwardly also.
Perseverance brings good fortune.
Counsels perseverance.
Image of 45
Over the earth, the lake:
The image of Gathering Together.
Thus the superior man renews his weapons
In order to meet the unforeseen.
What would your strengths be in the defense of the relationship? ". . . so I'm just trying to focus on things within myself right now and wait until I hear from him." I think that's a good policy.
I was not implying deviation specifically, I thought it generally useful.
You are trying to find out why he has cut you out and how he'll respond to your email as in 'what will the impact of my email be' etc so you are trying to figure what his thoughts are whilst not being able to communicate with him...which as you will have read has its pitfalls.
I didn't realise you had already read it so obviously the link was not relevant..so ignore if you want
Hello,
I have lurked here for awhile now, but finally decided to take the plunge and ask for some advice on the readings I got today.
I meditated on that for awhile and then decided to ask what path our relationship was on and got 58.1.3.5>16. Which sounds good to me, but I am not experienced at this.
I do feel like this is the person I am meant to be with, and I know he feels the same because he has told me so. We communicate very well and openly, which is why this off and on pulling back on the communication has me concerned.
Any input would be greatly appreciated.
Can't avoid work, have to deal with and come to terms with emotional baggage as it comes up.
I'd be lying if I said I wasn't hurt over it, because I am, and this sort of behavior is also a trigger for my own baggage, but he is Him, not the Other Guy. So I will have faith in him, and hope for the best.
Well as the Angel of Death I come to say don't have faith in him because that is the precise advice of 58.5 ! 58.5 states it is dangerous to place your sincerity or trust in disintegrating influences...disintegrative to you...in other words your integrity in investing in this is not wholly well placed. 58.3 shows times when we look forward, expect something thats not actually coming. As a sentence though 58>32 could say 'enduring joy' or 'openess/joy enduring/continuing. Its odd when the lines contradict the sentence the 2 hexes make ...but still I'd say there are complications here. What looks sweet may not be something you'd actually want to invest in.
In your shoes I would pull back just a little and watch where you are giving yourself away realising you may be trusting just a little too much in something that may be undermining, that looks promising but delivers nothing (58.3)
This is not to say its dead in the water, the reading could reflect a temporary state of affairs...but still I would heed both 58.3 and 58.5 .....so in the context of all this communication, openness, joy.......keep some guard there, its not so sweet as it looks. Something threatens to undermine you...already is undermining you if you give yourself over to it wholly believing its all for your good. I think you are advised to keep yourself intact by not laying yourself so open to it. Protect yourself a bit and rein in the expectations a bit too perhaps ?
afterthought...thinking of 58>32 with these lines makes me think of him continually stringing you along a bit....maybe hes not, but its one impression I have
How does one thank someone for their advice?
I have seen it done on posts in other threads, but can't figure out how to do it.
Well, the exact question I asked while casting was "What is the potential of this relationship".
You are right, I have lost autonomy and I am definitely waiting for his next move, because I don't think that forcing him to talk about things that, according to him, he can't define yet, will be beneficial. Were I to follow my impulses right now, I would be sending him messages and emails daily going into how his behaviour is hurting me, questioning him on the whys and wherefores, giving him blind advice based on speculative reasons why I think he is feeling so disconnected. But that is fear based action, right? That is what I mean by being clingy. Plus it shifts the focus of the situation to me, and my needs and turns everything into being about ME, and that isn't fair to him. My needs are important too, but so are his, and I have to respect that.
He has definitely hurt me, and I feel I have every right to be hurt. Whether he means to or not, he is handling this poorly, but since (to the best of my knowledge) there isn't a deliberate betrayal going on here, I am taking his intent into account and turning the other cheek. I would want the same. That doesn't mean that I won't advocate for myself though, I just don't think now is the time to do so. He either has to learn to communicate what he's going through before it builds up and/or I need to realize and accept that this is just how he handles stress and not immediately think that it means he is dumping me (my baggage again).
Something I haven't revealed here is that he did do this once before, in late March. I didn't bring it up because I don't see them as two separate instances - I see it as one ongoing issue beginning at that point. I reacted poorly at the time, which is why I'm being so careful to handle it correctly now. When he returned after his absence, he apologized. All the major changes in such a short time frame (a month at that point), as well as situations that triggered a bunch of emotions regarding his failed marriage had all come crashing down on him and he froze like a deer in the headlights.
When I talk about trusting and having faith in him, I mean in the regards of taking him on his word that his feelings for me haven't changed, he still wants to explore our potential, that there isn't anything going on (i.e. another woman, just playing me, etc), that it really is something internal that he is struggling with. It may very well indeed be about me, but he may not realize it. Yet. I don't think he is deliberately playing games, or wanting his cake and to eat it to. I see 58.5 as a reminder and warning that he is flawed, that perhaps I am holding him to an ideal that is higher than he can live up to right now - or ever. In many ways he has been my white knight throughout our entire relationship, from friendship to romance, but maybe it's time I help him down off of that horse and look at him eye to eye.
You are right that I'm looking for reassurance under the guise of insight. It isn't that I don't want the insight, but if I wasn't worried and feeling insecure, I probably wouldn't have asked at all. I was hoping I would get a clear picture of what was really happening here.
If this were someone new I had just met, I wouldn't even be bothering, but he was my best friend. My only friend really. I just want to do the right thing, even if that right thing is maybe taking a step back, although I don't see how that is possible at that point. And that is not on me, when we finally spoke about our feelings for one another, I was proceeding with caution, whereas he took it and ran with it. I've been letting him lead since, but maybe that's a mistake.
I see what you're saying about holding back from making demands on him, asking for reassurance and so on, but at some point, in an intimate relationship, doesn't one have to know the other in all their neediness and 'clinginess'...what I'm getting at is that should you really have to so carefully manage your needy feelings to keep them out of his way if infact ultimately you wish him to be the one to fill all those needs. If he cannot reassure you , know you, be with you when you expose these less attractive, totally uncool, but authentic needy feelings (that we all have) then can he love you like you wanna be loved ?
Anyway I don't know it like you do obviously so I can ony give my impression from the reading
There might be a Thanks button at the lower right corner of the post, to the right of the Edit and Quote buttons. For some unknown reason, not everyone finds a Thanks button. If you do have it, just click on that button. Some post a thanks message at the end of the thread, and some thank by PM.
There might be a Thanks button at the lower right corner of the post, to the right of the Edit and Quote buttons. For some unknown reason, not everyone finds a Thanks button. If you do have it, just click on that button. Some post a thanks message at the end of the thread, and some thank by PM.
I think the reason is that a 'Thanks' button doesn't appear until a certain number of posts have been made so all total newbies here won't be able to use the 'Thanks' button till they have done whatever the required number of posts is to activate the button
I think that because I remember someone else saying it...though I'm not sure if its true
Seems odd
You make an excellent point, but he actually does know, because I have talked to him about it. His response was "Be needy! Be needy!", lol. I don't think he really sees me as such, I think he feels I am strong (I am, I just have my issues like anyone else), but this is a personal struggle that I'm working on. I realized that before and during my marriage, I made a lot of decisions that were based on fear, and those decisions put me in a terrible position. When I'm scared, I cling, and this is something I am confronting in myself. I need to learn to trust in the Universe more.
Case in point - In the email I sent him, I told him I was feeling insecure and asked him point blank for clarification and reassurance (in those actual words). His response was to confirm that he was indeed going through something he couldn't explain yet but to not worry, that it didn't change a thing in regards to how he feels about me (almost his exact words, just changed the grammar so it would make sense in this post). So there it is, I got exactly what I asked for from him. And since I am consciously working on confronting my fears and learning to trust, the Universe has provided me with the perfect opportunity to do so.
He didn't tell me to not contact him, he didn't tell me he needed a break from our relationship, he didn't change our relationship status on facebook(lol), he didn't say or do anything like that, just that he was tired, overwhelmed and feeling disconnected from everything and was trying to figure out why. It was me who said "take all the time you need, I'm here for you if/when you are ready to talk about, and if you don't want to talk about it, that's okay too". It seemed pretty clear to me that he wanted space, even if he didn't directly ask for it.
So then why am I afraid?
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
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