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Last time we went outside of a pub and kissed and caressed each other, he kept saying he can't do anything with me tonight because he has to study, and it all seemed to intense for him. He wanted so hard to keep his "cool" but couldn't.
He than left couple of minutes later while I was in the pub bathroom, just kind of ran away. I haven't heard from him since than, but I am falling for him really hard and can't stop thinking about him, and I am sure he is thinking about me too.
So i asked- What can I expect form my relationship with him?, and got hexagram 11 unchanging. I would really appreciate any thoughts and insights into my situation as I am at the moment not the most balanced and logical self. Thank you!!
He than left couple of minutes later while I was in the pub bathroom, just kind of ran away. I haven't heard from him since than, but I am falling for him really hard and can't stop thinking about him, and I am sure he is thinking about me too.
Granted, but for instance when you go to DeKorne’s site he has many editions and much scholarly commentary which all seem to read it as I do, no?Erm no it doesn't...see the 11 uc thread here
11 doesn't just mean harmony and positivity, it is flow, the full flow of events which can take you for a ride. You can see the 11uc experiences are pretty varied.
Yes, this gave me stern pause but I supposed she couldn’t possibly be as unlucky as I was.As an observer I think this below is about the biggest turn off there is....
Why would you bother with someone who abandons you by running away while you are in the bathroom...I mean if this happened to a friend what would you say to her about this guy ?
Ok, I do understand what you’re saying. Those nights with him may have been for her psychologically/sexually “the small departing and the great arriving” as the text says. But he on the other hand may have experienced the same yet for his own reasons may have been scared off by it.The text of Yi can't be wrong but the interpretation and the commentary can be and also you have to bear in mind the scale of the application, the scale of the question. The arrival of this great flow, the small departing won't always mean good fortune in the way we think of it.
So the querent may have opened up to great things, feelings she never had before, she's part of something huge, that feeling of love with this man. If this man does not follow through she will still have had that experience so perhaps in terms of her whole life it's a time of all sorts of things opening up to her. That doesn't mean everything will be all perfect with this man.
I think we see that over and over in relationship questions. It's as if in Yi's perspective the actual relationships are merely instrumental in the development in each person.
I don't personally see this as about the development and opening of the soul for this querent but Yi does possibly.
So I think you are seeing the text too narrowly as all rewarding stuff coming in but it's much bigger than that, wider than that.
All very well and eloquently stated, and I’m in complete agreement with all you set forth. From my own experience in my youth I can most definitely say that the mandate of the “sexual revolution” put me (and others) in grave danger - both physical and psychological - and caused much damage.Do you ever think, and I do so increasingly when I read these forums, that the old fashioned idea of a girl/woman refusing sex until she has some commitment from the man that he actually cares about her actually had a very good reason ?
I sure do now, more and more. Having sex isn't just a physical action that leaves no trace which is partly why all the codes of ethics and such sprang up around it. I've read that when you have sex with someone you maintain and etheric connection, like a cord to them. You've shared with something quite sacred to you, your very essence. That's not to be toyed with it's precious and it will hurt like hell when what you gave is not treated as precious. I'm not even coming from a moral stance here but if you stay around these forums long enough you see the same story unfolding over and over where a woman has had sex with a guy without yet being in any kind of relationship with him and then he's gone and she is completely devastated.
I don't even believe the 'move on' kind of advice is realistic. People, especially women, don't just 'move on' when they've made a connection and shared the whole of themselves and shared sex, formed that etheric connection even as some might say absorbed something of the other's soul. There's a reason all the fairy stories tell of the prince having to complete 3 tasks before he wins the hand of the princess, and there's a deeper reason why, apart from the social/ political reasons, traditionally women are meant to guard their sex from plunder - odd word but I'll go with it because actually this kind of behaviour from him is plunder. I'm not blaming him but due to differences inherent in our biology and make up she stands to lose far more in terms of emotional pain than he does. He is more genetically programmed to 'spread his seed' and she is more genetically programmed to find a mate who will care for her and her offspring and even if modern life is nothing like that that truth remains and what is more I don't even think it is all genetic I think there is a spiritual aspect also.
That was a long ramble but I just wanted to say I think women have been duped somewhat with the 'sexual revolution' of the 60s so that there is now the idea it doesn't matter, you can just have sex with someone even if they aren't committed to you and it won't hurt you and you can move on. That's not true, it's a lie an utter lie and a harmful one as it goes against the real feeling nature of most women, pardon the generalisation.
I'm only saying all this because if this guy has withdrawn, in a most immature way I might add, there is also the chance that when he's feeling horny or in need, when his mood changes, he will call you again Amethyst and you will be delighted and you will receive him and then he'll vanish again and all that will take a terrible toll on your heart and your life energy. And yes all this between you is the energy of life, 11, he could have impregnated you if this was 100 years ago and just because there's contraception doesn't mean those flows of life don't pull you about all over the place. I just want to say be wary of being used and maybe hold off in the old fashioned way if actually you see you are being used as a convenience for him. I think even if you really enjoyed the sex remember it's not worth it if you are going to feel devastated with loss for the next year or more. Life's too short and you need someone who is going to care about you and I'm afraid running away whilst you are in a pub toilet is not the sign of a mature man who can be of any worth to you.
I may be wrong and this works out well but the above is something I wanted to say for a while in general in these forums anyway because there are far too many women wasting their lives in great emotional pain because they had sex with someone who shows no care to them. I think this is in part due to them believing lies about the nature of their own hearts. Heart and sex are irrevocably tied together for most women so take care of these precious things and do not let them be trampled on. That's not his fault in particular, he's just doing what comes naturally but in some sense I believe there will also be a cost for him emotionally and spiritually in the long run.
I think you should just go about your life, take care of yourself, and leave the rest to him. Hexagram 11 unchanging to me would indicate that you should be tranquil and at peace with what occurred, and any limitations of that. It’s wonderful that you have an expanded sense of yourself, so be happy and maintain that!I am wondering, with this hexagram, is it best for the time being to just let go? Should I be active or pasive?
I am wondering, with this hexagram, is it best for the time being to just let go? Should I be active or pasive?
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).