Clarity,
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London.
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United Kingdom
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Am inclined to see it like that, too. If he wasn't mocking you, nothing to worry about, but if he was, Yi says don't worry about that, either.a nudge from the Yi to not feel bad about expressing you feelings
Maybe it means to ask him? I don’t think it’s in a confrontational way, more just that it’s ok to “complain” if you need to get your needs met.
Asking the colleague might be taken as confrontational but I think it's important to give yourself the option. If circumstances don´t allow you to ask then maybe talk to someone else about it. Exploring your options, looking at the situation from different angles could help you gain some perspective.Whether it means go confront him, I don't know. Would that help, or only create enmity at work? Another option could be to file your suspicion away in your mind as information.
Today at work, I was sat in an office and I could over hear a collague's converation in the air duct. It sounded like he was mocking me because I was upset at Christmas time. It feels like line 6 "no mistake" means he was intentionally mocking me. Unless there's more to line 6.
I get the impression that there is much more going on here then a comment from a colleague that was or wasn't meant in a mocking manner. If asking your colleague upfront would be to stressful then you shouldn't put yourself through that.I spoke to my manager about it and she said he wouldn't do that because he could loose his job if he did that. I'm not sure whether or not to ask him about it. I think if it turned out he had, I wouldn't want to speak to him ever again.
Well it's down to personality also how anyone would handle it. We don't know giraffe's personality. No amount of Yi questioning is going to make this safe or certain.But if it was me, I think I'd ask Yi that specific question before barrelling ahead and doing it.
But if you imagine you knew ahead of time what difference it would make you wouldn't bother talking to him at all and then you'd never know what he would have said. I think here you're suggesting talking to Yi instead of him which could just lead to more deliberation/confusion instead of going straight to him.But if it was me, I think I'd ask Yi that specific question before barrelling ahead and doing it. There's enough confusion with the question and answer to justify that, I think. "What if I talk to him?," "What difference would it make if I talked to him about this?," "What could I expect if I confront him?," or something.
Well surely it's a direct way of accomplishing closure, settlement, peace of mind. As I said it gives him chance to clear the decks, to reassure or make amends. If he won't or indeed he was talking about her well she knows where she stands with him. And of course the cost of not clearing up things like this is they stay on your mind for years and eat away at you.In either case what would talking to him accomplish?
Well no I don't think that is only what closure is here, though maybe 'closure' isn't the best word. It also accomplishes something if she finds out where she stands with him even if it's awful. Then she can decide when and if she ever wants to communicate with him again. That's closure too. It's not 'hanging' she can decide to cut him out as much a she can or decide how she wants to feel about /be with him. But I don't know how much contact she has to have with him anyway.The only way closure happens is if (a) he admits it and apologizes profusely, or (b) he really didn't say it and can convince Giraffe of that. Every other possiblity I can think of leaves it hanging, only now more escalated.
I actually don't know what hearing someone through an airduct means? Not that it matters a great deal, I get the gist but I don't know how you hear people through airducts. What kind of airduct? Would the person be in the next room or on another floor?or mark Giraffe down as someone who confronts people based on something she thinks she heard through an air duct.
Yes. She can be on guard even without a confrontation. I certainly would be.Also I'd watch for the next interactions, the next time she spends time with him, how is he with her.
True.only giraffe knows all the factors.
Probably the closer it is the better you'd hear. If one person's right next to the vent on one end and the other person's right next to the vent on the other end, the sound might be pretty close to what it would be if the wall wasn't there.I actually don't know what hearing someone through an airduct means? Not that it matters a great deal, I get the gist but I don't know how you hear people through airducts. What kind of airduct? Would the person be in the next room or on another floor?
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So I feel the Yi is suggesting I go a completely different way about the situation. There is one different way I can think of and that is to ask another colleague who's voice I recognised. She is somebody I get along with.
Ah, I see your point, good example, thanks.I once worked with a woman, a friend, who one day thought she had walked into the office at the point where everyone was talking about her and laughing at her. I was there in the room and they weren't talking about her at all. She was very upset later and took a lot of convincing no one was talking about her. But if I hadn't been able to convince her she would have that as a memory for the next 30 years, that horrible day she walked into the office and everyone was talking about her and laughing.
I think it means seeking out a friend in the workplace and going and having a long chat with them about it. Perhaps they'll provide a fresh perspective, perhaps they'll offer some solution. If they really are a friend, they'll be tactful and kind and perhaps show you that it isn't really important."Would it be a good idea to ask him about what he said?".
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Clarity,
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