Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).
Thanks. Yes, well I am definitely staying up on a wall, and sort of considering getting off down from it but am not sure. The person in question is someone I was briefly involved with, and I ended things because he wasn't looking for anything serious. But we did get on well and he wanted to stay friends, which at the time I said no to, because I was being defensive partly in order not to get hurt (I didn't want to fall back into a thing with him since I know he's not in a place for that) and partly because (and maybe this is the unnecessary bit) I sort of wasn't convinced we could just be friends. But he was cool and we got on and so now that the dust has settled I am wondering whether to reach out and ask if the offer of friendship is still there?It looks like Yi isn’t saying whether it’s worth it, but that if you don’t reach out, it’s like staying up on a wall, or high horse? Could that apply to either one of you? And that if you stay in a defensive mode, that communal feel will be limited. Sometimes this is healthy and helpful. Sometimes it limits connection and intimacy. I’ve had it for neighbors I needed to create boundaries with as well as coworkers who didn’t need to know all my business. That wall, those boundaries, created a safe space for us all. There was more harmony at work when I didn’t get overly involved in personal sharing and drama. But it also limited the deeper development of kinship. This was necessary then bc we weren’t actually like-minded people.
So, if you don’t reach out, distance will remain, as if you’re camping out in some mound looking around for threats.
Maybe it's about well you can reach out but you need to have healthy boundaries in place?
Yes tricky. My feelings aren't always so helpful is the thing - haha. I asked againTough to know. This is the part when I put Yi aside and tune into my feelings. I’ll ask myself what feels right and compare the feelings btw the two choices.
I think this line talks about boundaries. You should keep up your city walls. 37 shows a family but also a place where people have their own roles. So I read the advice as: protect yourself and your emotions. If you can do so while reaching out to A, go for it.Please advise about A and whether it's worth reaching out to them?
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Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).