10.6>58 relationship 'qualities'

[carolynj]

I've been learning a lot over the last few months with using the i ching, and usually I feel satisfied with my own interpretations at this point, but I'd really like some feedback on this one.

I asked 'What qualities should I be looking for in a partner in a love relationship'

I received 10.6>58

Treading to empowering. Or empowering being my state at the moment, leading to.. conduct? That just seems curious. I know there's something about it I'm not understanding.

There's something about it that makes me wonder if it's telling me I've already met them?
Or is line 6 telling me I already know the qualities I should be looking for, so don't sweat it, I'll know them (him) when I see them.
Or is it maybe telling me to look for qualities I haven't been in the past?

Empowering obviously feels pretty nice, and it is what I do feel, and have been feeling, but I'm also not sure how it applies to the question I asked. If it's about how I feel, or about what I should be looking for in some way.

I feel compelled to mention that I've been heavily into understanding my own psychology in the last while, with a few really incredible and solid breakthroughs along the way. I don't know that I've felt so steady and centred in, well, possibly my entire life.

In a way I feel that that, combined with a question that feels so 'big' to me, makes for a recipe of 'I'm not going to understand this reading without help'.


Fresh eyes would do me a world of good. Thanks in advance for any help any of you could offer.

 

[taoscopy]

That's an interesting answer... I can't interpret that really. Well I could say that it means self-satisfaction, you're looking for an independent guy who won't bother you about the laundry or cooking his meals. But I could also say that you are going to place a lot of traps in front of him and you want the guy who will pass every test that you can imagine, as in "come back when you'll have conquered a few castles for me".

Only you can interpret that.

 

[Endless]

Maybe you will discover it along the way? It will bring you joy while figuring out.

 

[carolynj]

Thanks to both of you for your input. Yeah it is a bit of a squirrelly line. I think I'll agree with both of you, myself, and just not think about it so hard and see what happens.

Thanks again!

 

[Tim K]

10.6, Daniels:
Look carefully at the effects of your actions.

10.6, Wilhelm:
Look to your conduct and weigh the favorable signs.
When everything is fulfilled, supreme good fortune comes.

If we want to know whether good fortune will follow, we must look back upon our conduct and its consequences. If the effects are good, then good fortune is certain. No one knows himself. It is only by the consequences of his actions, by the fruit of his labors, that a man can judge what he is to expect.


Yi is saying that you already know what is good for you. What brings you joy (58), from past experiences and from heart's response.

Look not at the person's qualities, but how his actions affect you.
If it feels good and comfortable to be around someone - that's your guy.

 

[carolynj]

Ashteroid, I like that a lot.

It's basically common sense now that I read it, but saying not to look at qualities, but how their actions affect me - that specifically 'pings' something in me that gives me further clarity.

thank you