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Relationship has its own cycle of change; as we begin to relate it is from a position of separate identity, so the relationship is an area of shared experience, a resonance, and out of this again come acceptance of the distance or separateness of the other in which contact and contest are less important. This third stage is symbolized here as we accept the stillness of the emerging life force of the Tao (the lack of contact between polarities).
The Chinese image: Relationship. Distance. Absence of desire. No regret.
This is not a needy or desiring relationship so there will be no regret on it.
If you are still confused, just take the countryside as the goal, the suburb: one step behind the goal and it is a place away from town center, and the town: the center (of the conflict).
Except for Wilhelms’s translation, I have no experience with the others’. There are also many translations or explanations available in Chinese but most of annotation of Hexagram 13 is like what I said, in simple words: to build fellowship. I have never heard of ‘relationship’. However, the significance of the line is deducted and analyzed in accordance with the line relationship, we might say that at the end line 6 is enlightened that even though the goal of hexagram 13 can’t be completely achieved, one shall not feel regretful as one can live without conflict.
Regards
Tuck
I think Tuck's description is great.
I wouldn't call 13.6 an enlightened relationship, but rather a cool and polite association, lacking passion, candor and personal satisfaction. To me it feels more like a humane duty and a personal compromise than a pleasurable relationship.
My idea of an enlightened relationship is 61.2, and the whole of 11.
It may also be useful to remember that the final line of the hexagram describes conditions beyond the main theme of the hexagram. Thus the sixth line of hex.13 describes what happens AFTER the close intimacy of Fellowship. The first line of the following hexagram also can be useful for understanding the 6th line. Hex.14.1 talks about having no contact with that which is harmful. So we see the close One for All and All for One feeling of 13 evolving into more discerning choices with 14.
The theme of group belonging vs. individuality is repeated throughout the I Ching:
7.Our team vs. 8. The other team.
13. The Group vs. 15. The Individual.
22. My friends vs. 24. (closing the door to..) Outsiders.
37. My family vs. 38. Sibling rivalry.
45. The whole world vs. 47. Me all alone.
Until finally..
48. Everyone working together allows...
49. Individual differences to be honored.
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