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So I asked two questions to the Yi:
Give me reflection about replying to X. I got: 14.1.2.4 to 52
What should I do to change my relationship with X to one that would satisfy my needs? Yi said: 10.1.2.4 to 20
10.4 is generally about 'making a case', pleading....I can't see how you'd be pleading here unless it means you need to convey to him that you want to be treated differently.
Actually there is something I'd really like to show to him, or make a case as you say. It doesn't mean I'd keep the correspondence with him, but it's important to me that he could see something before I go. Something I never had a chance to tell him about before. Does it mean I'll be successful in making the case? I wonder when I should write to him about it?
In general, I was thinking about taking my time. Perhaps even two months as he did. If, after two months, I still want to write to him, I will with even more detachment than I would now. But, on the other hand, if I don't feel like writing to him at all, it'll be even easier to ignore him then than it is now.
Is he worth the wait? I don't know yet. We weren't always at this point and there was a time the correspondence with him meant a lot to me. But then it changed to something I can no longer accept, and if it's all he can give to me then it's not enough. I think he's beginning to see it only now.
Line 4: He is far away from your influence.
(He isnt in prison is he? Or another country?)
Yes you have 53 as the yin pattern in both answers so it seems likely he is only gradually waking up to the idea of your value to him.
Re the 10.4. 10.4 feels very scary and it feels like you aren't going to make it but you do. It often has a knife edge kind of feel to it...or the sense of 'just in the nick of time'. If there is something you want to say then yes say it.
Overall though yes you are right to hold to your sense of dignity about this as the hex 14 showed. If he chooses to treat you as you wish to be treated then maybe there will be progress if you want it.
However if he had you hanging on a string for a while and now you are free of caring, as you say you have to ask yourself if you want to risk it again ? 10.1 and 10.2 show you are quite capable of going on without him now. I think you can trust yourself to make the right choice here
Oh well, I asked one more question, but I don't understand the answer at all. Could you help me one more time?
Will ending my relationship with X be good for me? Yi's answer: 25.3.5.6 to 55
Thank you!
And here I thought he was the ox!
Dear Trojina, thank you for your answer. I should explain one thing. My question wasn't meant as "should I remain in a romantic relationship with X" but more as "should I severe all contacts with him or remain as friends in some way".
.I know myself. Once I complete the process of moving on there will be no way back, and I won't answer any of his emails, ever. Relationships with people, friendship included, are a very serious matter to me. Few people can be admitted to the little circle. To give you an example: over 20 years ago my father and I tried to create a bond. It didn't work and I thought it was too draining for me. The effect? I decided to never see him again, even though he called and tried to meet me many times. I wouldn't answer his phone calls or open the door. I even skipped the burials of my grandparents (his parents) to avoid the meeting. When I'm done, I'm done
With this guy, it's not as simple as it may seem. We've got a huge potential. I don't know if you're keen on astrology, I am. Our potential as a couple is 80%. It's far more than I or he ever had with anyone else, or possibly ever will.
In fact, we did meet once, as teenagers. Just a couple of hours spent in mutual company and a walk in a forest before each of us had to go another way. I gave him my address. He sent to me several postcards and a letter, to which I replied, but he never got it. He didn't give up and came to my city to meet me, but I and my mom weren't home that weekend. He then tried to call me whenever he was in Warsaw, but no one was home.
Then, he moved to another country and made his life there, but never stopped thinking of me. When he finally found me it was a quarter of a century later. I stopped thinking of him soon after he stopped reminding me of himself, but I never forgot him, so when he wrote I immediately knew who he was. We were both surprised that the other remembered.
The fact that he wrote to me was very important at that time. I was going through a nasty period in my life, and sometimes I think I'd be dead by now if he didn't write. So I don't want to make it seem like writing to him was a waste of time. On the contrary, it meant a lot to me.
I don't think he lies to me. I know his situation very well. And in fact I'm not even angry that he didn't write for two months. It's in his character that whenever there's something important in his life he considers it very carefully. I'd be rather worried if he didn't take his time to think things through.
Still, I suspected what his answer would be and so I started moving on without waiting for it. So when he did write I was already far far away. I know that if I answer now, he'll want to go back to the place we were before, and I'm determined not to go there.
Can we be anything else? I don't know. We do have the necessary potential. There are tons of romantic energy between us, but also a lot of creative energy. He's a musician, I write lyrics. We wrote a song or two together and that worked great, but I think the real potential between us can never be activated if we don't meet.
Also, as things stood between us lately, it seemed he was so fixed on a platonic romantic relationship he wouldn't consider anything else, but at the same time he couldn't afford anything else than platonic, which is exactly why I don't want to write.
.According to astrology the link between us is so strong it can never be broken, but also it will be very difficult for us to meet, because various obstacles will come our way, as they have so far. It's said that only our combined effort to overcome them could succeed, but I'm convinced he doesn't want to make it
From my point of view, as great as the relationship used to be, it hasn't been progressing for some time, and I'm of the opinion that if thing's aren't progressing it means they're dying. You cannot freeze the moment and live in the past. But, astrology also says we've got such a huge potential we could create anything, even change the world together. So I want to know if that's it and I should write him off, or there's something else that I don't know about that could make it worth sticking around in some way.
What is I Ching saying in this light?
Clarity,
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United Kingdom
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