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ok, to sum it all up, at the heart of all the wondering I would like to know:
IS THERE ANYTHING ELSE I CAN DO THAT CAN BRING US BACK TOGETHER AS A LOVE COUPLE? 26 (3,6) 19
I still read advice to persevere, and follow and...
What I see now is that the book seems to tell me: he does not want to be with you together again AND keep investing in it.
That can make sense if you think I have a strong-bellic ego which hates to loose. And being rejected often triggers this warlike tendency in me of "im gonna get him back no matter what" that has NOTHING to do with love. Perhaps its time my ego learns to surrender by accepting i wont "WIN" him back but that he can have another role in my life. That, for me, would be Hex 2. But I dont have 2, I have 42, 46, 19 and 32... which I see differently.
Im cool with that, the bitterness of staying friends. its gonna be ego-painful but I can see its needed. I am still trying to WIN people and CONQUER and BE ON TOP, my intimate relationship have too strong power dynamics, and love wont strive there, for sure. Maybe the time has come to learn how to give up power in a healthy way.... I dont know...
Could Yi be telling you to INVEST in WHO YOU ARE rather than in the relationship? What does he have or reflect that you could invest in for yourself and the larger world?
Plus however much we try we can't account for someone who may be being careless or cruel with our hearts when we have invested ourselves there. I had the impression Yoanna he is not always displaying disinterest but picks you up when it suits him and drops you when it suits him and that is not kind it's selfish. So rather than seeing this as about your need to be less of an egotist etc etc 45 would suggest you gather yourself in from such careless treatment, rally yourslef. You have done this by withdrawing I guess....
From my experience it seems that I get an unchanging Hex every time the book does not want to answer or the answer is not available yet.
This is quite alien to me....because surely if someone shows disinterest your ego would enable you to let them go.....to keep your pride at least. So I can't really see that trying to get him back is down to ego ....but maybe it is for you.
I'm very different. If I think there's no interest from the other then I'm gone. (maybe thats my venus in Leo kicking in) If that's ego then it's ego working for me.....To me it's never a good idea to pursue a man who is disinterested....surely ? I mean it seems very undignified for a woman to keep pursuing a man who shows no interest. So how can it be egotistical to do it ?
To me it sounds like you are arriving at clarity. If you can manage to "surrender to what is" , as you say, wouldn't that be a HUGE CHANGE? And then you would know, "Yes. We can change the course of things. I can change my inability to surrender." Not so easy in my experience. The I Ching helps us with self control but it does not help us to control others. And for me, self control is difficult enough. (I'm having to develop a forgiving sense of humor and not take myself so seriously.)
Could Yi be telling you to INVEST in WHO YOU ARE rather than in the relationship? What does he have or reflect that you could invest in for yourself and the larger world?
This is quite alien to me....because surely if someone shows disinterest your ego would enable you to let them go.....to keep your pride at least. So I can't really see that trying to get him back is down to ego ....but maybe it is for you.
I'm very different. If I think there's no interest from the other then I'm gone. (maybe thats my venus in Leo kicking in) If that's ego then it's ego working for me.....To me it's never a good idea to pursue a man who is disinterested....surely ? I mean it seems very undignified for a woman to keep pursuing a man who shows no interest. So how can it be egotistical to do it ?
To me it sounds like you are arriving at clarity. If you can manage to "surrender to what is" , as you say, wouldn't that be a HUGE CHANGE? And then you would know, "Yes. We can change the course of things. I can change my inability to surrender." Not so easy in my experience. The I Ching helps us with self control but it does not help us to control others. And for me, self control is difficult enough. (I'm having to develop a forgiving sense of humor and not take myself so seriously.)
Could Yi be telling you to INVEST in WHO YOU ARE rather than in the relationship? What does he have or reflect that you could invest in for yourself and the larger world?
To me it sounds like you are arriving at clarity. If you can manage to "surrender to what is" , as you say, wouldn't that be a HUGE CHANGE? And then you would know, "Yes. We can change the course of things. I can change my inability to surrender." Not so easy in my experience. The I Ching helps us with self control but it does not help us to control others. And for me, self control is difficult enough. (I'm having to develop a forgiving sense of humor and not take myself so seriously.)
Could Yi be telling you to INVEST in WHO YOU ARE rather than in the relationship? What does he have or reflect that you could invest in for yourself and the larger world?
Line 2 is the host line (you). You think of him, but in a give up hope sense because the line 2 officer line (male, tiger, wood) is the empty slot under the house of marriage. You do not think that you have any chance.
Line 5 is the guest line (him). He thinks of you (female, rat, water) as the person in the house of marriage. He seems to think you are associated with someone else (third party, line 3 of hexagram 19). He thinks that you are not available.
Line 3 is the sibling (brother – third party ) line with a hidden line of a younger person (child line). This younger person reappears as the 6th line in hexgram 19 with one step forward. The man in line 6 is moving towards this younger person.
Who is this younger person? A child or a person younger than you.
If I must speculate, I will go against all the text section of these Iching readings. BY July/August, all things will come to an end.
To try to reach an agreement for a marriage and long term relationship, one must work very hard and try to remove all obstacles. Is it worth at the end? The answer is probably no because there is real, sustainable love between the two parties.
Ride the wave, and your answer will become obvious in August whether there is any chance at all.
Do not hurt yourself emotionally and learn to protect yourself in this process.
Shared readings seems so often to show women doubting their crystal clear perceptions the man is not right for her...or doubting his crystal clear communications that hes not interested. Thats just a general observation, which includes what i've seen in myself so it's not meant personally.....but to me it's clear this is not worth persisting in and I say that by the outstanding weight of the evidence as you have presented it.
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