Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).
Dear sweet soul,The reason I asked this question, is because I have been going through a dark night of the soul for over 3 years now.
I’ve lost almost everything. I’m over 50, and while I’ve been incredibly resilient all my life, and knew that there was always light at the end of the tunnel, and the darkest night before the dawn, I no longer feel that way as events of the last few months, have tipped me over into thinking that the light & the dawn might exist in redemptive stories in books & films that we would like to believe in, but that in real life, that’s just not true.
Very successful people seem to have succumbed to the inability to bear their inner suffering & its unrelenting return. Unlike them, I’m nothing, and have lost everything, and even after attempting to end things late last year (one more failure, as Seinfeld jokes cruelly), after a decade of such ideation, unheeded cries for help from ‘loved ones’, I now experience myself as nothing more than an unwanted burden on others.
After the attempt, instead of being more understanding, the ones closest to me, avoided me even more, and after the shock of trying to understand the loss of the already inadequate support at the darkest hour, it was in speaking to another survivor who had the same experience, that I realised, my family felt shame at what society would feel/think about them, since their son/husband/brother did the unthinkable & unforgivable. I understood them, felt less judgemental, but it made me even more alone.
My body has taken a severe beating because of a combination of self abuse & neglect over the last three years, and I was already weak before from the same things, and having had severe clinical depression for 7 years then (now over ten years), and a stent in my heart 3 years ago. I have not had my heart checked recently, despite the abuse/neglect/trauma in the last 3 years being many times more than what caused the blockage needing the stent in the first place, and the arrhythmia I have for ten years now. Because I’d rather ‘go’ than fight to stay on, anymore.
Now, I think of dying several times a day, and even of how to, without failing again. I keep telling myself that I have no right to bring shame upon my family, and/or guilt (I know some will be relieved I got it over with, but there are also those who I know will suffer), and that my final act of courage will be to let myself die ‘naturally’ (read somewhere of ‘slow suicide’), like a cousin of mine, who suffered somewhat similar issues did, too early at 60.
I can’t wait 10 more years, and am doing what I can to speed up the process.
Sorry for the really long lead up to my question about the I Ching, I thought the context was important in understanding the question, and probably went on too long.
I am confused by the 35 UC reading, and have looked at the shared readings on this site, as well as referred to other interpretations, and am still very confused about what it means.
I have some familiarity with the I Ching, since the last three years, have consulted many dozens of times, (mainly on this site, sometimes on cafe au soul) ie, am little better than a novice.
I’m in a lot of pain, and clutching at straws, and hoping the I Ching would help, and need your help to understand what the Tao is telling me.
Any help in understanding the reading is greatly appreciated.
There's the pair there, 36, that feeling of not being accepted. You didn't get 36 but 35 and 36 are two sides of the same coin. One moment our name is mud, the next it is celebrated and neither are any measure of our actual worth, they are fleeting experiences that most often don't seem so fleeting.After the attempt, instead of being more understanding, the ones closest to me, avoided me even more, and after the shock of trying to understand the loss of the already inadequate support at the darkest hour, it was in speaking to another survivor who had the same experience, that I realised, my family felt shame at what society would feel/think about them, since their son/husband/brother did the unthinkable & unforgivable. I understood them, felt less judgemental, but it made me even more alone.
Now, I think of dying several times a day, and even of how to, without failing again. I keep telling myself that I have no right to bring shame upon my family, and/or guilt (I know some will be relieved I got it over with, but there are also those who I know will suffer), and that my final act of courage will be to let myself die ‘naturally’ (read somewhere of ‘slow suicide’), like a cousin of mine, who suffered somewhat similar issues did, too early at 60.
I can’t wait 10 more years, and am doing what I can to speed up the process.
Sorry for the really long lead up to my question about the I Ching, I thought the context was important in understanding the question, and probably went on too long.
I am confused by the 35 UC reading, and have looked at the shared readings on this site, as well as referred to other interpretations, and am still very confused about what it means.
'Brightness comes forth over the earth. Prospering.
The noble one's (gfer72's) own light shines in her de.'
The brightness coming out above the earth is like sunrise. There's also the awareness - behind this - that the sun is daily renewed in the earth; the earth sustains the light. Much as light emerges from the earth, the noble one's light is an emergent property of her earth, of the stuff she's made of and the everyday things she does. Her inner quality sustains her shining out. (If you receive this one, maybe you don't need to try so hard; maybe you naturally tend to illuminate what you do.)
According to Wilhelm/Baynes, Hexagram 35 means easy and rapid progress. This means that you will start overcoming your problems before long. This hexagram does not say anything about your frequent thoughts of death. It just indicates that your frequent thoughts of death will come to an end with the general uplifting of your whole situation.The reason I asked this question, is because I have been going through a dark night of the soul for over 3 years now.
I’ve lost almost everything. I’m over 50, and while I’ve been incredibly resilient all my life, and knew that there was always light at the end of the tunnel, and the darkest night before the dawn, I no longer feel that way as events of the last few months, have tipped me over into thinking that the light & the dawn might exist in redemptive stories in books & films that we would like to believe in, but that in real life, that’s just not true.
Very successful people seem to have succumbed to the inability to bear their inner suffering & its unrelenting return. Unlike them, I’m nothing, and have lost everything, and even after attempting to end things late last year (one more failure, as Seinfeld jokes cruelly), after a decade of such ideation, unheeded cries for help from ‘loved ones’, I now experience myself as nothing more than an unwanted burden on others.
After the attempt, instead of being more understanding, the ones closest to me, avoided me even more, and after the shock of trying to understand the loss of the already inadequate support at the darkest hour, it was in speaking to another survivor who had the same experience, that I realised, my family felt shame at what society would feel/think about them, since their son/husband/brother did the unthinkable & unforgivable. I understood them, felt less judgemental, but it made me even more alone.
My body has taken a severe beating because of a combination of self abuse & neglect over the last three years, and I was already weak before from the same things, and having had severe clinical depression for 7 years then (now over ten years), and a stent in my heart 3 years ago. I have not had my heart checked recently, despite the abuse/neglect/trauma in the last 3 years being many times more than what caused the blockage needing the stent in the first place, and the arrhythmia I have for ten years now. Because I’d rather ‘go’ than fight to stay on, anymore.
Now, I think of dying several times a day, and even of how to, without failing again. I keep telling myself that I have no right to bring shame upon my family, and/or guilt (I know some will be relieved I got it over with, but there are also those who I know will suffer), and that my final act of courage will be to let myself die ‘naturally’ (read somewhere of ‘slow suicide’), like a cousin of mine, who suffered somewhat similar issues did, too early at 60.
I can’t wait 10 more years, and am doing what I can to speed up the process.
Sorry for the really long lead up to my question about the I Ching, I thought the context was important in understanding the question, and probably went on too long.
I am confused by the 35 UC reading, and have looked at the shared readings on this site, as well as referred to other interpretations, and am still very confused about what it means.
I have some familiarity with the I Ching, since the last three years, have consulted many dozens of times, (mainly on this site, sometimes on cafe au soul) ie, am little better than a novice.
I’m in a lot of pain, and clutching at straws, and hoping the I Ching would help, and need your help to understand what the Tao is telling me.
Any help in understanding the reading is greatly appreciated.
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).