38.3>14 , 4.4>64, 28.5>62 , 33.1.2>1 Unrequited Love with best friend

[Kevala]

Hi novice in iching and english, I having some difficult situation overcoming a crush on my recently best friend from college, i confess some time ago (in may-22) my feelings for him i said how good i feel around him and was rejected, but he was kind and said that he wants to see each other often and values my friendship and wants to see me often in is house seeing movies and playing games, and i am one of his closet friends, but i cant seen to let go my feelings, because i seem him like almost every day. so i asked some questions:

What is the relationship between us?
-38.3>14 The way i see it is that is telling me that i linger in the old ideas and misconceptions about him ?, and need to let go

How does he feels around me
-33.1.2>1 I can relate with this answer because even when he tells me how he values my friendship sometimes i feel a cold distance sometimes, because i see that him is another person with another people who he barely knows, he is more cheerfully and have like a mask, and when we are with another friends in common he sit more with them or go chat with them more than me, and he often no answer my messages, and knowing him it seems like he undervalue the person that are more close to him because it is "secure and steady" and focus more in another people, and he is a Very reserve person, doesn't like to talk about himself at all, he has like many walls on him, he is a introverted but social. i went way off-topic but yea that...

The obsession and feelings i have for him
-4.4>64 Well it clearly states that i obsess with fantasies with him and i have to experience "humiliation" to "cross the river" (64)


The outcome of keep hoping and wishing for him and i to have a sexual or sentimental relationship?
-28.5>62 This reading really i don't really get, but something to take note that he is 5 years younger than me...

The thing about my obsession is that i feel that there is still i chance and need to let go of that feeling, is not healthy at all, so i need to ask all of you what you see in my readings about my relationship whit him with this readings, and what question do you suggest to ask to know what he really felt and if they are possibilities with him or not, if need be to ask.

And if any of you uses astrology my birth date is 15/9/1996 4:35am and his is 24/10/2002, if that helps in any way to my answer.

Thanks in advance and thanks for reading my bad spelling in English not my native tongue....

 

[Liselle]

What is the relationship between us?
-38.3>14 The way i see it is that is telling me that i linger in the old ideas and misconceptions about him ?, and need to let go

38, Opposing - you each have very different ideas about the relationship, as you've explained.
14 - nonetheless you each treasure the other one.

Obviously a difficult situation. I think the line is meant to describe how this feels
Seeing the cart dragged back,
The oxen stopped
Your men branded and their noses cut off.
With no beginning, there is an end.

It ends by saying "With no beginning, there is an end." Hilary says this means no matter how bad it seems, there can be a resolution. Maybe the 14 in the background is what makes that possible - you each consider this a valuable relationship and don't want to cause each other pain.

How does he feels around me
-33.1.2>1

Maybe that he wants to retreat (line 1) but at the same time wants to keep you close (line 2). I bet he's standoffish (withdrawn) around you because of the complications. He doesn't know how to be with you. It's easier to be friendlier with other people because those relationships are more clear and less fraught.

The obsession and feelings i have for him
-4.4>64

"Confined ignoramus. Shame."

I don't know exactly what this means (or what you asked Yi for, for that matter: advice? a description?). If it's advice, it might be saying it's a good idea to continue to let him know how you feel. There can't be a resolution if you keep everything inside.

The outcome of keep hoping and wishing for him and i to have a sexual or sentimental relationship?
-28.5>62

Well, this actually seems kind of promising. But despite the use of the word "husband," I don't think it's a good idea to count on marriage or anything like that. Hilary says this in her book: "This is renewal for its own sake; it has nothing to do with future, lasting results." Flowers are lovely, but they don't last forever.

Contrast line 5 with line 2. 28.2 sprouts a shoot, there is actual new growth. Line 5 doesn't promise that. But it does promise something.

 

[Kevala]

I don't know exactly what this means (or what you asked Yi for, for that matter: advice? a description?). If it's advice, it might be saying it's a good idea to continue to let him know how you feel. There can't be a resolution if you keep everything inside.

First thank you very much for your answer, one thing to keep in mind and I didn't want to say it earlier because I want an answer first without you guys knowing but I am a man and he is a man too.

And regarding that question (-4.4>64), I'm just asking what does Yi have to tell me about it, so that would be like advice, yes.

Another thing , it happened precisely that I had the opportunity to go to the same job with him and I also go to see him on weekends doing community work at the university, and if that's not it, I stay at his house watching series, then I see him 24/7 is difficult for me, and I asked about going to work with him and it came out:

What advice do you give me if I decide to go to work with company x?
29.2>8 from what I see, I will have difficulties to start but it is advisable to continue little by little to reach the "union" with the work.

Another one was:
What is potencial of the relationship whit him and me in one year?
3uc

I hate that I'm getting into a loop of questions and doubts about this...

Considering the above, now what would you say what are the possibilities? or do we need other queries to Yi?

Many thanks in advance

 

[Liselle]

What advice do you give me if I decide to go to work with company x?
29.2>8

I'm not sure. Do you want the job for any other reason? Hexagram 8 (how you relate subjectively) says "Seeking union, good fortune. At the origin of oracle consultation," which could mean (maybe) to think about that. If you're only interested because he's there, maybe 29.2 would result, which doesn't sound like a good experience or one that will get you very far.

Your question assumes you'll be working there, and Yi gives you 29.2 as advice. But of course you're not working there yet.

 

[Kevala]

I'm not sure. Do you want the job for any other reason? Hexagram 8 (how you relate subjectively) says "Seeking union, good fortune. At the origin of oracle consultation," which could mean (maybe) to think about that. If you're only interested because he's there, maybe 29.2 would result, which doesn't sound like a good experience or one that will get you very far.

Your question assumes you'll be working there, and Yi gives you 29.2 as advice. But of course you're not working there yet.

I Want and need to work there, but again it leads to see him more often, thanks again for your answer, my problem really is to overcome my feelings for him, but i still linger for the possibility, and just want to kill it but is hard given the circumstance, so i ask de Yi to confirm me that is worth to keep on waiting o just kill it and forget about, and like you said about 28.5>62, that might happen something and the other readings shows a good friendship. and so for last i asked this and:


What is potential of the relationship whit him and me in one year?
3uc And the way i see it and searching the meaning is the Yi is telling me to remain firm holding the good thoughts, stay positive, about him and search for helpers or be open minded to get dates with other people, and let it be, while the relationship progress?.

Ambiguity of the possibilities is killing me...

Thanks again for tolerating my problems and confusion....