45.4 to 8 - okay, he has moved on, now what is for me?

[zumi]

Dear all,
I always appreciate your feedback so much!

After trying to move on from the hopeless relationship, I have got an email with pictures from a friend about the meet up group, we were supposed to join on the hiking trip. It features my ex happily smiling at the camera among other people. That has shocked me because i almost went there to spent an super awkward time with my ex, which would last for a weekend! I got upset for some reason. Anyway, I asked Yi, he has moved on, what is out there for me and got 45.4 to 8, which talks about me, sacrificing my own desires for the sake of some mission, which means I need to gather people around me for the higher ruler.
Both hexagram mean social gatherings of some sorts, nothing personal, but what does it mean? Is it somehow connected to my ex? I am not super social person, especially now, when I still haven't fully moved on after 2 months. I just don't feel like going out there, I am still in a restraint.
When I asked the follow-up question about what this hexagram means for my query, I got 41.6 going to 19, which basically means the same that I should increase the others, but without focusing on my own needs. Maybe it is talking about some career steps?
Please help me to figure everything out.

 

[wind]

"Meet up with friends and go have a good time with company that is ideal to you." That's what I see in that reading.

 

[zumi]

Thank you, wind, it could be that. For that i have to fight myself, because my first reaction is to go home after work and ask Yi about stuff. Besides, I don't really have friends that are always available for me, I am really tired of bothering them, because they always busy with their lives. But, I will definitely try to figure something out

 

[wind]

I find what you said to be useful toward the reading.

Feeling like you're bothering your friends or that they don't have time for you is signs of loneliness. The reading is suggesting not to give way to those feelings. Go out. Meet new friends that have similar interests- Maybe even find in new interest through those that you meet.

Who knows.. You might find yourself a new group of friends.

 

[wind]

Oh yeah... 41.6-19

Line 6 talks about being of use to someone. It's ok to be that for someone else. I'm curious if you'll meet a friend in a similar situation and you'll pull each other through.

 

[zumi]

Actually, I do have a friend in the similar situation as I am, lonely and wanting a serious relationship. We always have deep conversations with her, and we have become closer for that reason. I find that we do help each other by listening .
Thank you very much!