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Slap his face and shout "wake up!"
Then kiss him and walk away.
chortle..
just make sure to have some soothing music playing in the background . . you don't wanna get him running away scared!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_GT1ivTDD7A&feature=related
hi cristal
truth is I come quite close to running like that these days, there seem to be all the more things that need to be done piling and piling -or maybe that's just me doing taxes(!)
anyway, I only have one very clear instance of your 51.3 and it wasn't a very happy one I must say . . it did help to clarify some things though. I wonder if your reading was actually answering your question or pointing to how you have to get over your own shock and keep your spirits high. 55 sometimes makes me think of the phrase 'the king is dead, long live the king', it's such a mix of good and bad that can make it hard to separate which is what . . . or, maybe it's simply advising you to laugh the shock away and keep moving -which I guess you've already done
hi cristal
truth is I come quite close to running like that these days, there seem to be all the more things that need to be done piling and piling -or maybe that's just me doing taxes(!)
anyway, I only have one very clear instance of your 51.3 and it wasn't a very happy one I must say . . it did help to clarify some things though. I wonder if your reading was actually answering your question or pointing to how you have to get over your own shock and keep your spirits high. 55 sometimes makes me think of the phrase 'the king is dead, long live the king', it's such a mix of good and bad that can make it hard to separate which is what . . . or, maybe it's simply advising you to laugh the shock away and keep moving -which I guess you've already done
chumawamba?? lol
but you can (or want to) do this only until it becomes irrelevant. You have a point about the 'childish games', I should have said 'children's games'. That actually shows how serious these are. My guess is that they are the games we all had made up as kids to handle our first experiences of loss and mourning . . in a way, you could say that this pattern is in fact part of some growing process (remember Freud's fort/da? That was based on the similar dynamic of coming-and-going. Freud had made it to be specifically about one thing but I believe the game applied in a more general symbolic play of loss and survival. Perhaps radical events like that of birth (which in my eyes is probably the most traumatic of our lives) are being worked out in 'games' like that one. Does that sound too dramatic? Maybe so, but it's the same as with readings, if the patterns of movement correspond then we just have to adjust the highs and lows to make them legible.
There are many ways we play these games and varying degrees to which we acknowledge and incorporate the other's presence in playing them and there is a lot of life born out of these games too. That's why they can be so seductive or addictive -even more so when one's game engages the other's in ways that are rewarding for both. Then again, if you have seen this played out before, you might have outgrown it, making it simply irrelevant cause it leaves you unengaged. Then instead of the fall-and-get-up-again you might want to look into more co-operative games, games of more peaceful balances. Btw, I also love strong winds but I really enjoy them when they make me fly instead of knocking me down . .
but all's fair game if it's good for those who play it (as they say, each to their own
I 'm not saying this 'revolving door' as you called it is a deliberate game someone designs and practices, I think we're often unaware about such patterns cause they get internalized and we follow them almost instinctively after a point. If you think that you might be over riding someone's behaviour though, then it could be that there's a part in your life where you experience anxiety and you channel it into this, ie, you turn them into your wooden reel -that's why I mentioned there are many ways and varying degrees to which we actually acknowledge the other's presence and role. Or it could be that you're both employing some self-defensive mechanism which shows up in this dynamic.
Whatever it is, it's good to know your own game cause then you can be clear in how to better handle things, what works for you and what not, which can be the real treat in this. I mean, you might find out you don't want to handle the situation at all, or find a different way to solve it or make progress through it but despite the obvious outcome, as long as you can use your interaction to gain insight and expand your understanding of yourself, then it hasn't been a waste.
And . . interpersonal games?? I think they are the foundation and spring in any relating . . Flirting is one of them, loving is in fact an interpersonal game, as much as pushing each others buttons or getting annoyed or having the same argument over and over -it's all about the patterns that make the relationship itself; how these are formed and played and how we feel about them or what we get out of playing them decides whether the relating is worthwhile to persist or not . . . I think an important part is what are you getting out of it, cause I have found that no matter what we might try to give to people they'll receive it more easily if it's what they want -even subconsciously- to get
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).