53.3.5.6 to 2 what is the situation between us?

[Monijh]

Hi
Here’s the situation I think I am falling for a friend who is also my teacher and 13 years older than me, I’m35 he’s 48.I’ve known him for years through a mutual friend and He has always been something else to me since the first time I met him. But in the past year we have been studying together and I’ve got to know him personally and now I am having a hard time
with my feelings for him. He has always been there but has kept his distance as well Nowadays l see him once a week and some sessions it’s like there are fireworks between us but sometimes it feels we will never pass this line.
I usually like hexagram 53 it seems promising and it’s quite like the way I like things to be
Hexagram 2 is more like a description of the situation but I don’t really know how to relate the two hexagrams the translation of the lines (I’m reading Lise) seems to suggest there is difficulty but line six is a good portent maybe?
I met him today and I had decided to go on and tell him or kiss him but today was one of those days so I stopped myself and as I got out I just had reading without any questions asked and got hexagram 44 unchanging which makes me more confused and doubtful of my understanding of this one.

 

[Liselle]

I don't think do anything impulsive. That would be out of step with 53 and 2 both. 53 is gradual progress, and 2 is about being guided and being receptive, not taking the lead.

(I get that it's already been a long time that you've known each other - it's possible 53's reflecting that.)

Lines... actually I wonder if I should change my mind about being impulsive. Not sure. Line 3 might sound like neither of you want to make the first move. But someone has to, I imagine?

Then line 5 says things are successful, but then line 6 sounds like it won't last long. 53.6 isn't a disaster, though. Might only mean you both go your separate ways.

44 also means things not lasting long. "Do not marry."

It could all also be a picture Yi's painted for you, and then you have to think how you feel about it. How would you feel if feelings were declared, but the new version of the relationship didn't last long and then there's no relationship at all?

(I suppose there's a chance line 5 could be really literal about pregnancy...something to keep in mind, I guess, and remember how 53.6 and 44 don't promise a stable home life.)

 

[Monijh]

Oh thank you very much
That’s interesting because I always thought 53’6 means ending up with each other.
Honestly I am well aware of the fact that there is no chance of getting married at all
It’s not something we both want
But is it the same as the chance of love?
Even so it is not going to last.
I also thought of letting go of the urge to control the situation when I saw 44 taking pregnancy as a chance of having something valuable
But I don’t trust myself on this anymore
These all might be wishful thinking.

 

[Liselle]

My best guess right now is Yi's describing this as a relationship that can be more than it is now, if one of you broaches the subject. But also that it won't last. I think it's a description of the potential, in other words.

 

[Liselle]

On the other hand, I might be polluting my understanding of 53.6 with the fact that it's come up for things like wills, the need to have a pet euthanized, things like that. I don't mean I think it's about death, per se, please don't hear it that way!

What it actually says is -
'Wild geese gradually advance to the high plateau.
Their feathers can be used to perform the sacred dances.'
- and I just remembered I've associated the words "paradigm shift" with it.

Obviously that fits, quite neutrally: if and when one of you says how you feel, the relationship has shifted. It can't go back to what it was.

But 53.6 isn't bad - it doesn't have any omen at all. The last phrase sounds quite noble, even.

I don't (well I don't if you ignore my original sentence - which, please do ignore it, I've changed my mind) see any reason in the reading why you shouldn't let your feelings be known.

44 saying "do not marry" is surely perfectly okay if neither of you want to marry anyway.

 

[Monijh]

Thank you a lot For your response
It’s been really helpful
Thanks a lot for sharing your thoughts and wisdom