Alcohol Hex 3>7

[sooo]

It's the whole enchilada, the whole package. I think we can agree on that. At the same time, being too fussy is most likely going to result in remaining alone, which I've accepted as fine with me years ago.

 

[sooo]

Had another encounter after I left this thread last night, and I realized something significant pertaining to what's important to me in a compatible woman. An open mind. A mind that hasn't reached all her conclusions about life and things pertaining to the mysteries of life and death and everything in-between. I guess that fits the receptivity model of 2. It's not that she must agree with me, but that her mind isn't made up and finished, that she still is full of curiosity, and can discuss a variety of subjects without having all the answers for everything. Someone who can actively listen, think and speak on a variety of subjects, and who views and appreciates the greatness of smallness in nature. This is someone I can share life equally with.

A problem with most men and women in their maturity is that the childlike curiosity and mystery have gone out of their lives. Those are the couples we see so many of, who find mates later in life. They talk about people and things, but seldom anything more. Those with deeper and more curious natures are more rare, and require more of their prospective mate. Settling for less, they'd have to dumb themselves down or live alone, even if they're married to another.

 

[goddessliss]

Hmm....I wonder if I'm like that, you know already made up my mind about everything and have all the answers. Will have to think about that one although some months ago a guy said to me 'I like you, your not like other women, because you have so many interesting plans and things you want to do with your life'. I wished now I'd asked what other women are like.

I haven't lost my childlike curiousity that's for sure and talk more about things other than the superficial.

Looks like I'm gonna be on my own for the rest of my life cause I ain't dumbing down for anyone.

Thanks sooo, more food for thought. - Liss

 

[sooo]

For what it's worth, Liss, I don't see you that way at all.

The person I referred to in my last post seems to be quite nice, just not open to discuss anything that has to do with philosophy or religion, or anything outside her Christian dogma . When she came inside, I happened to have Clarity's home page on my TV/computer screen. I saw her looking at it, and politely asked her whether she's ever heard of it. Her response closed the book on an related subject immediately. It was good in a way because I'd just left this thread, and her reaction seemed all the more relevant to our discussion, and was something we hadn't yet touched on.

 

[goddessliss]

For what it's worth, Liss, I don't see you that way at all.

The person I referred to in my last post seems to be quite nice, just not open to discuss anything that has to do with philosophy or religion, or anything outside her Christian dogma . When she came inside, I happened to have Clarity's home page on my TV/computer screen. I saw her looking at it, and politely asked her whether she's ever heard of it. Her response closed the book on an related subject immediately. It was good in a way because I'd just left this thread, and her reaction seemed all the more relevant to our discussion, and was something we hadn't yet touched on.

Oh dear

 

[sooo]

Exactly. I speak "Christioneze" and I'm open to discuss it and the Tanakh (the Christian's old testament, sorta), but even that was off the table for discussion. I began to refer to trigrams as simple elements of nature which interact, and I could see and feel her panic setting in. This is my new neighbor, who lives only two car lengths away.... temporarily, I hope. She asked later if I'd like to go for walks, since I quickly got off the subject of heady things early, but it's just such a turn off to me to spend leisure time with someone so closed-minded, I answered with, uh, yeah.. sure.. ok. And we both went inside. It hit home regarding your thread, thought I'd share it. God, it's no wonder I'm still a bachelor. It wouldn't matter if she was a hot tamale on the outside, the inside is as inert as stone.

The ranch owners are also exploring a few different Christian faith systems, but they're quite open, or least the guy is. We talk about these things all the time, as I'm fairly well versed in those scriptures. We also talk about Hinduism, political views, just about anything. Neither is selling our beliefs, just discussing. I have a serious allergy to dogma, any dogma. It isn't this or that belief, but that the belief is immovable, not discussable; it's a thing of itself. What Jesus referred to as a white-washed tomb.