any good with 27.3 to 22?please help..

[petra33]

hi there, please help!
I've asked which kind of couple we can be me and a guy .. at the moment there's attraction but lack of communication for a lot of reasons..even pratical reason .. but I feel an elective affinity and I wish in the next year to be closer to him..
and I got 27.3 to 22
it's seems really bad, like an "involution" for both...
or maybe it says that to stay together we have to deeply change our "bad habits" that made our previous relationships with others a costant disaster?

please, give me any advise: maybe I'm too pessimistic (coz I believe it says it's better I stop to think about him)...or maybe I just need to be realistic (coz the reading it's clear this time)..
all the best

 

[precision grace]

It really irks me when people ask strange questions like "what kind of couple" ? What kind of question is that? It implies not your or his experience but how you will look to others.

27.3 "He who seeks nourishment that does not nourish reels from desire to
gratification and in gratification craves desire. Mad pursuit of pleasure for the
satisfaction of the senses never brings one to the goal. One should never (ten
years is a complete cycle of time) follow this path, for nothing good can come
of it."

You can be the kind of couple that seek superficial pleasures in eachother company.

 

[petra33]

It really irks me when people ask strange questions like "what kind of couple" ? What kind of question is that? It implies not your or his experience but how you will look to others.

27.3 "He who seeks nourishment that does not nourish reels from desire to
gratification and in gratification craves desire. Mad pursuit of pleasure for the
satisfaction of the senses never brings one to the goal. One should never (ten
years is a complete cycle of time) follow this path, for nothing good can come
of it."

You can be the kind of couple that seek superficial pleasures in eachother company.

dear Precision Grace,
first of all, thanks for your reply

don't be annoyed!

in my situation it was maybe the better questione I could do...there are months that I am trying to understand if waiting for the right moment with this guy, it is good or not for me...I don't want a sexual relationship...I am feeling really close to him, and I do not understand if he can be serious with me or not....the situation is "complicated" for a lot of reasones too long to explain.

I had some other hexagrames "ambiguous"...they say like "now it's not the moment...but later you will be happy (in love)"...but with him or not??

I know he's actracted from me, but I thought it was like that because of particular affinity we could feel each other... in the end I am not particulary actracted from him in a phisical way: I am feeling close to him and then attracted..something about love, not sex..I wanted to know if this thing is just from my side..
I am trying to have an "healthy" relationship and also to do not escape from a potentially good relationship.
I am just trying to understand if I have to wait for him or not...waiting make me feel hopeless sometimes: I know I am on the right track in this moment of my life, but it's heavy to realize I still am so far from a stable balance..
I hoped that despite the apparence, this time was better..

I don't know if I can do something..surely I unconsciously create part of the situation as it is (

in the end I wanted to know if it was a person that is right "to wait"..
and probably my hexs are saying he (we) is not ready and will never (

if you think it is just a picture of the present situation, and if I work on myself the situation can change, please tell me )
a bit of optimism is welcome

all the best!

 

[precision grace]

I am sorry to sound annoyed, and sympathise with your situation if I understood what you said correctly. Are you saying you just want to be friends with this guy? I don't know many people who would be interested in a love relationship that doesn't also involve sex, but you say you are not physically attracted to him, just feel an affinity? So, that sounds to me like friendship. I think the best way to find out how he feels is to ask him, not yi ying. Also, if you've been waiting months for the right moment (for what?!), but don't want to have sex, then what exactly are you waiting for?

I wish you all the luck, mostly to try and figure out what it is you actually want

 

[petra33]

thanks a lot again )
yes, you are right: I do not know what exactly I want ... I am scared to get involved with the wrong person...also, I need time and I am afraid to ask it: I would like a slow approach from him, but I do not have the courage to ask (and anyway, in this moment of my life it's quite difficult even to speak each other)...at this stage, it's really complicated talk about us: we just see in crowded places and we don't speak each other for more than 1 minute, pretending that everything is fine...sometimes I avoide to speak to him..I know it's sounds childish..The true is that my mind say "no", my "stomach" say "yes"..I think he is in the same pshychological position..but maybe it's just a wrong impression..and I wish that something happen to help us to start talking about the situation...but I guess we both think to be refused from the other..in a few days I gonna travel for 3 weeks and I'll see what will happen when I'm back ( ..anyway, thanks again and all the best )

 

[precision grace]

ahh. I see. well if you are both too scared to talk to eachother, then you'll never find out if he is the right person. I understand being afraid of getting involved with the wrong person, it usually happens when we have very strong feelings for someone and fear getting hurt, but if your stomach is saying yes, then I would advise you to try and talk your head into being a bit braver. If it was the other way around, and your head was saying yes but your stomach was saying no, then I would say, leave well alone, but stomachs are always right in my experience. All the best to you too.