Calamity after 10 years? Why?

[ginnie]

55.1 seems like a meeting . . kind of like the 'honeymoon' period maybe? (and it could be that relationships have more-than-one such periods)
. . what happens after that is 62, with all its attention to detail, it reminds me of micro-chiseling, fine-tuning . .
just brain storming here . . would love to hear some feedback, good or bad it doesn't matter, I'm just wondering if this line of thought could stand . . or not!

Thank you, Rodaki. Somehow your post got buried earlier but now I see it.

My 55.1 times have been when I accepted being helped by someone else. For example, my husband once extended himself to take me somewhere he thought would help me feel better.

The line is very charged for me with all sorts of meanings.

What you said about the honeymoon also has a lot of resonance for me, because there is such a special quality of this type of meeting that it could possibly include a honeymoon -- or a second honeymoon . . .

Although hexagram 55 usually has to do with a peak that might immediately precede a decline, doesn't it? There may be a crisis -- a health crisis, a money crisis . . . a crisis of worrying about something. We are urged not to be sad, but to be of a sunny disposition and manage the time well -- so as to preserve the abundance.

My husband has gotten sick again. He's been home sick now for over a week. It's a little odd, because it's clear that not only does he not want to go back to work, but perhaps he simply cannot. It does seem to be a crisis, therefore.

It does seem to be a crisis involving the ways we shelter each other, because just before he got sick, my back went out due to overwork. It's hard for us to shelter each other properly when we're both not feeling well, although temporarily we are coping, going out to get groceries. But obviously, some decisions are pending.

 

[rodaki]

hi Ginnie

really sorry about your troubles, I hope both you and your husband go through this as fast as possible . . it sounds like you are going through a culmination already, it must be very tiresome . . 'coping' did sound like 62 to me somehow . .

wishing you all the best with this!
Dora

 

[Trojina]

Although hexagram 55 usually has to do with a peak that might immediately precede a decline, doesn't it? There may be a crisis -- a health crisis, a money crisis . . . a crisis of worrying about something. We are urged not to be sad, but to be of a sunny disposition and manage the time well -- so as to preserve the abundance.

My husband has gotten sick again. He's been home sick now for over a week. It's a little odd, because it's clear that not only does he not want to go back to work, but perhaps he simply cannot. It does seem to be a crisis, therefore.

It does seem to be a crisis involving the ways we shelter each other, because just before he got sick, my back went out due to overwork. It's hard for us to shelter each other properly when we're both not feeling well, although temporarily we are coping, going out to get groceries. But obviously, some decisions are pending.

Oh dear, sorry to hear this. Lets hope it serves as an opportunity for you both together to work out one anothers 'shelter' needs. Hopefully your back will improve and he will improve but this episode, as a crisis, may spur him to reconsider necessary changes in environment and so on I know you have for so long wanted. Maybe this crisis provides an opportunity for change ? I know you live up on the 6th floor, with no elevator...surely he may now see this isn't ideal for the both of you and be more receptive to new ideas. If he is it sounds like an opportunity you should seize with both hands.

 

[ginnie]

Maybe this crisis provides an opportunity for change ?

Today I am thinking that I've gotten extremely preoccupied with something my husband is going through that he doesn't talk with me about. I sense his troubles because I'm his wife.

I feel troubled almost every day by his unspoken angst, and that's why I'm always thinking I should do something. Yi tells me there's really nothing I can do and to watch out for growing quarrelsome, out of frustration.

Yi seems to indicate he'll go back to his office: 13.4: He finds he cannot fight with them, so he climbs a high wall. By the way, I never used to ask the I Ching questions about what other people were thinking. Now I find I must, because he doesn't verbalize and this is affecting me, too.

As for myself, I asked: "What should be my major effort at this time (aside from avoiding contention)? The answer is H8 unchanging: holding together for purposes of mutual help.

No man is an island. You are your brother's keeper. Maybe I sound a little sarcastic. I'm sorry, but it's very exhausting to be in my position. Maybe I should tell my husband I want him to find a psychotherapist. Maybe I should find one myself. Even just getting out more with other people would be a big help. Staying home sick is for the birds.