Do I need to be worry, preoccupied and jealous?

[Mylife]

I asked the oracle a question about the relationship my husband has with his female colleague. They are very close and they spend a lot of time together, lunches, drinks, dinners. I have no reason to think something is up. He hasn’t changed towards me.

He quickly introduced me to her outside his office, when I went to pick him up to go somewhere together. My husband speaks about me and he shares things about us with her. They talk about her life too, her husband and relationship. she knows about me.

However, all this time together and this relationship started to make me feel a bit uneasy and I don’t know if is just me begging silly or something is up.

So with that in mind I asked the oracle “Do I need to be worry, preoccupied and jealous about the relationship between Djolan and S?”
I got 42.3 changing into 37.
I have difficulty interpreting 42 (increasing) in this contest and I need your help. Do you understand what the oracle is trying to tell me with 42.3 -37?
Thank you very much.

 

[marybluesky]

Hello;

First of all I don't think you shouldn't feel jealous. Every feeling exists for a reason and we're not supposed to be the cool, emotionless robots that the modern world expects us to be.

On 42.3 Bradford says:

Increase comes by way of unfortunate events
Avoid errors
Hold true and focused in conduct
Report to the prince, offer the jade credential

So the oracle confirms that you're going through an uneasy phase. You are advised to act true and inform the prince- your husband?

 

[Mylife]

Hello;

First of all I don't think you shouldn't feel jealous. Every feeling exists for a reason and we're not supposed to be the cool, emotionless robots that the modern world expects us to be.

On 42.3 Bradford says:

Increase comes by way of unfortunate events
Avoid errors
Hold true and focused in conduct
Report to the prince, offer the jade credential

So the oracle confirms that you're going through an uneasy phase. You are advised to act true and inform the prince- your husband?

I did make him aware. He says that I have no reason to feel the way I feel. But I can’t help it. Haha. This relationship it makes me uncomfortable.

 

[Mylife]

I know that just because it makes me uncomfortable it doesn’t mean there is something wrong about it.
But I can’t understand what the oracle means by 42.3-37.
Any insight from you?

 

[breakmov]

Hello Mylife.

what occurs to me is this:

I know that just because it makes me uncomfortable it doesn’t mean there is something wrong about it.
But I can’t understand what the oracle means by 42.3-37.
Any insight from you?

Nothing wrong. On the contrary, it shows how your being is right and very alert!

But a question arises: what does your Being ask you to increase?... and note well, not your ego but your Being?

The answer 42.3 > 37 says to consider increasing confidence in your husband, despite the situation being quite difficult for you (the ego) to accept.- The need to increase confidence in your husband despite the professional relationship with the female colleague who is also monopolizing your "family time and its quality".


Hex 42:

symbol:

“There are wind and thunder: Add. When noble people use it to see something good, they relocate to it. when there is excess, they modify themselves.”

Judgment:

“Add: there is taking from those above and adding to those below. The people enjoy it without boundaries.Those above are descending below. Their way is great and bright.”


line 3:
"In adding to itself, it is employed in an affair of misfortune. There is no blame. It is trustworthy. It acts with centrality. it informs the duke by employing the seal."

Have the perseverance to contribute with an Authentic Trust in your family (husband) despite this painful situation for you. If you do, it's a balanced act from your part and there is no blame. And you already know..... that Trust that communicates to your generous Heart (the Duke) with its Authenticity ("seal")

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[Trojina]

I asked the oracle a question about the relationship my husband has with his female colleague. They are very close and they spend a lot of time together, lunches, drinks, dinners. I have no reason to think something is up. He hasn’t changed towards me.

He quickly introduced me to her outside his office, when I went to pick him up to go somewhere together. My husband speaks about me and he shares things about us with her. They talk about her life too, her husband and relationship. she knows about me.

However, all this time together and this relationship started to make me feel a bit uneasy and I don’t know if is just me begging silly or something is up.

So with that in mind I asked the oracle “Do I need to be worry, preoccupied and jealous about the relationship between Djolan and S?”
I got 42.3 changing into 37.
I have difficulty interpreting 42 (increasing) in this contest and I need your help. Do you understand what the oracle is trying to tell me with 42.3 -37?
Thank you very much.

In your shoes I would feel uneasy yes. You say they have lunches, drinks and dinners. I mean sure a man can have female friends but this just sounds a bit too close to me. How would he feel if you were constantly having lunch, drinks and dinners with a male colleague of yours?

So I don't think you are being silly. Also why is she telling him about her relationship with her husband? Have you thought of a way to meet her husband and see what he thinks? I mean in a casual way, I don't mean make a big scene but you need to meet her husband because there's 2 victims here and the fact this woman discusses him with your husband is probably something her husband wouldn't love too much.

Do you actually need to worry? Yi says here there is a blessing in misfortune. So somehow this worry you have turns into some kind of blessing, you benefit long term from what is making you unhappy right now. I can have no clue as to how that might be, it's a bit of a mystery isn't it. How can you feeling jealous and insecure about this behaviour turn out in the end to bless you?


I don't know. Personally I don't trust the situation. The more time they spend together the more likely this will turn into an affair (that's my own view not Yi). I don't think it's fair on you. What does Yi say

'Blessing by means of unfortunate business.
Not a mistake.
With truth and confidence, moving to the centre,
Notify the prince with a jade baton.'

So Yi confirms there's 'unfortunate business' and yet there can be truth and confidence. Also there's communication here, it says to 'notify the prince'. I'm not sure what a 'jade baton' does but the feeling this answer gives me is you need to speak out about this but not with anger but also signalling you aren't going to be gaslighted. That is this is not going to go on under your nose and he makes you feel like you are crazy for worrying. If he is taking her for all these dinners and drinks and doesn't take you for drinks and dinners then that's just not okay is it?

I mean it does depend on the context of these drinks and dinners, if it's in work time and so on. But if at these drinks and dinners she talks about her husband then he may talk about you and why are they doing this? I think in your shoes I might try to get a foursome for dinner, her husband too. Why not, if they meet together often they should also bring their spouses sometimes. You might like her husband. Just thought what if you and her husband get together and like one another better than them that would be 42.3! Not very likely but still it's a good idea to have a little chat with her husband, casually, I think since if you are worried he must be worried too.