Ex problems..

[meganj]

What kind of role is my ex going to assume in our kids life?
60.3>5

I haven't heard from my ex this whole week since I found out, he's very indifferent.. Unbelieving "well see what the doctor says". My heart hurts because I feel maybe things are going to be difficult with him in the future..
Last night I had dinner with a friend and he said if he truly cared he would have been there for me.. Asked me how I was and how I was feeling.. But no there was nothing,
I fear of his selfishness and how this will cause problems in our future.
To gain insight into this complicated situated I decide to ask a few questions on how to handle things with him.
How does he feel about me being pregnant?
55
What role will my ex play in our lives (me and the baby's)?
33.4.5.6>17
What kind of person will he be towards me?
40
What is the best approach towards my ex?
48.1.6>9
Are things going to be difficult with him in the future?
48.2>39

Thanks

 

[meganj]

33.4.5.6>15 thanks

 

[moss elk]

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What role will my ex play in our lives? 33.4.5.6> 15
It seems to indicate that he intends to play a retreating or retiring role but, that he may do so in an honorable way; providing child support, assistance.
Any other opinions on this 33 answer?

What kind of person will he be towards me? 40
Gentle and forgiving.

What is the best approach towards my ex?
48.1.6> 9
48: Encourage him to do his duty of helping provide for the child.
line 1: Stop living in the past.
line 6: Be open and sincere and reliable.
9: improve yourself while waiting for events to unfold.(you can do this)

 

[eastern_girl]

Very, very short commentaries as there are many hexagrams here. Not one of these readings looks positive to me. Sorry to say that, but that's how I see it. Of course, all these answers Yi gave you could indicate events in the near future and nothing more. Things could change for the better in time...who knows? Nothing is definite in life, I think.

How does he feel about me being pregnant?
55
He feels overwhelmed.

What role will my ex play in our lives (me and the baby's)?
33.4.5.6>15
He won't be there for you. Hex 15: either it tells you to be realistic about the whole situation, or that he wants to somehow maintain integrity and correctness.

What kind of person will he be towards me?
40
He wants to move on, cut the ties with you.

What is the best approach towards my ex?
48.1.6>9
Not much you can do. Don't expect results too soon. I think this relationship is badly compromised. You need to look for support elsewhere or within yourself. You've got the internal resources to create a better future.

Are things going to be difficult with him in the future?
48.2>39
Yes.

Sorry to sound so pessimistic. Hope that I'm wrong. Maybe there's a positive side in these results and I'm not seeing it yet. I'm also curious to see other opinions.

 

[meganj]

Turns out the problems are not problems, as far as I can see.
We have both taken a mature stance and want to work together to overcome them.
We both understand what is needed of us, so the past put aside I think things should go well. He's VERY SUPPORTIVE and understanding. I told what I want and need. He agrees. I got a call from his mother today, we are going to keep in touch on a regular basis, hopefully become good friends. We both see it as very important for the baby to be involved in both our families with out a problem, I have no issues with him going to Newfoundland with our child in the future haha I say that because that was a concern for his mother... But taking things as they come. I do recognize that as a need though, and I am more than willing to comply. Basically he's my family now, his family is my family.. And my family is his family. Were going to be involved with each other for a very long time, so it's best to cooperate and do whats best for our child.
Basically we did have problems at first but I think he was a little doubtful and trying to be careful, I don't blame him because I was as well..
He is retiring in a noble way, offering support and assistance. Basically I said it's important for us to enjoy this time, I'm not going to be pregnant forever and we should just be happy! I just want what's best for both of us.
He has been very gentle and forgiving.. He's so happy

And the last one that is just brilliant advice, when I think you know what's best I totally felt this answer.
It's absolutely the right thing to do..

Although both perspectives of the readings did have their points, I think moss hit closer to home. It felt way more positive, and although both meanings were basically the same I took them different. One was the upside of the things the other was the downside, and thanks for that because I see both sides
Of the picture in a realistic way so as I can apply both.

Thanks!

 

[meganj]

Oh one more question I should add..
Does he still love me, in his heart ?
19.2.3.5.6> 37

I think he does in a way but he's still cautious and hesitant?
Of course I still do love him, and seeing this side of him and experiencing synchronicity is amazing.. I mean there's no guarantee it will stay like this forever but right now it's really good..
And maybe a fork in the road will change things but for now..

 

[moss elk]

Please share your take on this answer first.

Your current situation could make anyone worrisome but,
I have a suspicion that you spend much of your time in overdrive.

 

[meganj]

Yeah OCD, makes me think too much sometimes. I've gotten a lot better at coping though.. I was way worse before worrying about everything little thing.. I'm a lot more positive.

My take is he is cautious and hesitant..
Good fortune In lines of 19, misfortune in the 8th month if the advice is not heeded...
I think it should be smooth with him and slow.. 37 indicates family, we have that family like connection.. And that's true.
19.3 be careful and be good to him, even though it's warning me to be careful it also indicates good fortune if I am. Things are progressing.
19.5 don't think too long and hard about it.. Get someone to help me? Like his mom? ( she wants us back together )
19.6 maybe once we both reach that point of mutual understanding and were on the same page then we can finally move forward together and contemplate-20 if this is right for us?

 

[moss elk]

I know this must be difficult for you.

Yes he probably has some feelings for you, It is only natural
with friends and the .people who we get nude with.
But, your last question seemed like a desperate attempt to kindle a fire
he may not currently willing to be part of.

What your friend said before was true: if he truly cared for you in a big big way
(Which you seem to be wanting) he would personally be there for You
(Not just making arrangements for the child)

It takes two willing people to make a relationship work.
Getting married because of a pregnancy is not a good reason to marry!
I did it once, trying to be responsible, and it lasted nine years.
Nine unhappy years spent with a person that didnt really give a crap about me,
all for the love of the child. (Who I see almost daily now, to my great joy.)

We cannot bend another persons arm behind their back and make them love us.
That will only breed resentment. I am not saying that things could not work out between the two of you some day, im only saying you cannot force the issue. Over the next year you will probably have much contact with him and things may develop in the direction you desire. But I cannot caution you strongly enough to try and be aware if his heart is 110% into it, and if not, for you to summon up your dignity and move forward without him as difficult as that may be. Before I wrote this I asked yi what the best advice I could give about him was and I received 40 unchanging Liberation. (Just as you did when you asked about his intentions.)

The most important thing I feel I can say now is for you to steady your will and your nerves for the
good of the child, no matter what happens with the father.

Best wishes.

 

[meganj]

Yeah I was never the type of person to go with something that never felt right anyways.
I wouldn't even last 10 years to be honest haha id leave well before then.
Deep inside I do know what's best for me, my baby, and him.
If it's right then it'll hAppen, if it's not it won't and that is for the best. I believe my kid can be happy even if me and his dad are not together. I'll say a prayer, and let things go. I love him but I know it's right to just allow things to unfold how they will.

Thanks moss you really helped me put things in perspective today. I can't forget what happened in the past and I don't want to return to the same relationship. I'm happy though cuz I'm going to be a mom
And a great one at that.
I always put 110% of my love in relationship, well now I can put all my love in my kid and know that no matter what I can't fail at that.

Megan xx

 

[moss elk]

Congratulations,

And

Congratulations!

 

[meganj]