hexagram 11.3.6<41 and 7.4<40

[telesfora]

I've met a person on internet one month ago and I am perplexed as he is interesting and caring but conversation just does not flow, I don't feel close to him. We met a few times and he sends me messages several times a day. I don’t want to be too demanding and anxious in relationships, so I am trying to be more open. But I don’t know if I should just stop if I don’t feel close.
It’s all about how to deal with my rigidity and follow or not instincts.
I asked: How we are together now, X and me?
Received 11.3.6<41
11.3 “Accepting good and bad both is the best way of coping with fate” LiSe’s site. Means that if I don’t feel it then it’s OK? but then trying to accept our differences or no?
11.6 is also about letting go beliefs, and to submit to fate, do nothing? (I consulted James de Korne’s interpretation.)
Then: Should I meet him to see if we get closer and not listen to my feelings?
Received 7.4<40
7.4 is about letting go, have a break?
Thanks a lot for any insight, I would really appreciate it!

 

[slowcheetah]

11.3 usually says something like "nothing lasts forever". Both that line and hex 41 seems to point out that something's coming to an end. Could this mean that the chemistry between you is fading away?

7.4 couldn't necessarily mean to drop it: perhaps you just need to back off a little to think things through and be ready to take action (hex 7)

 

[telesfora]

Dear Slowcheetah, thanks a million for your feedback. Indeed we have no chemistry but also the emotional-intellectual connection isn’t too strong either as he has a reserved personality and I feel distance between us. So you are right with your interpretation!
My problem is that I don’t want to have too high expectations but in the past I found myself with men who were really not suitable for me and now I don’t know if I can trust my instincts or no.
Thanks a lot for your time and interpretation, I was very happy to find your answer!