hexagram 13.1.6>31

[tifa]

Hello everyone,

A friend of mine is very much attracted to one of her co-worker. They are in good terms and would often hang out for drinks after work. There is some flirting going on, but she has been receiving mixed signals from him.

well she could make a move or post the question, "dude, are you interested in me? can we be more than friends or co-worker?"

But, she's a little nervous that things get messy, etc. And I have encouraged her to ask Yi regarding her situation.

" Is he attracted to me?" - Hex 13.1.6>31

"Is he going to ask me out on a date?" - Hex 12.6>45

The two casts appear encouraging to me. But, I might be wrong, especially in Hex 13.6 - moving out of fellowship. Does that imply moving out of friendship and entering a romantic relationship?

Would like to hear your views!

thanks in advance.

 

[gene]

tifa

As far as the reading goes, while hexagram thirteen generally refers more to friendship, hexagram thirty one refers more to attraction between the sexes. I would say the prognosis is good. The key here I think in line one is the commentary in which it is said, "The basic principles of any kind of union must be equally accessible to all concerned." In this particular case I feel that the idea is that either one of you are in a position where you could make a move, i.e. be open and responsive to each other.

One thing to remember is that there is much less danger for a woman to be open and straight with a man than there is for a man, as he has to be very sure his interest is receptive, especially at work, where he could lose his job. Men are much more used to direct approach than women. They appreciate direct communication. Line six says, "No remorse." Which indicates to me no need for fear of expressing yourself.

Hexagram 31 shows a great deal of positivity in this respect.

Hexagram twelve line six just says, "first standstill, then good fortune." It may be that you have to make the first move as there is far too much danger for a man in the workplace to assume interest when it may not be there, even if it appears to be there. Until there is clear communication there is standstill, then when the air is cleared, good fortune.

Gene

 

[ginnie]

Aren't you a little afraid of what might happen if an intimate relationship begins but does not work out? One of you would probably have to find a new job. For this reason, aren't we generally advised to stay within the boundaries of friendship or fellowship with our co-workers? If he seems cool, this is probably the reason and there is plenty of good sense to it.

 

[troubadour]

Tifa my understanding of Hexagram 13 is that in each line it describes relationships/friendships of various kinds in which there are always limits, ie, something important is missing and so never quite allows a strong romantic relationship to develop.

Some commentators say that romance can grow from the relationships described in the lines of Hexagram 13 but I don't really understand why they do that. It's all about friendship without great intimacy.

So I suggest Hexagram 31 as the relating Hexagram describes the type of romantic connection your friend wishes to emerge with her co-worker but the changing lines of 13 say that this is not going to happen.

I hope I am wrong!

On the other hand 12.6 means in my opinion that something good could be going to develop, a relationship which can be lived out in public rather than as an office hook-up on the downlow. In fact I wonder if Hexagram 45 isn't suggesting some sort of public occasion. Or maybe just drinks after work with other co-workers?

My thoughts, for what they are worth - and I wish your friend the best.

 

[tifa]

Thanks for your posts. I have talked to my friend about it and she has been receiving positive signals from him, but to her, it's seems difficult to judge.. he is from the mediterranean. Ain't they are supposed to be more straight to the point? "I like you, let's hang out"

Well i have interpreted for my friend that when two end moving lines ( 1 and 6) are moving, it means the the hexagram transit fairly quickly... touch and go and enter the resultant hexagram. And hex 12.6 further support the interpretation. It does suggest a green light.

However, I think she is overly concern about misinterpreting " signals" from him... He might be just being friendly ... and when she asked, how does he feels about her? She received Hex 50.6

Not sure if I would interpret as being more than a co-worker, but deifnitely someone he thinks highly of.

Would love to hear more of your thoughts.

thanks!
T

P.S: just read troubadour's reply. Thanks!

 

[ginnie]

... and when she asked, how does he feels about her? She received Hex 50.6

He thinks her heart is in the right place and she's an OK sort of person.

 

[kash]

I don't have much experience interpreting readings where you ask about what someone else is thinking or feeling apart from the querent (I've been taught it's bad practice to do that and found in my experience that it doesn't always yield very useful results) but I'm going to try reading it as that.

I wouldn't see 13 > 31 as an indication that he is interested in her romantically. The first line says to me that he is an open and friendly person who makes friends easily with everyone around him.
The 6th line points to a fellowship with people cause they happen to be in your area but not going beyond into actual fellowship. Either way, as people have commented here, 13 generally has a feel of platonic relationships, rather than romantic ones. Quite apt to get it about a work colleague as I think I've read somewhere once that it's to do with that sort of cooperation.