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Since she told me this, I have been going through a major upheaval inside, and decided to rent a separate apartment for a couple of months to give me some space from the situation and help her clarify what she wants-- recommit or go off and be single?
Which brings me to my reading this morning. I asked the YI whether it was wrong of me to give in to her insistence that I stay last night, though I was really upset and felt a strong need to remove myself from the madness. I drew 31, Wooing, with no moving lines. Any suggestions as to what this may be trying to convey to me?
What I hear is that your girlfriend needs more stimulation (31), more adventure.
The trigrams of hexagram 31 are the youngest son and the youngest daughter.
Your gf wants to be 'young', she is not ready to settle down yet. She could try but if she did that she would feel that she skipped an important part of her life.
I don't think that the Yi gives a direct answer here. The Yi only gives the theme, "look, this is the situation, young man and young woman", something like that.
The Yi doesn't say that it was wrong to stay with her that night. Or right for that matter. Or that it is wrong or right to live with her now.
That is not the issue and the Yi knows it (of course ) and your girlfriend knows it too.
If you can allow her to be young now, and allow yourself to be young too, that probably solves the problem.
Perhaps talk it over with her?
As for toughening up and "being a man", I'm...um, a woman, actually. But I think the point is still valid.
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