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Hexagram 33.1.3.4 to 42. A complicated relationship

MrFauno

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Hello. A few months ago I met a girl. The attraction we had was very strong, but she was very emotionally broken. Two months before meeting her, she was raped by one of her best friends. Even knowing her emotional state, we decided to continue. What we lived together was very strong for me, I felt reflected in what happened to her, when I was twelve years old I was raped.

I got her a therapist specialized in these cases that did not charge any money to her, I accompanied her to make the police report. She sometimes had days where she was better and sometimes she had days where she just wanted to cry and I stayed with her, hugging her, listening to her or helping her with her house. As expected one day she decided to cut the relationship because she did not feel prepared. We broke in good terms, but she told me she didn't want any contact. I respect all her decisions. Months went by and she started sending me messages, someones thanking me and others with simple trivialities. Everytime I answered her messages she avoid me, she simply ignored me for days and then, out of nowhere she sent another message, pretending that I had never responded and the situation continued like this in an eternal cycle of reciving messages but not having a response when I text back.
The situation became very painful for me, so I wrote her explaining that her attitude was hurting me and I communicated my decision to block her from all my social networks. Although I make that decision I still love her and I feel things for her.

So I asked Yi "Will the relationship with her be rebuilt in the future?" and I received hexagram 33 mutating to 42. Clearly 33 is the current situation, but I am having troubles interpreting the mutation towards 42
Thanks for taking the time of reading me! I hope somebody can help me to understand what Yi is telling me.

P.S. Sorry if I have writing errors, English is not my mother tongue and I had to help myself with online translators
 

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Hi there

Your English to me is quite good for it not to be a first language.
Smaller paragraphs when writing can make things easier to read. (just a tip)

The way I see the path is this or the path suggested by the oracle.

Line one is advising you to stay calm, possibly be more of a listener than the talker.
I am thinking because its a new relationship first impressions are everything.
So if you come on too strong you will blow it
Legge: The first line, magnetic, shows a retiring tail. The position is perilous. No movement in any direction should be made.

Line three I believe is advising you that this situation at times may not be easy. In what way I am not sure, it could simply mean that the situation is frustrating. You will be the only one to know that. Also, remember that the future is not written in stone. This is just a suggested scenario.

Line Four, i believe is the key and the final step to Hexagram 42
Wilhelm/Baynes: Voluntary retreat brings good fortune to the superior man and downfall to the inferior man.

It appears that your will power could be really tested. For example, making a move too soon.

In summary, remember the hexagram is about retreating. Retreating can be gaining power or there is power in retreat. In essence, you are saving strength to possibly fight another day. So, the lines appear to be that if you a patient, act like a gentleman there is a chance you may win her over and the cards may fall your way.

Lastly, you need to decide are you prepared to do that, good luck

Steve
 

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Thank you Steve
Your reading is enlightening. The sense of withdrawal is to ask myself what I want to face in the future.

Maybe I act fast, I stopped following her on Instagram, but I didn't delete her from my list of followers. I wrote a poem that is partly inspired by it and partly inspired by my past journey in other relationships and decided to upload it to my account. I think she may have read it and felt that I could be talking about her.

What is done, done and my withdrawal is essentially firm, I do not talk to her or search her. If this is a test, maybe I dont get the highest calification, but I can keep trying to delve into myself, grow and let grow

I feel that somehow I made peace with this situation even without fully understanding Yi. Perhaps it is best not to fully understand what is happening at this time, get carried away by withdrawal and sustain inner peace no matter what. Better times are coming, only they still can't be seen
 

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Hi

yes, my interpretation, may be I am wrong as the lines could be more about you than the situation itself. However, I can't help thinking if you let things evolve slowly who knows. It's strange that she wants to have no contact then send messages. That sounds like she is confused on some level.

Either way, a retreating process is in order and leads to better times.

Steve
 

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