Hexagram 45 to 6: About renting an Airbnb for an upcoming trip

[JJ_Yichings]

Hi everyone! I'm looking for insight into a reading I've just cast about an upcoming trip. I've been looking at suitable Airbnbs that would be comfortable enough to host me and a couple of friends. I've been caught between two. One is much smaller, a bit cheaper, but the host seems reliable and responsive. They were quick to reply to an enquiry I made and are on the ball/sound friendly. The other one, which I am more interested in as it is twice the size and can fit a larger party, would better suit a longer-term stay (I'll be there for 20+ days), but the host, despite reading the messages I have sent, has not responded to the same enquiry I made. That is rather strange considering that this will make or break whether I book and is a simple question to answer (I asked both hosts if there would be heating and hot water because their listings had those two things scratched out under amenities).

The first responded to say that the flat comes fully equipped and will have hot water and heating to my heart's content. I was really just looking for the second host to validate in a similar way. There is nothing in the reviews to suggest that anyone's struggled with a lack of heat/hot water, but then again, I couldn't find any reviews going past October when the weather is still mild.. whereas I'll be there mid-December through to January and it will be cold...

So I asked Yi, "Is the charming flat I'm interested in going to be suitable for my needs? In other words should I book?" At first I got 42 unchanging. "Increase" on its own really wasn't telling me anything... it kind of seemed to suggest that going ahead would be fine and no harm would come of it, but as with many unchanging readings, this was still hard to make sense of. I asked for clarification and got hexagram 45 with lines 2 and 6 moving.

Line 2: "Letting oneself be drawn brings good fortune and remains blameless. If one is sincere, it furthers one to bring even a small offering". This line seems very promising and I take it to mean that as a gesture of good faith, I should still go ahead and book even though I never got the courtesy of a reply. Booking this place would come at a risk by the way as it is non-refundable, in comparison to the other smaller flat which allows me to cancel and get a full refund up until the day before I travel!).

Line 6: "Lamenting and sighing, floods of tears. No blame". This does not sound so great though, and I really don't know what to make of it. In the description it still says that this is the right course of action and that someone will come to their senses and hence the sought after alliance and what is "painfully missed" is achieved afterall. However I really want to sense check this with you all because at first glance, the inclusion of this line does not leave me optimistic.

Neither does the fact that the relating hexagram is 6: Conflict!

Could this mean something that while I don't agree with the approach the host has taken so far (to just ignore a potential guest) and, I should put my feelings about that aside, have some faith and book.. and while the uncertainty will keep me on edge, at the end of the day, it'll all be Ok and I should avoid making an issue out of it?

Would really appreciate some quick reactions if possible as I'd like to secure a place before it's too late. Thanks, everyone!

 

[my_key]

Hi JJ_YiChings

So I asked Yi, "Is the charming flat I'm interested in going to be suitable for my needs? In other words should I book?" At first I got 42 unchanging. "Increase" on its own really wasn't telling me anything... it kind of seemed to suggest that going ahead would be fine and no harm would come of it, but as with many unchanging readings, this was still hard to make sense of.

42 Increasing
Powered from underneath by 23 Stripping Away.
Perhaps the answer is something like :
Whether the flat is suitable for your 'needs' or not will depend on whether you set the level of your 'needs' appropriately high or just plain too high. If you are being too needy then the flat may well fall short, Striping Away some of your 'needs' might increase the chance of you seeing this as suitable.
You might like to consider that 'charming' is not something that you really need.

Always endeavour to clear the fog around true needs and nice to have, or even exaggerated, wants. Inflating wants into needs will never balance the equation and is never profitable. Perhaps you have to cross a few rivers, as the judgement suggests, to find that balance here.

I asked for clarification and got hexagram 45 with lines 2 and 6 moving.

45 <> 6
'Bringing Together' through 'Contention'

Consider the background to your dilemma as being one of Contention (6) - heated disagreement. Yi is specifically providing you with the clarification that even in the midst of heated disagreement through careful and measured negotiation with yourself you will be able to bring together the two sides of your internal argument to a place of better accord.

Remember, better internal accord naturally leads to better external accord.

45.2 - Give a bit, let go! Good fortune will come as the two opposing forces move increasingly closer to a new point of balance.

45.6 - The wisdom here lies in recognising that the responsibility for determining and negotiating how suitability is established is all yours. You'll do your best, that's a given, and so there is no fault in all this. Even if you end up, through your own words and behaviours, cutting off your nose to spite your face, you will have done the best you could this time.

... of course, other interpretations may carry more meaning for you.

Good Luck

 

[Liselle]

Why would you pay money to rent a place that doesn't have heat and hot water in the wintertime? Is it meant to be more like camping, and you're booking it out of season or something? (45.2 does mention a summer offering - at least some people translate it "summer," including Hilary - but I don't know how literally Yi might intend that.)

42 can mean make more of an effort, pour more in. Also, the Image has to do with making needed improvements and changes.
'Wind and thunder: Increasing.
A noble one sees improvement, and so she changes.
When there is excess, she corrects it.'

45.6 - making a horrendous fuss is "not a mistake." How you'd make a more horrendous fuss, I don't know. Is there a phone number? Could you be more peevish? "If you don't respond to me by x time, I won't book" - ? Put that in the subject line in all-caps? (Making things up.)

I mean, you might not normally want to be like that, but 45.6 seems to give you permission.

I should put my feelings about that aside, have some faith and book.. and while the uncertainty will keep me on edge, at the end of the day, it'll all be Ok and I should avoid making an issue out of it?

If it were me I would do none of that, with this reading. Find out, get the information, or don't stay there.

Also, just on general non-Yi principles, I'd be wary of a host you can't get hold of.

 

[JJ_Yichings]

Thanks @my_key -- by the way I only used the term "charming" as that is how it was described in the listing (the host's own words, not mine) and I thought to be specific with Yi so that it would understand which of the flats I was referring to (probably an unnecessary detail). In other words, the host seems to think it is charming. haha. I think it may be less so if whoever stays in it freezes .
I am honestly not looking for anything extravagant...in fact this is practically the only decent looking place that I can afford and it is still a bit over budget. Arguably, it's a lot of money for someone who is looking to save... and I guess that is why there was apprehension in my cast and annoyance at not having all the info I want to make a comfortable decision.

I read somewhere in the thread on 42uc that it shows anxiety upon asking about a situation that probably doesn't warrant it. In all honesty, there is nothing extravagant or luxurious about my expectations- this isn't meant to be a luxury retreat. I'm just looking for some very basic things. I would hardly call heating and hot water me striving for something unreasonable or too high... it kind of feels like a basic need and I guess I was disheartened at the lack of response from the host.

I do see what you are saying though and appreciate the perspective that suitability is a matter of perception-- If I focus too much on the imperfections (or the unknowns/vagueness in this case), that detracts from the potential to enjoy all the other good things that come with it, and I do believe there are more good things to enjoy like the general space and additional rooms.

The idea of contentious conflict is interesting though. 45.6 talks about speaking your truth/expressing your complaints too, and notes that that act may make a difference in achieving the result one was looking for all along. However, I've also seen other interpretations also here on Clarity saying that it either doesn't tend to end well when there is another person involved, or almost certainly ends in tears... I don't know.

From reading the reviews of this place, I can see that this host has had a couple of uncomfortable run-ins with a couple of guests before. Circling back to the idea that suitability is subjective, one guest had wrote in their review that cleanliness was an issue for them and that they decided to cancel after checking in because of it and after the host decided not to take their pictures ("evidence") seriously. All subjective. The host was quite clear in their response, sticking to their guns. It may be dated and give the appearance of uncleanliness, but it's clean- this is not a 5* hotel*.
Others (the majority) had no complaints, thought it was fabulous and they were sad to leave!

 

[JJ_Yichings]

Why would you pay money to rent a place that doesn't have heat and hot water in the wintertime? Is it meant to be more like camping, and you're booking it out of season or something? (45.2 does mention a summer offering - at least some people translate it "summer," including Hilary - but I don't know how literally Yi might intend that.)

42 can mean make more of an effort, pour more in. Also, the Image has to do with making needed improvements and changes.
'Wind and thunder: Increasing.
A noble one sees improvement, and so she changes.
When there is excess, she corrects it.'

45.6 - making a horrendous fuss is "not a mistake." How you'd make a more horrendous fuss, I don't know. Is there a phone number? Could you be more peevish? "If you don't respond to me by x time, I won't book" - ? Put that in the subject line in all-caps? (Making things up.)

I mean, you might not normally want to be like that, but 45.6 seems to give you permission.


If it were me I would do none of that, with this reading. Find out, get the information, or don't stay there.

Also, just on general non-Yi principles, I'd be wary of a host you can't get hold of.

hey @Liselle Full transparency: I'm going to a country that has regular electricity and gas cuts. Some homes will only ever enjoy 3 hours of electricity a day and have to make do in other ways/ source their energy themselves. However, this is not usually the case in more affluent areas like where these two flats happen to be. I am quite familiar with the city- I'm from there actually (but it would be too complicated to stay with my family and friends for other reasons. I did look into that first of course).
There is always going to be a risk that a host is unable to fulfill a guest's request for, say, 24/7 electricity unless they have their own dedicated motor. Most foreigners will be on the lookout for accommodation like that- as you rightly pointed out: why would you stay somewhere that doesn't have the basics?
Some places will go the extra mile to make it happen, at a cost. Others use a combination of solar and there will be limitations with that. Certain appliances may only be used during certain hours, but not others, and depending on the type of person you are and what you plan to do during your stay, these things may or may not be important or a non-issue. It can go many ways!

Anyway, here's an interesting development: I decided to take a leap of faith and book- I paid extra to enable the ability to cancel and get a full refund if I needed to. Unfortunately, however, and about a minute ago the host cancelled my reservation and explained that the apartment is being used by family at the moment, and she can't rent it out before January. That begs the question of why she didn't block out that time in her calender.. and all the fuss for nothing in the end! She could have saved herself and myself the hassle by responding to my original inquiry 5 days ago and again today ...

The other flat it is! Because I'm really all out of choices now

 

[Liselle]

Good grief. She should label her listings, "Does Not Have Act Together."

(She's not the only one, but I don't charge for it.)