Hexagram 60.5 Should I introduce my two friends?

[giraffecloud]

I shall use fake names for this. This is the question I asked. Would it be good for Fred if I set him up with Patricia? My friend Patricia asked me to set her up with any single male friends I have by inviting them with other friends for drinks. I have a guy in mind but recently she was invited to a camping event by a mutual friend Georgina. Patricia had angered Georgina by inviting 20 people over Facebook event page. I didn't see this but Georgina told me that Patricia had invited 20 men. I don't know if that was an exaggeration but it feels like a red flag so I don't know about setting Patricia up with any friends.

Hexagram 60 (measurement) is like when I'm cooking, I do it cautiously. So caution is the theme here, in my opinion.

Changing line 5 says "Sweet measures, good fortune. Going on brings honour". Now, I think measures means caution but at the same time "going on" seems to imply that taking action would be good.

Hexagram 19 makes me consider that something good could come of matching them but it wouldn't last very long.

 

[dfreed]

This is the question I asked: Should I introduce my two friends? Response: Hexagram 60.5

I'd say go for it. Line 60.5 reads, Satisfactory juncture. Leaving means receiving.

So I'd say, introduce them (an invitation to a juncture - or to meet), and then leave it to them to decide how it turns out ('leaving means receiving').

This is the coming together of 60's upper trigram (three line figure) Moving Water - the middle son; with Still Water / Lake - the youngest daughter. It could turn out that this is a 'bitter juncture' (Hex. 60 statement) or a satisfactory one! It's really up to your friends how this turns out, and how real they make it.

As a practical caution, I'd tell both of your friends that you are not offering any promises, and that they can not blame you or get angry at you if things don't work out. And if Patricia invites 21 guys to a FB 'event' - heck, what harm can one more guy do at a virtual event? And who knows, in the spirit of the Daoist Farmer, maybe your guy friend and Georgina will meet and fall in love - and they will name their first child after you!

Best, D

 

[redoleander]

This answer puzzles me a bit. It seems like you can introduce them but there need to be rules or something. Funny, for adults. Perhaps it's a very short and sweet meet with a clear start and end time, to just have drinks or play a quick game or something. Then you can check in with Fred and see if he's actually interested in really being set up or if just meeting her briefly was enough. Something along those lines. Maybe telling Patricia not to invite 20 men?

 

[giraffecloud]

So far I have plans to arrange drinks at a different mutual friend of mine and Patricia's. I was thinking it would be good to invite Fred because he has common interests with said mutual friend's partner as well as an opportunity to meet Patricia. That could work as a clear start and end time. Redoleander, that's hilarious! I never thought the hexagram would be telling me to set limitations for Patricia but if I say it for a joke then I'll find out if she did or not.

I'd say go for it. Line 60.5 reads, Satisfactory juncture. Leaving means receiving.

And if Patricia invites 21 guys to a FB 'event' - heck, what harm can one more guy do at a virtual event? And who knows, in the spirit of the Daoist Farmer, maybe your guy friend and Georgina will meet and fall in love - and they will name their first child after you!

Best, D

I like your description of moving water with still water. Your warning is interesting though what with Hexagram 19 having themes of responsibility. I certainly don't want to be blamed for misfortune but like the Daoist Farmer story, luck is a relative concept. Just so you know, it wasn't a virtual event. It was an event page for going camping.

 

[giraffecloud]

I've discovered why the Yi was telling me to set limitations. One of my guests who is already in a relationship has invited other single people without consulting me first.