How Do I Move On?

[private_matinee]

How Should I Move On In Regards To ____?
In regards to an ex...

I got #64 Wei Ji.
I had moving lines on 3 and 4...

I realize this may not have been the best way to form my question but I'd like to hear any thoughts you may have on how it may pertain to my situation. Any questions would also be great.

 

[patro]

hi,
you got hex 64 with 3,4th lines changing... is that right?
well if it's so... 64 change in hex 18
to got hex 50 as second hex... the first hex must be hex 4
this make a great difference....
please tell me if I'm right or wrong

 

[meng]

going to wait on Patro's response from PM..

 

[meng]

I'm thinking the reading was likely 64, line 3, to 50.

But I lost the post I copied for 64-50. We'll see what PM says.

 

[private_matinee]

Eek. I was wondering why everyone was writing out their readings in a special format... Guess I should have dug a bit deeper to figure it out. I'm not sure exactly what Patro is asking for?

Lines 3 and 4 moving. One yin (3rd) and one yang (4th).
Consult only the yin moving line. Pay close attention to the yao text for this line and consult the approached gua, it will represent your outcome.

 

[patro]

I'm sorry,
but I never heard about this method... under which name is it known?

if you are using the traditional one... you got 64 changing in 18 and not 50

 

[private_matinee]

Nevermind then. I must have read my book wrong. :/ It's hard to do on your own, hah.

I'll edit the above then. Cause now I'm extra lost.

 

[patro]

you can't act alone... you can only act helped from someone... trying to "move on" alone will be end in a disaster... you not have the requested resources!!
you also must act with goodwill and commitment....
you have to remove everything that is superfluous and wrong and having to correct mistakes.
patro

 

[private_matinee]

So the traditional way is to flip both moving lines to their opposites?
Do you just ignore the original gua (#64) and focus on the other (#18)?

My book I Ching by Alfred Huang says:
1. If there are two moving lines-- one yin and the other yang-- consult only the yin moving line.
2. If the two moving lines are both yin or both yang, consult the lower one.
3. If there are 3 moving lines, consult only the middle.
4. If there are four moving lines, consult only the upper of the two nonmoving lines.
5. If there are five moving lines, consult only the other, nonmoving line.
6. If there are six moving lines see the Decision of the new gua, the approached gua.
7. Since there is a seventh invisible line in the first and second gua, Qian and Kun, for these gua consult the seventh Yao Text, called All Nines or All Sixes.

 

[patro]

this are all interesting info...
but he only talk about "to consider/ to read" one line or the other one...
but the method is only related to the reading technique,
to achieve the final hex you must consider all the lines that affect the change!!!

 

[diamanda]

You've had hexagram 64, 'not yet', however with 2 changing lines you are sort
of departing from that. This describes a state of something not over yet, and
the moves made to move away from this uncertain state. Line 3 describes how
one carefully prepares the crossover, and line 4 describes how one employs all
means they've got, they 'wage war' and do their utter best to succeed. And yet
the resulting hexagram is 18, either Decay, or Detoxifying, or any shades in
between. If the question in your mind was in fact 'how to get back together',
that would sound extremely difficult. If the question in your mind was how to
get over that person, then you'll really need to try very hard, and remove
what's decayed. I'm sorry to say it sounds like a quite heavy answer to me,
wishing you all the best nevertheless!

 

[private_matinee]

Thank you both for your time and input.

 

[private_matinee]

Before I was throwing coins I was just picturing myself under a sky with clouds of options that I couldn't really define. We had only been together for about 6 months when it started feeling like we were going two different directions (fire and water, eh?).. I basically just stopped talking to him altogether and he didn't make contact. He's older, has a daughter and is very independent. I felt like a fox who had realized she'd got her tail wet, basically.

I still had this panging feeling inside that made me wonder if I should say more, try to find out what exactly what happened and move to fix it or just withdraw altogether after about a month or two of no contact. I sent him a text asking how he'd been and he replied "Last time I checked you forgot who I was". I apologized for my lack of mindfulness and skillfulness and that was all...silence.

He was the one who introduced me to the I Ching. Fittingly, I asked the I Ching how I should move forward in regards to him. Another month later he texted me saying he'd had a dream about me and saw me in town and wanted to know what was up.

Needless to say this has brought the panging feeling back. We've talked about the I Ching and my answers and he asked me what I plan to do. I said I was looking for a balance between my will and that of the universe. He mentioned he's not ready to ask any questions from it because he feels he isn't humble enough to accept the answers, especially if they aren't what he wants to hear..

It seems that I'm being told it's inappropriate to continue further with him and that I should use this panging feeling to make things right as a guide for my future interactions with others as it will serve in a greater way. Ku is about observing what has decayed and the cause of it. The Nuclear Hexagram also seems to go along with restoring order and being careful to not revert back.

Thanks for reading.